To think the use of "partner" is implying she is gay?

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DD is 24 and has never been in a relationship due to various struggles she has had in her life. It's only recently she has really ever been mentioning it in her future. It's always "partner" though and no I don't care if she was to be gay, etc. but just curious if always using that vs boyfriend/husband is more telling?

I call my other half partner ( male) we are not married .. been together 22 years

I'm in my late 50's and the idea of calling my (51 year old male), DP of 23 years my "boyfriend" is, quite frankly, ridiculous. He is, was and shall ever more be referred to as my DP.

Partner means different things to different generations.

I am 40 - my best friend isn’t married to her partner (who is a man). They have two kids. If she calls him her boyfriend people assume he isn’t the children father. They have been together for twenty years, own a home, have two kids and a dog.

Gay marriage is common - surely she would just say wife is she was gay. Partner means to me she has no intention of getting married - it gives me no clue to the gender of the person she sees herself with in the future.

I say partner. because 'boyfriend' makes me sound like Im 15

Obviously but at least she would know?

I always say partner, I'll now be wondering if people are presuming I am gay

Sorry I was just referring to partner being used years ago because gay people collect marry. The use of husband and wife no longer indicates sexuality.

Have you asked about the partner to establish either way?

I say partner about my husband.

My friend calls his girlfriend missus.

She could be bisexual maybe that's why she doesn't want to gender the partner. Or she could be using a more generic term

A decade or two ago, maybe yes. But now that fewer and fewer people get married, partner has come to mean ' the person who I've been with for a long time and intend to be with for the foreseeable future, and who isn't just a boyfriend'

I call my boyfriend of 5 years partner.. we’re heterosexual

Forgot to add, we’re 24 and plan to marry within the next year. So similar age range

Yes, I called my now-DH my partner for well over 20 years. In fact, I called him that long after we got married, I tended to forget.

YABU

I call OH my partner because girlfriend seems a bit weird after 30 years.

A few people who don't know me very well have been surprised that my "partner" wasn't a bloke

My 25 year old calls her boyfriend her partner sometimes I think its just evolving language, I mean it doesn't matter If she is gay does it ?

Ah sorry your not bothered if she's gay or not just confused about the term sorry I didn't read properly..

In fact my 31 year old also says partner .

Yes this is how I consider it too, I’d use boyfriend in the early stages, partner when it was more of an established / living together relationship. But others use the terms differently and doesn’t automatically imply it’s a same sex partner

That certainly used to be true, but I don't think it is any more.

My DS refers to his partner (female). I think it just signifies something a little more committed than girlfriend.

I had this conversation yesterday around using partner. I preferred it as say boyfriend made me feel like I was 14. Now DH but I said partner

I say partner all the time and I'm married and not gay

I’ve been with my fiancé for 11 years nearly. Previous to our recent engagement, I always said partner. If I said boyfriend, people assumed we hadn’t been together long (especially medical professionals I have to say!) whereas if I said partner, people seemed to understand we lived together etc. I also used other half to refer to him which was equally helpful. I just found that if I used boyfriend, people asked when/how we met… and then it got awkward when I said “in high school” ten years after I’d left 😂