Page 3 | To think I’m too old at 28 to wear crop tops and short dresses

Blameit500 · 2023-07-23T13:05:07+00:00

Nothing against anyone the same age that does.

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 23/07/2023 15:52

@YeahIsaidit honestly do it!

I feel more confident as I've gotten older... I spent a long long time in my 20s trapped in an abusive relationship where I had to be covered head to toe to go out of the house so I'm making up for lost time!

YeahIsaidit · 23/07/2023 15:55

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 23/07/2023 15:52

@YeahIsaidit honestly do it!

I feel more confident as I've gotten older... I spent a long long time in my 20s trapped in an abusive relationship where I had to be covered head to toe to go out of the house so I'm making up for lost time!

I'm sorry that you were stuck with an arsehole who did this but I'm glad you're making up for it now, it looks like you're acing it 😃👏

LuciferRising · 23/07/2023 15:56

Are you afraid you'll offend the male gaze?

Zanatdy · 23/07/2023 15:57

Short dresses are different in my opinion but crop tops I think belong on teens and in the gym. I think they definitely don’t belong on women (like me) over 40, but I’ve seen a few women wear them.

Zanatdy · 23/07/2023 16:02

Deargodletitgo · 23/07/2023 15:16

So plus sized women shouldn't wear any of these things then? 😂

in my opinion crop tops only look good with people with toned abs, not me. Would I wear one with my flabby stomach, definitely not. What others wear is up to them, but does it look good? Probably not. Let’s face it, certain clothes do flatter certain body shapes and crop tops do only look good on certain body shapes.

LlynTegid · 23/07/2023 16:03

I don't think 28 is the issue. Some women I'd hope never wear them, though they should have the choice.

LuciferRising · 23/07/2023 16:03

Why can't a woman over 40 wear a crop top? I wear one which cuts off at the waist. You see a sliver of my stomach.

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 16:04

RedFolder · 23/07/2023 14:26

some of these replies are so depressing. Wear short skirts if you have ‘decent’ or ‘nice’ legs. Someone with legs like an elephant doesn’t wear short skirts. Crop tops if you have the right figure.

no wonder some women and girls have such unhealthy and unrealistic ideas about what their bodies ‘should’ look like and what they shouldn’t be wearing.

wear what you want. There is no age limit or dress size cut-off or perception of ‘decent’ body parts that make one garment more or less acceptable than another.

I wish women would stop perpetuating these utter bullshit ‘rules’.

I'm sorry but some people really do need to look in the mirror with some styles that just don't suit them. It's just reality. It's a free country, but they'd be better off picking clothes that are flattering and not jumping onto the latest fashion bandwagon just because they can, it isn't Tha Law but it just makes sense.

CarPour · 23/07/2023 16:10

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 16:04

I'm sorry but some people really do need to look in the mirror with some styles that just don't suit them. It's just reality. It's a free country, but they'd be better off picking clothes that are flattering and not jumping onto the latest fashion bandwagon just because they can, it isn't Tha Law but it just makes sense.

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Why?

Why does anyone need to pick clothes that are flattering?

CarPour · 23/07/2023 16:15

I think having difficulty seeing women's midriffs, or disliking older women or larger women's bodies says an awful lot more about you than the person wearing the clothes

Realistically that's a you problem and something you need to learn to get over. No one has to dress to please you

boobot1 · 23/07/2023 16:23

In a word, No.

Sugarfish · 23/07/2023 16:33

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 16:04

I'm sorry but some people really do need to look in the mirror with some styles that just don't suit them. It's just reality. It's a free country, but they'd be better off picking clothes that are flattering and not jumping onto the latest fashion bandwagon just because they can, it isn't Tha Law but it just makes sense.

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But why should they? Because you don’t like how they look? That’s your problem not their’s. Why do you think your opinion is more important?

RedFolder · 23/07/2023 16:54

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 16:04

I'm sorry but some people really do need to look in the mirror with some styles that just don't suit them. It's just reality. It's a free country, but they'd be better off picking clothes that are flattering and not jumping onto the latest fashion bandwagon just because they can, it isn't Tha Law but it just makes sense.

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Who decides what is flattering? You? Me? What if our definitions of flattering differ? What then? Why is it any of your business if someone wears something that you decide is unflattering?

How about the person wearing the clothes decides what works for them and what they feel good in, and everyone else shuts the fuck up about judging what other people (women) choose to put on their bodies.

Moveoverdarlin · 23/07/2023 16:58

I think it’s about your figure not your age. And there’s a time and a place. I went to an upmarket pub for dinner last night. The waitress looked great in a crop top. She was tanned, about a size 8 and about 20. However when she came to our table I was eye to eye with her belly button, just thought it was a bit inappropriate for work. But she looked amazing. Had she been pale and flabby and a size 16 she’d have put me off my seabass.

sunsethorizon · 23/07/2023 17:01

I think it’s less about your age and more about your figure to be honest.

Do you also mean short skirts with opaques in winter, as I see women of all ages wearing that look and I think it looks good.

moderndaywitch · 23/07/2023 17:05

I wouldn't wear a crop top at any age.

Short dresses are fine

Windchimeswinter · 23/07/2023 17:06

I wear crop tops under my tops instead of proper bras as I hate them.

Skinnybluebody · 23/07/2023 17:09

RedFolder · 23/07/2023 14:26

some of these replies are so depressing. Wear short skirts if you have ‘decent’ or ‘nice’ legs. Someone with legs like an elephant doesn’t wear short skirts. Crop tops if you have the right figure.

no wonder some women and girls have such unhealthy and unrealistic ideas about what their bodies ‘should’ look like and what they shouldn’t be wearing.

wear what you want. There is no age limit or dress size cut-off or perception of ‘decent’ body parts that make one garment more or less acceptable than another.

