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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

No, thankfully not 🤣

why? The party is still going ahead.

But now you have kids excited and looking forward to it. No one has "ruined" anything. None of the hard work organising, planning, ordering has been spoilt.

Her ego is a bit bruised possibly, but that aside...

Of course not. It's about the glory and recognition the parents get for being oh so wonderful.

You can tell by the message it was never about the kids. If it was, they'd have been asked what they would like.

But you sharing the mum's text word for word is not out of excitement, is it? If you wanted to know if it was OTT why not just ask one of the other parents? Why invite all the cackling witches of Mumsnet to have a laugh at her expense? My spideysense is telling me that you might be jealous of her and that you are glad that all the pains she took to organise the party has gone to shit.

Jeez she will have a shock when her kid starts high school ! Bet the primary school teachers are glad to see the back of her

God no, all my DC are long grown up and my PTA days are long behind me. Just think the OP is making a bad thing much worse.

She’s more miffed her suprise idea is ruined and her credit not the children missing out lol

She needs to catch herself on, yes it's annoying if it was supposed to be a surprise but the point of organising a party is so they can have a party is it not?

I wouldn't be able I respond to that without causing a big conflict so I'd have to ignore. It's not very nice for the parent or their child who let slip and they'll be feeling much worse after reading that than the gobshite who sent that message.

They're children for fuck sake.

Goodness, you are so disingenuous, OP.

What could possibly go wrong with you posting this on Mumsnet?

This ^^

The point is the kids will still have a cracking time whether it's a bloody surprise or not.

but nothing has changed.. there's a party, there's the hoodies, there's everything else happening.

all the information from the day of the party, time
unless she was planning a twilight party and the kids would have been surprised by a midnight firework to lead them to the party hall, how are these details remotely important?

She's the kind who makes someone else's surprise party all about her

She’s going to get very very drunk at the party and cry, isn’t she?

Dear god. The kids will enjoy it whether they know about it or not! How ridiculous

@tunbridgeoutrage
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You spideysende is wrong.
I really didn't think that this thread would get such a big response. I was just curious to see If others thought the message was over the top.
I haven't put any of the other messages up.
I'm happy for the post to be taken down if it is causing that much distress.

My spideysense is telling me that you might be jealous of her and that you are glad that all the pains she took to organise the party has gone to shit.

The children will still have a great time, get their hoodies etc , so all the pains they took to organise the party won't be in vain.

if the organised wanted privacy, she wouldn't have posted on a whatsapp group! When she literally just saw the proof that anything on there is public information 😂

I wonder if she has not deleted her message

It's perspective though isn't it. For people who have been through genuinely heartbreaking stuff, comments like this seem really insensitive and privileged. I mean, I'm sure she's lovely, and I'm sure it was written with emotion, and obviously it's excusable. But you know. Get some perspective.

As there’s a pretty good chance the Fail will pick this up, I suspect OP’s going to end up making the organiser’s day a little bit shittier still, as I’m sure she’ll love having the piss taken out of her in the Fail’s comments.

Oh my word

Someone needs a hobby!

How do you know that?

The OP has taken that text out of context. How do you know that the party organiser isn't someone who makes fun of herself and that the OTT tone is deliberate? For all you know OP might be thick and not pick up on nuance (see what I did there? We can all throw insults at people we don't know)

I am curious, why would anyone be JEALOUS?

Was the surprise for the children a special dance from the organiser? 😂😂😂 (see Motherland)

tunbridgeoutrage
are you another one from the whatsapp group possibly? Very close to the organiser maybe? You seem to take everything so personally 😂

A loss of perspective re heartbreaking etc but I imagine she wrote it in the heat of the moment. The surprise element was obviously considered important and she'd gone to a huge amount of effort so someones's carelessness has upset her. Fair enough. Threatening to name and shame a child ....not fair.

I agree with others that it's easy to mock and criticise organisers and yet moan when nothing is arranged. On that thought this thread is really unkind. It will get back to her and she will be really hurt. Is that what you'd want?

Bloody hell I know I’m old but when we left primary school we just ….. left. No party, no special assembly, no awards.
Funnily enough we managed to grow up without being traumatised.