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To be fuming with lifeguard/safe guarding officer at gym

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Dinoswearunderpants · 16/07/2023 19:24

I'm beyond livid and just wondering if I should see things from a different point of view.

My DS is 2 and has been taking swimming lessons since 8 weeks old at our local gym.

I take him swimming 2-3 times a week as he loves the water. It's a great activity for him.

He swims without arm bands for a short distance 3-5 meters then holds onto me or the side of the pool.

He loves swimming, extremely confident and understands the safety in the water i.e never goes to the water without an adult, holds onto the side or adult when in the water.

I took him today and was approached by a lifeguard (who also said she's the safe guarding officer) I've never seen before who said she was 'deeply concerned' about him swimming and him drinking too much water.

I explained we take lessons here and he is holding his breath for the 3-5 meters he's swimming. He wasn't coughing or in any distress.

He would jump in from the side, swim to me, I'd hold him an explain he needs to wait a moment (so he can catch his breath) then he'd swim to the side and jump back in. All this done on his own accord and a big smile on his face.

I asked the lady to speak with his swim instructor, who was there at the time. She said she'd spoken to another lifeguard who had concerns.

Both lifeguards don't have kids and are in their early 20s.

I explained what happened to the swim instructor and her words were 'I'm disgusted they said something, I'm so sorry'.

I appreciate not many 2 years can swim however he can as I've always wanted to ensure he's safe in the water.

I think I'm going to raise a complaint as they say no evidence of distress. My son wasn't coughing or anything. He was having a great time as he usually does.

It makes me not want to take him there any more but I'm still tied into a contract with them.

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Saschka · 27/07/2023 10:00

In the unlikely event such a child got into any sort of difficulty, a pound to a penny their parent would be there in an instant. In the even more unlikely event they did not respond quickly enough, other swimmers would leap to their aid. Being fewer and further away, I doubt the attendants would get a look in - but I don't know how they react, as I've never seen anyone get into difficulties and need a lifeguard

This is batshit. You think lifeguards are superfluous, because if somebody drowns, another swimmer will probably rescue them??

I’m glad you’ve never seen anyone get into difficulties and need rescuing by a lifeguard, I have and no, the parents and other swimmers hadn’t noticed, because drowning does not look how people imagine.

Drowning Doesn’t Look Like Drowning – Mario Vittone

https://mariovittone.com/2010/05/154/

sunglassesonthetable · 27/07/2023 10:12

Let's face it @Merlin3189 is talking poo.

bruffin · 27/07/2023 10:33

In the unlikely event such a child got into any sort of difficulty, a pound to a penny their parent would be there in an instant. In the even more unlikely event they did not respond quickly enough, other swimmers would leap to their aid. Being fewer and further away, I doubt the attendants would get a look in - but I don't know how they react, as I've never seen anyone get into difficulties and need a lifeguard
As previously said DS came on duty and in the hand over told about children going in the deep end that can barely swim. The parent was not in the pool and fully dressed and at the time wasnt even sitting on the side. When he told the children to get out of the deep end , she finally turned up and had the audacity to tell him, she had not right to tell her dc what to do!
I have seen children from a beginners class allowed to stay in the pool, parents on the side too busy chatting and not looking after the children.

forgotmyusername1 · 28/07/2023 11:50

Cucucucu · 17/07/2023 22:30

My post is not irrelevant . Why would a lifeguard have the right to doubt this child mother exactly ? He was stupid and rude and should apologise . The moment he questioned the op the first few seconds and she explained should have been enough , insisting was absolutely not needed . My issue was not the person questioning it , was the persistence .

not at the op but professionals don't just take parents words for everything as some parents don't have their childrens interests at heart

it is called safeguarding

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