To feel weird on girls/mum night out

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I never go on them anymore, I’m mid forties but with a 5 year old dc, so many of my friends are a bit younger-mid-late 30’s, it’s not a huge difference, I'm not dowdy by any means. Before Dd, I travelled lots, went to festivals, parties etc and Dh and I really lived. Since Dd, it’s obviously slowed down, I meet with friends for play dates or lunches etc and we have drinks, but kids are always with us.
Went on a night out and whilst nice, I just felt a bit weird, standing in a bar at 1am doing shots chatting to guys (platonic, friend of one of my friends) was a weird feeling.
i came away feeling good, but also like I’d missed loads of living but also like I don’t know if I cba to do it again 😂
Am I just too old now? (depressing thought)
How often do you have girls nights out, if you do?

I'm 44, have an 11 and 9 yr old. I hardly ever go out. I just can't be bothered! I'd much rather have a nice cup of tea in bed!!

I work hard in the week and have busy evenings and weekends with DH and the DCs I just always crave sleep and chill time. I occasionally go out (like once or twice a year) with mum friends - but it will be v low key .. a pub and meal and chat then home! Haven't been clubbing for about 20yrs! (But then, I was always more of a pub and chat person, than a dance it up person!)

It’s not an age thing, I’m early 30s and have hated nights like that for a long time 😄

I'm 43 and I rarely go out. If I go out now it's usually with my grown up children, and even then as one of them has children it can be quite tricky with babysitters.

I'm 39 and done with nights out. My best friend has recently became single after 11 years of marriage, I feel bad because her only friends are me and her other best friend but we are both married with 9 kids between us and we are so over nights out. A couple of month ago we decided to just bite the bullet and go out to our closest town with clubs because she was feeling so down. It was horrific! felt so old and out of place and I really cba about drinking that much. I'll happily go party's or to my local pups 90s night and have a dance and a drink but as for clubs no chance I don't care who wants a rebound big night out I won't do it.

@Hawkins0001 it still makes no sense whatsoever. "Random meets"? "Company pond"?

As a friendship group our nights out are pretty rare now but when the do happen they're so much fun.

I've got three nights planned in nov:Dec this year for Christmas do's and already looking forward to them. I think I enjoy them
More though as they don't happen often.

Love a girls night out! I'm 45 and love going out dancing til the early hours most of my friends are a little bit younger but mainly turning 40 this year.
We still do shots and party hard! Only difference is it's every couple of months rather than every weekend and it takes me a lot longer to get over!

I was offering my perspective that for me I prefer a good book and a cuppa or YouTube documentary, in contrast to going clubbing or a pub and meeting random strangers, when in contrast if you wanted to met and have a meal or a night out its better for your friendship group for me to build the friends from the company as at least then you know who's who and what their personalities are etc.

Apologies for the missing context, hopefully that adds extra context.