Scared to go in the taxi alone

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Does anyone else have this?

I generally don’t drink much anymore, maybe the odd one and I drive or Dh does.
We have a 5 year old, I’m in my 40’s and did lots of going out in my youth.
I tend to meet friends for coffee or lunch and don’t really go out in the evenings much without family (some would say that’s quite boring 😅)
Anyway, my mums friends group have been trying to get it sorted to go out for a girls night for ages, it’s coming up. Dh will drop me off, which is fine, we’ll likely drink a bit so will get a taxi back, I’ve realised I’ll be the last on the journey so will be in the taxi alone. It’s sound so ridiculous but it’s making me so anxious
Does anyone else feel this?

No

No

Either be on phone or pretend to be on phone and live track hpurney on WhatsApp location share or something

No especially not these days with Uber so it is tracked, don't need cash etc

So is Uber the way to go, much safer?

No.

I live on my own. If I worried about it I wouldn't go out at night

I usually use taxi firms I know.

It’s putting me off going tbh.
I can’t ask Dh to pick me up as Dd will be in bed, just wish I wasn’t the last one

No. You have to travel alone at some point. I've taken countless taxis since. It's all tracked now anyway. Drivers want the journey done as quickly as possible.

No but if your nervous phone home as the second last person gets out the taxi. Tell your husband in advance & phone & tell him that's X been dropped off so you'll be home in X minutes, get the kettle on you're dying for a cuppa. That kind of thing

Then you know the taxi driver is aware someone knows you'll be home imminently.

I would use a reputable cab company, don’t just pick one up off the side of the road or a taxi rank. Pre-book in advance. There are some companies that you can even request a female driver.

Will your DH be up still? If so, you could always be talking to him on the phone during the bit when you’re alone. How long will that section of the journey be?

No, I can't drive and use taxis all the time for socialising, work, shopping etc

Uber is really convenient.

No travelled alone all the time when I lived in the city, my DD's took taxis alone too as teens. I don't anymore because you have to prebook ages in advance in our town so I just walk home even if it's 45 minutes

Yes I don’t think it’s ideal. I have been really scared in a taxi once or twice. A driver went round a back road which made no sense and I had a creepy vibe and actually thought he might kill me. I’ve had another driver telling me he needs a viagra prescription.

You could get someone else to book it via an app like Uber or Bolt then they will be able to see where you are on their phone. Also you can let the driver know there is someone waiting for you at home if that makes you feel better.

I took numerous taxis in my teens and twenties, had no other choice and was ok mainly, couple of times I’ve been a little nervous. It’s been so long now though and I can’t think of ways around it

No.

I mostly use uber, because it's tracked and you're given your drivers details, which you can share with someone else before you even get in the car.

Unfortunately there's no uber in my locality, so if I need a taxi home from the station, I use the company that operates from the station.

If you're the last in the taxi and it isn't an uber, then take a photo of the registration number and send it to your DH, if that makes you feel better. And chat to him on the last bit of the journey.

Presumably I feel that's all unnecessary. I'm widowed so have to take taxis alone. I just get on with it. It's probably safer now than it ever was.

No

You don't need a way round it. You have this all out of proportion. Just face your irrational fear and do it. Otherwise this anxiety is only going to get worse.

You've been given more advice on covering every base than anyone should need. Just get the reg plate and talk to your husband (or pretend to) throughout the last bit of the journey.

Well you have two choices:,
Don't do it because of your "what if" fears
Or just do it because you don't let your fears stop you

Is it odd to feel really nervous about this and worry about the driver?

This is an odd thing to be anxious about. Maybe ride in a taxi during the day beforehand so you get used to it again? It's not anything rational to worry about xx

I guess if you're used to always being with dh and not having to deal with how awful men can sometimes be (lucky you!) you'll be fine but if you're worried then book your own cab for a firm you know about all call DH loudly from taxi and say I'm sharing location so you can see when I'll be home- if he's a secret murderer or date rapist he will be much less likely to pick youn

Sorry so many typos

OP, yes it’s odd that you are suddenly nervous about a perfectly normal thing. Push yourself and do it so that you don’t become limited by this.

Yes it is odd