To ask how i go about meeting wealthy women (not romantically)

[nansn]

I am a pretty "normal" person, mid thirties, Berks based.

I have a family, there is nothing unusual about me, however, i really have this fascination for wealthy people.

Growing up we were not well off but also not struggling. There was this one house on my road in SW london, far bigger than the rest and I always was so curious about it.

That curiosity hasn't gone anywhere.

I really want to meet "normal" wealthy women. I just honestly have no idea where to start!

I am aware it probably seems odd. It's not for any strange reason other than to genuinely see how they live and understand their mentality & possibly learn from them I guess?

The more I write this I feel I am asking for a complete unicorn! Someone who would be actually willing to let me ask them questions and show me how they live & what is normal to them.

For eg, I recently drove up Titlarks Hill (not sure now if i was allowed) and it just blew me away.

I really crave to see first hand how wealthy people live.

AIBU? Is this the most bizarre thing ever?!

Watch “Succession”

OP, self-made women are more rare than women who have married into wealth, particularly if you are talking about extreme wealth.

Are you interested in the latter or just the former?

Lots of people with disposable income can join a high end gym, DL tends to be more wealthy families. I think the kind of wealth the women that op seems to be interested in, have home gyms, personal trainers, not slumming it with the new-money wags at their local DL😆

I’m fascinated by why you’re fascinated, OP? I’m not in any way one of these types, but over the years through my career I’ve met many (no, I’m not in banking or beauty related industries!). The smartest and nicest to meet are those who have self earned their lifestyle, often came from humble beginnings. The most appalling are the entitled types whose wealth came from divorce or family privileges.

@Whitecup24 would you consider doing an ama ?

There are 101 lifestyle programs about the very wealthy you could watch. It's not hidden knowledge. There are still glossy magazines devoted to their ways, also.

Ah, you sound exactly like the person who wrote that they wanted to know famous people.

people aren’t furniture or props in your own personal film in which you’re the star. They’re people. You sound like a very narcissistic collector of “things”.

disgusting

What do you mean by "wealthy" exactly? That's a very imprecise term and self-referential.

If you have nothing, the man with £1 is wealthy.

Do you mean people who are comfortably off - middle class professionals who can afford to buy what they want but couldn't afford a private jet?

Or are you talking about ultra-wealthy billionaires - who do have private jets?

These are very different propositions in terms of gaining access.

Here's your prime target list, @nansn, with (very tiny) potted biographies.
https://www.fool.co.uk/2022/03/08/the-uks-richest-self-made-women-and-how-they-made-their-money/

Most successfully self-made women are acutely aware of the barriers to success, so they take part in events designed to introduce ambitious women to each other. I even know some, and agree they're pretty normal apart from having a harder head for business and better holidays! They also try to post helpful stuff on LinkedIn - search out some female CEOs and board directors of big companies, and follow them.

You’ll find that self made wealthy women (and men) will behave significantly different from women (and men) who originate from generational wealth.

Is this the most bizarre thing ever?!

It really is.

It's deeply sad that you somehow see 'money' as being a defining characteristic. As if all wealthy women will be, think & act the same.

This!
Also,
Sailing club
Tennis club

MTV cribs

Define wealthy?

How rich / fancy?
i work in big tech (think google, netflix and meta)

The following is pretty much standard at director level*:

Tesla or equiv
5 bed + detached
Some subtle "work"
Glossy locks
a PT
Engagement rings the size of a mini egg
Holidays at IKOS and "affordable breaks" at places like babington house
Voting labour and kids at some random boarding school or st pauls
Nice clothes

Most are very normal but a few are obsessed with networking / foundations and being on boards for things.

Maybe just watch a documentary about them? There are a few out there. Also what do you mean by wealthy? People who can afford private school for their kids, business class flights and a house in a gated community in south east England or people who own their own yachts and have a residency in Monaco?

I work for very wealthy people for a living and as cheesy as it sounds they’re not so different. Some are nice, some are arseholes just like “regular” people. There isn’t anything magical or different about them, people are people.

Are we talking billionaires - Elon musk / Richard Branson level rich?

Or footballers wives types?

Or banker types?

Or old school wealthy that isn't super rich - like lawyers/consultants/doctors..?

Or are we just talking above average wage a bit?

I mean technically if you live in the UK you already are v wealthy compared to the majority of humans on the planet ....

Whitecup - that was a nice reply rather than saying op was odd!

Train as a social worker and work in an affluent area. You'll get to go into lots of homes and see how, regardless of money, everyone has problems!

(I'm aware poverty has a real impact on how a family functions and I wouldn't dream of minimising that impact)

100% it would be super outing as I’ve got a social media following (not massive) but suppose can name change. I’ve thought about it but know I’ll get ripped to shreds and then I think is it worth it 😂

I love talking about money and all the good things good people do with it but I know it’s not really a MN thing. I’m just here for the drama in AIBU mainly

I won £200 on the premium bonds last month. You can ask me anything, OP.

I'm curious what you plan to do with them when you've met them? Gawp at their houses, observe their lifestyles like zoo animals? Copy their clothes and accents because you think it will 'better' you? Because seems to me that meeting them isn't the hard part. That would be getting them to accept you into their life for no other reason than to satisfy your curiosity. What are you bringing to the table?

Are you looking for some sort of mentorship or guidance OP? Is it that you want to be more successful in life and want some hints?

Many wealthy women have married into it or were born into it, but there are definitely successful business women out there who would be willing to share their story - I'm sure there are local workshops you could attend to get some inspiration.

Tbf OP you can probably sit back and learn everything you want to know now from the comfort of your home. I'd be very surprised if before this threads done you don't get several wealthy women popping up to tell you all about it.

I think wealthy people tend to socialise with other wealthy people. Their kids go to the same private schools and their lives are just more on a par. They holiday in the same sort of places and with the same sort of frequency and enjoy the same hobbies. They attend the same private hospitals and live in teh same sort of houses. They have problems of course but they're dealt with in different ways - private doctors, therapists, buying another house for the wife and children to move into because the husband cheated - etc. I have met some through my work and they're lovely and I'm lovely but we just don't live in the same sort of way so it's hard to properly connect. For example, I was on an NHS waiting list for 4 years (in physical pain) and in that time one of them developed the same problem, got it dealt with privately and moved on with her life. (I also knew a few who struggled with drugs, which is a problem I can't afford to have either so there are upsides!)