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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

Exactly, I couldn't agree more! Parents who sow discord and rifts like this ruin things for everyone else.

So they took tens of screen prints and shared them on their own whatsapp group? That's a lot of information to disclose, even if it's only one small class of 30 kids.

Wow, a bit ott I'd say.....and they'd have cancelled the whole thing if it hadn't been too late? Really? I get ghat surprises can be nice but to keep the whole thing a secret is weird.
If they know who it it is shouldn't gheir beef be with the parents who have shared this information, unless of course there been a serious GDPR breech!

I was just thinking this. If she 'knows' who one of the children is, it's probably because her own child has told her.

That’s a ridiculous thing to say. The organising mother is obviously an ott person full stop. Organising an event as extravagantly as this- hoodies- the works. It’s blooming ridiculous. Then becoming semi hysterical when her surprise has been unsurprised
All this year 6 leavers parties/ proms is going the same way as the ever increasingly over the top baby showers and hen dos.

She’s having a bloody laugh.

Agree that she's maybe taking it a bit to heart but I think it's very unkind to be posting it on mumsnet so you can make fun of her. She obviously cares very much, I think you should try to be a bit kinder to be honest.

Wow 😮 and the academy award for most unhinged member of the PTA goes too....

stop it 😂😂😂

You can report your own thread you know? This is a really unpleasant thread for somone based on one daft message. What harm has she caused you?

Half the fun for the kids would have been the anticipation. Making it a surprise was a crazy idea. The whole thing sounds like it's all about the organisers not the kids.

What have I said that is unkind?

I thought that, as she must have a living room floor covered with hoodies with names on them!!!

Don't be an adult bully. Yes, children can experience childish excitement and glee, especially at knowing "adult" things. There isn't necessarily cruel intention involved. However, it is cruel for an adult to automatically attribute "power" and "malice" to a child's actions.

I suppose its also possible that the parents of the offending child aren't aware that their child has told people ?

@thinkhorsesnotzebra "I am guessing they very much enjoyed the power of knowing and telling." I also think this says more about you than them

My thoughts entirely and surely her kid has seen her with her back to the grindstone organising it all.

Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming

How can anyone have any sympathy for this woman. She openly admitted to wanting to "name and shame" a 10/11 year old child to their peers and their parents. What a nasty thing to say.

Oooooh

<popcorn>

OP. For being mean and posting something that everyone in the whatsapp group would have forgotten about by now.

It’s not unkind in the slightest. People post about bat shit crazy people in their lives all the time. The organiser is crazy . I would hate to be part of such over the top behaviour. Utterly exhausting and controlling.

I suppose its also possible that the parents of the offending child aren't aware that their child has told people ?

It could be literally any child who knows the code for their parent's phone, including her own.

Exactly. All joking about what a fucking loon this woman is aside, if I opened a class WhatsApp and saw that I’d think there had been a horrible accident, or that one of the kids was seriously ill. The stupid, self-obsessed woman probably scared half the parents to death.

Not forgotten by the 11 year old kid who got overexcited and shared the news of a surprise party, or by that kids' parents, I imagine! They'd still be suffering the group shaming ritual, punishment for their crimes.

Was all the information posted on the whatsapp group, even down to individual sizes of hoodies ? Makes you wonder if one of the organisers children is behind this ?