Partner called me a c*** and f-ing b****

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am I in the wrong

partner and I were play fighting I tickled his neck and he was bent over and then pinched the back of my leg which went up and accidentally kneed him in the eye which is when he started swearing and shouting at me for an accident.

I think his language is disgusting and not acceptable no matter what happened and he is angry because I refused to apologise for accidentally kneeing him after he started swearing at me.

am I in the wrong?

we’ve had arguments in the past about his language use and tbh I feel like just saying we’re not meant to be together and I’ve had enough.

What a fantastically toxic environment for your toddler.

It’s literally the knee-jerk reflex that he has triggered, tell him to look it up.

I don’t think playfighting between opposite sex partners is a good idea. Especially not if pinching is involved, or anything else designed to hurt.

Tickling if you both enjoy that is one thing, but pinching someone is not a fun thing to do.

Me and my OH play fight now and again. Its just a bit of fun and we have a very healthy relationship, usually end up belly laughing. The issue is doing it in front of a child and the extent of swearing.

Stop play fighting why couples do this I don't get it. I will rather shag then fight

So your 2 year old saw you knee his dad in the face then witnessed him calling you a cunt

Such a nice environment for him

Play fighting ? Are you 4 year olds?

Cool story bro

Play fighting is fine but not in front if a child who doesn't understand the boundaries.
An accident happened. Absolutely no excuse ever for that kind of language. Everyone who says they would swear like that clearly has that kind of swearing normalised which is also not acceptable when children are around.
I wouldn't be apologising either given his reaction. I'd make sure he was OK but that would be the limit.

I'd say somebody pinching my leg would cause pain as well.

What do any of you get out of play fighting?!
but yes he was out of order, like I say to my kids, if you play rough things are bound to happen, tough shit. He was a nob.

He really doesn’t. It was definitely an accident that he got hurt, it wasn’t accidental to call her a cunt etc.

Unfortunately unlike wrestling this sh-t is real lol

You're both a mess. Grow up and be good role models for your son. But calling you that many times? Not a good situation at all.

You see when you get hurt sharply don't you say fucking hell/that fucking hurts. At the most?

It's the names. That's what he thinks of you. It's quite considered.
I see you have had quarrels about his language. He isn't going to change.
In front of a child?????

I sometimes wonder how some people manage in the real world.He was hurt. He swore.I can't get worked up over that

@FindingMeno I don't think I'd want to live in your real world. I definitely wouldn't want a two year old child in your real world. I have been in excruciating pain, I have used some profanity! I've never called someone a fucking bitch or a cunt because I'm in pain. That's another level. I would definitely be "worked up" if my DH spoke to me like that, even if he was in agony!

Nor do they at mine. It’s called ‘play’ fighting for a reason. It’s okay. No one gets hurt, no one swear or calls names. Life can’t be fun when you’re so uptight all the time

You can both give yourselves a pat on the back when your toddler starts play fighting at nursery and the calls the other kid a cunt so well done 👏

Stop play fighting and using disgusting language in front of your child.

No excuse for the language used towards you and child witnessing it but also shouldn't play fight like this in front of a kid in the first place.

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The language he used was certainly disgusting. But when you realised that you had accidentally hurt him I would have thought that your immediate and instinctive response would be to apologise.

If you had said straight off something like "Oh God I am so sorry, that was a complete accident. I didn't mean to hurt you" then that would probably have gone done way to diffusing the situation.

You use whatever type of language you would normally use. So if you freely use the C word about others, it's going to roll off your tongue in reaction to being hurt. If you never swear, you might be able to avoid swearing.

Me, I'd probably swear like a trooper with lots of Fucks in there but I never use Cunt (except on MN clearly.... lol) so that probably wouldn't be one of the words coming out.

LOL!!! I second this..

life has bigger problems

Which is exactly why an woman who gives it a minute's thought wouldn't playfight with a grown man. You aren't on par physically, with reaction times or frankly anything else. Either you hurt him accidentally and he will be pissed off, or he will do you an injury and it's a police job. It's very unhealthy behaviour in an adult couple, and usually ends in tears - like this time.

It's a pity there was no adult present who could have banged your heads together.