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Partner called me a c*** and f-ing b****

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Whatislifegw · 24/07/2023 19:20

am I in the wrong

partner and I were play fighting I tickled his neck and he was bent over and then pinched the back of my leg which went up and accidentally kneed him in the eye which is when he started swearing and shouting at me for an accident.

I think his language is disgusting and not acceptable no matter what happened and he is angry because I refused to apologise for accidentally kneeing him after he started swearing at me.

am I in the wrong?

we’ve had arguments in the past about his language use and tbh I feel like just saying we’re not meant to be together and I’ve had enough.

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Coyoacan · 25/07/2023 02:11

I haven't sworn in years but I expect I would if I was kneed in the eye

StartupRepair · 25/07/2023 02:19

Are your happy your child is hearing that kind of language in the home? Doesn't sound like there is any mutual respect between you and your partner.

QueenBitch666 · 25/07/2023 02:54

Your poor son. The pair of you need to grow up

WhereTheSuburbsMeetUttoxeter · 25/07/2023 02:57

AutumnCrow · 24/07/2023 19:27

When Play Fighting Goes Bad

It will end in tears!

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 25/07/2023 07:51

Calling someone names when it was a silly accident, especially calling your partner a cunt or a bitch? Come on. The bar is on the floor.

Not everyone considers those words to be particularly offensive though.

I would probably call DH a dickhead if he kneed me in the face like that - imo that's no different to calling someone a bitch. I would also be really angry if someone kneed me in the face and refused to apologise for it - imo, that's much ruder then swearing 🤷‍♀️

Hufflemuff · 25/07/2023 07:59

Look... there are people on MN who will insist you leave your partner because they forgot to do the bloody washing up!! So don't listen to all that tosh, it will only make you feel worse and make a mountain out of a molehill.

He lashed out in pain, just calmly talk to him today about how the language made you feel, even though it was in response to pain and he was likely in a fight or flight mode. If you feel like you're not meant to be for other reasons then fair enough, but don't let this become a big thing if deep down its not that big of a deal.

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 25/07/2023 08:23

Jesus Christ. Your child has just witnessed his dad pinching his mum, his mum kneeing his dad in the face. His dad calling his mum a cunt and a fucking bitch and nobody apologising.

Stop with the ridiculous 'play' fighting, because that turned into a real fight.

Play fighting always ends in tears. Probably your child's in this case.

Aquamarine1029 · 25/07/2023 12:21

Hufflemuff · 25/07/2023 07:59

Look... there are people on MN who will insist you leave your partner because they forgot to do the bloody washing up!! So don't listen to all that tosh, it will only make you feel worse and make a mountain out of a molehill.

He lashed out in pain, just calmly talk to him today about how the language made you feel, even though it was in response to pain and he was likely in a fight or flight mode. If you feel like you're not meant to be for other reasons then fair enough, but don't let this become a big thing if deep down its not that big of a deal.

Her partner calling her a cunt and a fucking bitch in front of their child is a very, very big deal. And a bit of pain is NO excuse. He could have sworn, of course, but this goes way beyond what is acceptable. FFS, your standards are rock bottom.

Janieforever · 25/07/2023 12:58

Aquamarine1029 · 25/07/2023 12:21

Her partner calling her a cunt and a fucking bitch in front of their child is a very, very big deal. And a bit of pain is NO excuse. He could have sworn, of course, but this goes way beyond what is acceptable. FFS, your standards are rock bottom.

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As is him pinching her, her kneeing him in the face, her refusing to apologise, none of it is good. None of it.

oviraptor21 · 26/07/2023 22:03

StellaJohanna · 25/07/2023 01:58

Which is exactly why an woman who gives it a minute's thought wouldn't playfight with a grown man. You aren't on par physically, with reaction times or frankly anything else. Either you hurt him accidentally and he will be pissed off, or he will do you an injury and it's a police job. It's very unhealthy behaviour in an adult couple, and usually ends in tears - like this time.

In your world maybe. In my world play fighting is a bit of fun. Childish yes. But fun. No-one gets hurt and there are no tears.

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