I wish women would stop perpetuating these utter bullshit ‘rules’.

Literally came here to say this! Wear what you want! What happened to empowering eachother?!

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 18:14

RedFolder · 23/07/2023 16:54

Who decides what is flattering? You? Me? What if our definitions of flattering differ? What then? Why is it any of your business if someone wears something that you decide is unflattering?

How about the person wearing the clothes decides what works for them and what they feel good in, and everyone else shuts the fuck up about judging what other people (women) choose to put on their bodies.

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I'm not suggesting that I personally make any judgement. Agreed, none of my business, I certainly wouldn't pass comment, unless I'm directly asked for my opinion, I have a social filter. But there are definitely people who haven't used a mirror. That isn't a heinous crime to say that.

I do it to myself, I take a critical look in the mirror when buying clothes and decide for myself if it suits me, if I feel good in the garment and I don't buy things just because they're in fashion if it doesn't suit my shape, height, build etc. It doesn't take much, but I genuinely don't think people do that based on what I see. It isn't the crime of the century, people can wear what they like, but they don't always dress to play to their strengths.

eg: I don't like those cold shoulder tops, I'd never choose them because they aren't my style. I don't wear crop tops not even when I'm on holiday or on the beach. I don't find them flattering and it's got nothing to do with age. It's about context as well. some clothes look OK in certain situations. Why do you think the Style and Beauty Board is full of this kind of discussion, because people who care about how they look, enjoy discussing whether their outfit is OK for xyz situation, and would it be flattering for someone who's x height and y weight or such and such an age. because it matters to some, if only more people asked the right questions and took on board comments as long as they're constructive and helpful. Maybe I'm used to my DM who has an Italian background and has taught me well, being candid with me, I'm totally fine with that and I know it comes from a good place, between the two of us.

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 18:18

... and it would be really boring if everyone was in an echo-chamber, constrained to only saying "wear what you like" about all fashion questions!

RoseAndRose · 23/07/2023 18:24

If you don't like how you look in them, then yes stop wearing them.

But don't let ageism (which is just plain wrong) limit you.

Check your mirror and your preferences, not the number of candles on your last birthday cake and a load of claptrap about what you should/shouldn't wear (especially as it generally comes from the industry with a clear interest in getting us to buy more clothes) and instead wear whatever the fuck you like.

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CarPour · 23/07/2023 18:40

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 18:14

I'm not suggesting that I personally make any judgement. Agreed, none of my business, I certainly wouldn't pass comment, unless I'm directly asked for my opinion, I have a social filter. But there are definitely people who haven't used a mirror. That isn't a heinous crime to say that.

I do it to myself, I take a critical look in the mirror when buying clothes and decide for myself if it suits me, if I feel good in the garment and I don't buy things just because they're in fashion if it doesn't suit my shape, height, build etc. It doesn't take much, but I genuinely don't think people do that based on what I see. It isn't the crime of the century, people can wear what they like, but they don't always dress to play to their strengths.

eg: I don't like those cold shoulder tops, I'd never choose them because they aren't my style. I don't wear crop tops not even when I'm on holiday or on the beach. I don't find them flattering and it's got nothing to do with age. It's about context as well. some clothes look OK in certain situations. Why do you think the Style and Beauty Board is full of this kind of discussion, because people who care about how they look, enjoy discussing whether their outfit is OK for xyz situation, and would it be flattering for someone who's x height and y weight or such and such an age. because it matters to some, if only more people asked the right questions and took on board comments as long as they're constructive and helpful. Maybe I'm used to my DM who has an Italian background and has taught me well, being candid with me, I'm totally fine with that and I know it comes from a good place, between the two of us.

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You sounded pretty judgemental in your original post

Of you course you are allowed to be critical and look in the mirror and decide what tou feel good in, what you find flattering on yourself
You are allowed to ask if other people like it and for their opinions on your clothes

But just because you do these things, doesn't mean everyone else has to. Plenty of people don't and that's okay. No one has to "dress to their strengths", and you can feel good even if the clothes aren't stereotypically flattering

Again if you don't like others clothes, that's a you problem. Lots of people have absolutely no desire to dress flatteringly or to what suits them.

AgnesX · 23/07/2023 18:41

If you've got the bod and the confidence go for it!

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 23/07/2023 18:47

It all depends how confident you are, not your age. I am an ED survivor and sadly not confident in my body, so I would never be able to wear them. I do however, look and feel best in long sleeves and trousers.

daisychain01 · 23/07/2023 19:30

CarPour · 23/07/2023 18:40

You sounded pretty judgemental in your original post

Of you course you are allowed to be critical and look in the mirror and decide what tou feel good in, what you find flattering on yourself
You are allowed to ask if other people like it and for their opinions on your clothes

But just because you do these things, doesn't mean everyone else has to. Plenty of people don't and that's okay. No one has to "dress to their strengths", and you can feel good even if the clothes aren't stereotypically flattering

Again if you don't like others clothes, that's a you problem. Lots of people have absolutely no desire to dress flatteringly or to what suits them.

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That's for telling me what I'm allowed to do, say and think

believe me, none of it is a "me problem" and yes I'm judgemental - I defy you to tell me you never ever judge people. It's human nature, People do judge others, it doesn't necessarily make them bad or a nasty person. I also form my own opinions and that's fine too.