To tell you just how bloody boring today has been

[Rabbithole90]

DH away with work
DC doing own thing
Raining
All my friends either busy/out/on hols
My house is already cleaned/tidied/sorted to the hills

I have sat at my breakfast bar all day surfing the net and watching old movies. That's all. No where to go, no one to see. I have never, ever been so bored. EVER. I have now got my works laptop out and am working, to get ahead of the game this week at work as I then off for 3 weeks. I am also going to get a bottle of wine to have while I work.

I have scoffed crap all day and now have terrible IBS

And what do you usually do on a Sunday when dh around?

I do think there's a period where you kids suddenly don't really want or need you as much, but you're often just expected to be around and available.

It's hard to remember who you used to be and what you used to love...that's where I am now. It's quite saddening really, when you realise that maybe you've let friendships and hobbies go.

I get it OP.

I mean if you don't want to sit still, spend money or exercise there isn't much left in life.

If I have a free day I'll go to the cinema (I have Odeon Limitless but will get a coffee), read something from Kindle Unlimited, watch a series on iPlayer that DH doesn't want to see, mess about in the garden, reorganise my wardrobe, drive to a different town and have a walk.

It can be lonely if you tell yourself you need to be spending time with other people to do anything worthwhile.

Using the rain as an excuse is terrible. Get out and stop being miserable!

I now have cheese & crackers and wine !
@Beachside82 Sundays I will usually pop to see a friend/elderly parents/spend time with DH/DC.

Dh is usually OK to watch TV (sport) all weekend. I couldn't bear to watch TV all day like that. It spurns me on to get motivated. Now DH is not here, I'm the one doing nothing all day !

bloody hell

your dh sits on his ass and watches tv all weekend

now that sounds boring

Sounds fine to me. I have no partner and no children, we have flooding here (not UK) and I never left my flat all day, didn't see or hear from a soul. I watched two movies, and a comedy and spent time on my computer - and wasn't bored at all. This morning I will be at work - which is far more boring.

I know what you mean but yesterday was worse. There's lots to do but I just CBA! Tomorrow I'll cut the grass and make a start getting rid of some books. Too many books!

I was going to defend OP and say there are some sanctimonious pricks on here but then I read "I don't do reading" so I won't bother

Crying because you had a day on your own is pretty extreme tbh, I think you need to examine why you feel so uncomfortable with your own company and try to address that.

Please come to my house and minimalise it!!

You sound really fed up. I have days like that sometimes. I float around the house and can't settle to anything. My time of the month makes a difference too and sometimes get that feeling of being lonely and sad.

I honestly find the best thing is to go to bed. Early if it's evening / night time. If it's during the day then a nap. I usually feel a bit more me after that.

Go easy on yourself.

Why, because someone doesn't like something you like? What a sanctimonious, snobbish attitude some people have to reading.

I'm sorry you had a shit day but I'm finding it so hard to relate to. It sounds like a rarity for you to have a day to yourself without any activities planned, and it's left you close to tears with how awful its been? My mind is boggling.

The constant rain is driving me up the wall. I went out for a couple of hours just to relieve the tedium. There's loads needs doing in the garden but I'm not doing anything in this weather. Fed up with it now.

I don’t think this is the case with op though usually?

Sorry you feel so upset op. 💐

Can you pin down why you feel like crying? Here are some suggestions which could be totally wrong:

~ are you sure you are not confusing boredom with loneliness, because the two are very different? For example, if you have access to the internet then there are a thousand things on there you can learn to do to keep yourself occupied. But if you are just today really craving company and human interaction, then all the diverting pastimes in the world won’t cut it.

~ do you think this might be a sign that you have lost yourself a bit in the middle of family life and forgotten what brings YOU happiness? It’s very easily done. It doesn’t seem like you have a passion or a hobby that is totally separate from your dh but forgive me if I am totally wrong on that. Fwiw, I think it’s really important for married couples to have separate interests where possible. Is it time you built some networks outside of your marriage? Maybe today could be the catalyst to do that?

~ are you secretly resentful that it’s always you stuck at home and would you like to be the one travelling for once?

~ is your dh not very communicative or is he very self contained and him being away highlights that in some way?

~ could it be hormonal?

~ whilst it’s great to have a clean, organised, minimalist house, it is not an end in itself, and you don’t want to be living a minimalist life necessarily do you? Having the house under control should ideally give us time to do something more interesting then housework instead. Maybe you need to find something to do that gives you more joy and a purpose?

~ if your dc are old enough to do their own thing are you getting sad about the future and having an empty nest etc?

I have a 1 and a 5 year old, have spent m all weekend with DH trying to keep them entertained in the rain…and have 6 weeks of this coming up, your weekend sounds BLISS! Watching old movies isn’t boring? Can we swap for a bit?!

I'm very jealous of your boredom 😩 I'd love that kind of break! Although I know it doesn't make it any nicer for you....if I were you I'd work out

I can understand why you got bored if you need to be busy to such a severe degree. Your life and house sounds like the complete opposite of mine, so it's very difficult to relate as I crave alone time. But if you love to be physically active, why not take up an active hobby? Cycling? Training for a marathon? Rock climbing? Gardening?

It does sound a somewhat extreme emotional response to one day of limited activity opportunity.

This never happens to me but if it did I would clean up. Then plan something nice for tea. Have a soak in bath and watch a film.

If it was regular I'd probably add a little structure to my weekends. Gym, walk, museum, day trip, see friends/family.

I've just been away at my friend's for 2 nights. Never been away without family since DD was born nearly 20 years ago. We had a lovely time. Vegging out, chatting and laughing. Couple of walks too.

Anyway she said to me that the day after I left (meaning today) she was going to do nothing. She asked me if I ever have a pj day. I never have apart from if I'm ill but even then there are still chores to be done. I quite like the idea of staying in pjs all day and just pleasing myself

I genuinely feel for anyone that doesn’t like reading . It is my saving grace. It relieves boredom, low mood, anxiety and loneliness for me. I was a very unconfident, sad teenager and I turned to books for comfort. I still do now when things in life are difficult .

Thoughts and prayers OP.

YABU IMHO, but my perspective is that I bloody love a day on my own (and occasionally book a day of annual leave just to chill and do NOTHING 😂). Everyone's different though.

I would have loved a day like that!

but obviously it’s not been the day you wanted. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.