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[MondayblueFridayyellow]

Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

I can understand why she might feel gutted but is the party for the kids or her?! If it's for the kids, why is she picking on the children (who innocently leaked it - and were probably excited to read the details anyway)? At that point, is the party about the kids or her?

just hope that child is not found out for their sake. thought these days most kids have leaving parties and a hoody or t shirt anyway?

You should buy her a dictionary as a thank you gift for all her hard work. Then she can look up ‘upsetting’ and ‘heartbreaking’.

i wouldn’t dream of organising a party for a bunch of school kids without getting their input.

How does the surprise even work - is it straight after school? Or do the get told to come back nicely dressed at some later hour? I know my daughter would need two hours to get ready with her friends so would miss the party entirely.

This is so true. None of ours liked surprise parties, nor do nearly all the people I know. Surprise parties are more about someone thinking it will be great for everybody. As this has demonstrated, they are very much about the person organising them.

It's like me organising a surprise party for my DH then "punishing" him for ruining the surprise for himself.

Her language blaming the children (and not the parents), and threatening to name and shame the children, is awful. She is a child herself.

I appreciate she’s put a lot of effort into this but why did it have to be a secret? It was foolish to think it could be kept a secret over that length of time. She’s a bit over invested in it all. I’m a bit fed up in how over the top people are about these occasions. It’s important to mark milestones but it doesn’t need all of that.

As I said I'm happy for the thread to be taken off.

I’m sure she makes most things all about her

Unless the OP wrote the message herself, I know which one is the funniest.

I think this is a very mean spirited thread.

@tunbridgeoutrage I think this is getting a bit personal now. I haven't done anything wrong.
I only posted to see others views and did not think it would get this big.
You seem to be getting nasty which is uncalled for.

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Most surprise parties are about the one organising the surprise

Oh, come off it. No need to get nasty.

Ah. Years and years of parenting ahead of her. Choose your battles carefully. I bet she sends out a Christmas round robin each year. Poor kids.

It has turned into that which was not my intention.

You seem to be getting nasty which is uncalled for.

Do you not think you’re nasty too ? Posting a WhatsApp message verbatim?

@MondayblueFridayyellow You think an 11 year old has announced the size of every child's individual hoodie out of excitement and not to be mean?

They are 11 not 3 they are well aware of what they were doing and I am guessing they very much enjoyed the power of knowing and telling.

"Heartbreaking news" 🤣 christ she needs to chill! I'd be laughing so much! I'm rather disappointed we don't have anyone so dramatic and entertaining in our class chat 😆.

Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

It's not the thread that is mean spirited, and this is not a "fun" OTT reaction as a joke. Who writes things like this..

Chances are it’s probably her own kid that’s let the cat out of the bag

No I was not trying to cause trouble just get opinions. The whole thing took off and you have got nasty ( you are maybe one of the organisers?)

An adult picking on a child is just awful. What a bitch!