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Original poster

To ask how i go about meeting wealthy women (not romantically)

54 replies

nansn · 21/07/2023 23:02

I am a pretty "normal" person, mid thirties, Berks based.

I have a family, there is nothing unusual about me, however, i really have this fascination for wealthy people.

Growing up we were not well off but also not struggling. There was this one house on my road in SW london, far bigger than the rest and I always was so curious about it.

That curiosity hasn't gone anywhere.

I really want to meet "normal" wealthy women. I just honestly have no idea where to start!

I am aware it probably seems odd. It's not for any strange reason other than to genuinely see how they live and understand their mentality & possibly learn from them I guess?

The more I write this I feel I am asking for a complete unicorn! Someone who would be actually willing to let me ask them questions and show me how they live & what is normal to them.

For eg, I recently drove up Titlarks Hill (not sure now if i was allowed) and it just blew me away.

I really crave to see first hand how wealthy people live.

AIBU? Is this the most bizarre thing ever?!

OP posts:
Hawkins0001 · 21/07/2023 23:03

I guess study the Hampton's,

4weeknoalcohol · 21/07/2023 23:04

Get a job as a housekeeper?

Windercar · 21/07/2023 23:05

Pretty sad

Whatkindofuckeryisthis · 21/07/2023 23:06

Really strange

Hawkins0001 · 21/07/2023 23:08

The TV show made in Chelsea shows some examples

dahliadaze · 21/07/2023 23:09

Join your local expensive gym. Join a group for an expensive hobby. Become an estate agent selling up market houses.

User10932 · 21/07/2023 23:09

My DSIL has a very wealthy life with her DH (think numerous houses on gated estates, fly by private jet numerous times a month on various hols/ shopping trips etc). Me and DH are very normal, 3 bed semi, normal jobs… but mix with DSIL/ DBIL and their friends often. Can honestly say they’re all pretty normal, with normal lives, kids, work, relationship dramas like us all. They just drink fancier Prosecco and have nicer clothes 😄

Hawkins0001 · 21/07/2023 23:09

Plus upper east side, new York

Bodybop · 21/07/2023 23:09

V odd

Dotcheck · 21/07/2023 23:10

I am aware it probably seems odd

Phew!
Why just women?

Hawkins0001 · 21/07/2023 23:10

User10932 · 21/07/2023 23:09

My DSIL has a very wealthy life with her DH (think numerous houses on gated estates, fly by private jet numerous times a month on various hols/ shopping trips etc). Me and DH are very normal, 3 bed semi, normal jobs… but mix with DSIL/ DBIL and their friends often. Can honestly say they’re all pretty normal, with normal lives, kids, work, relationship dramas like us all. They just drink fancier Prosecco and have nicer clothes 😄

Nice upgraded booze, and suits yet all the normal human attributes

QuillBill · 21/07/2023 23:12

Someone who would be actually willing to let me ask them questions and show me how they live & what is normal to them.

You would be better off watching TV and reading than trying to interview a real person.

Someone in my family works for a Hollywood A lister. I suppose she gets to see 'how they live'.

Original poster
nansn · 21/07/2023 23:13

@Dotcheck Haha don't worry I was expecting the "strange" comments and don't blame them. It definitely is.

Why women? I guess just because it's so expected that men can be wealthy, meeting a self made woman is so much more interesting imo.

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Onelifeonly · 21/07/2023 23:13

They are just fellow humans, you know. Not zoo animals. Read about the lives of celebrities to find out if you must.

Woukd you like a wealthy woman to make friends with you solely to find out what your average / low (?) income life was like?

Maireas · 21/07/2023 23:16

User10932 · 21/07/2023 23:09

My DSIL has a very wealthy life with her DH (think numerous houses on gated estates, fly by private jet numerous times a month on various hols/ shopping trips etc). Me and DH are very normal, 3 bed semi, normal jobs… but mix with DSIL/ DBIL and their friends often. Can honestly say they’re all pretty normal, with normal lives, kids, work, relationship dramas like us all. They just drink fancier Prosecco and have nicer clothes 😄

Hardly seems worth it.

BarelyLiterate · 21/07/2023 23:16

Join David Lloyd in West & South West London, Surrey, south Essex or north Cheshire. There, you will be able to observe bankers’ wives & footballers’ WAGs in their natural habitat.

Original poster
nansn · 21/07/2023 23:19

@Onelifeonly No of course I did not mean for it to seem like that is what they are.

Honestly, I think I wouldn't mind that, I wish there was less secrecy & awkwardness around money

OP posts:
Tibba · 21/07/2023 23:20

What do you mean by ‘wealthy’, though?

DH and I are from poor WC backgrounds, but his job in particular means we meet ultra-wealthy people fairly regularly. He currently has dealings with a man who had a family summit to explain exactly what proportion of his £9 billion personal fortune he was leaving to charity, what to his children, their children and in trust for their unborn children etc.

They're pretty much like the rest of us, in my experience, but with different logistical problems, like moving yachts around, or duplicating wardrobes between houses.

AlyssumandHelianthus · 21/07/2023 23:24

Maybe you could find some biographies or autobiographies to read.

Tillypet · 21/07/2023 23:25

I don't think this is quite as strange as some posters seem to find it. There are quite a few TV shows/magazines which are based around peering into the lives of the wealthy. So presumably there must be enough interested people to form a market for these.

Not sure how you would meet them, though. Join a PA /concierge service? Or hospitality work at a v expensive hotel?

Whitecup24 · 21/07/2023 23:26

I’ve made a few million and live in a million pound house and did most of it single mum now married happy to chat anytime! I love talking about money and success and business particularly

WoolyMammoth55 · 21/07/2023 23:27

I was a PA to a billionaire's wife a decade ago. She was lovely, very down to earth, had been "normal" before she caught his eye and they had a whirlwind romance (when they met he was newly divorced and hated being single).

They had a huge house on the border of South Ken and Belgravia, with a live in staff of 3 (housekeeper/cleaner, her husband's valet/PA, and the private chef). Everything was immaculate. She was also immaculate; she had weekly appointments for hair, nails, baby botox, facials, plus saw her yoga teacher every morning for an hour and her masseuse every other day.

There was an absolute never-ending invitations list, everyone wanted dinner or lunch or to invite them to a fundraiser for blah blah blah. All the socialising was pretty shallow and based on whose back was getting scratched, high-society politics. It was hard to see if they had any real deep friendships, or just a lot of people hoping they'd be "useful" to them at some point.

The really sad thing was that she really wanted a baby but her DH (who had 2 grown up kids from his first marriage) was older and it didn't work out for them. So when I left they'd just bought some land in Aspen and she was throwing all her energy into building their "dream home" over there... But actually I think she was quite sad and a little bit lonely. She had nothing to worry about ever but I don't think she was all that happy.

AppleKatie · 21/07/2023 23:28

Get a job at an independent school.

fyn · 21/07/2023 23:31

Go to a hunt ball!

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 21/07/2023 23:34

Whitecup24 · 21/07/2023 23:26

I’ve made a few million and live in a million pound house and did most of it single mum now married happy to chat anytime! I love talking about money and success and business particularly

OP - I was just thinking you've come to the right place - MN is full of people reporting to live like that - here's your first on the thread!