Who is in the wrong?

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Friend and I can’t agree so we’ve agreed I’ll put on here objectively and see what the majority say. names changed obviously although it’s pretty obvious if you know us!

anna and Beth have been friends 20+ years and both have primary aged children. Beth is also friends with Cath. Cath’s daughter is due to get married next year. Cath has invited Anna and Beth’s children to come along the morning of the wedding to watch the bride get her makeup and hair done and put on her dress. Beth is invited to the wedding. Her children, Anna and Anna’s children aren't. Beth and Cath think this is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, Cath and her daughter aren’t anxious/stressed people and Beth thinks it’ll be fun for the children to watch. Anna thinks even non-anxious people will be stressed on their wedding day and having four young children running around won’t be a good idea. Who is being unreasonable?

YABU- Anna is wrong, it’ll be fun for the children and they’ve been invited by Cath so it’s fine
YANBU- Beth is wrong, no one wants random kids running around when they’re getting ready to get married, stay away

It’d be shitty for the kids to get them all excited for a wedding that they aren’t invited to. Totally stupid idea. If they were invited it would be a lovely idea.

Sounds weird to me. Why would everyone want to see someone get their hair and makeup done?

Also an extra 4 kids knocking around is going to be a lot especially on your wedding day.

That sounds batshit and the last thing I’d want when getting ready for my wedding. Also sounds boring for the kids.

It sounds like a very odd thing to invite young primary ages children to especially given none of them are actually attending the wedding. I would imagine the children will be bored and I can't think the make up artist or hairdresser will be thankful for the extra distraction.

On that basis Anna is in the right.

What's the bride's take on all this? How does she feel about kids underfoot while she's getting ready for her wedding? Just because her mother thinks it will be fun doesn't mean she'll be fine with it!

On the surface I have to say YANBU. If the bride's OK with it then that's a different story.

Rubbish idea and is Anna expected to take all the children home afterwards?

I doubt the children would have any interest in watching a person get dressed up!

Errm it's really up to the bride whether she wants a gawping audience?

Up to the bride.

So are you thinking Cath has invited them and the bride doesn’t want them? I wouldn’t.

Surely Cath shouldn't be speaking for her daughter. The bride should decide.

Unless their house is huge lots of people will just get in the way, children might be bored.

Maybe the children could stand outside and wave her off into the car if the children really want to see the bride on her wedding day?

Up to Cath's daughter whether she wants the DC around, and the DCs' parents if they want them to go.

I should think watching someone getting ready would be pretty boring for anyone!

Cath is fucking odd!

She's invited 4 primary school children to watch her daughter get her wedding hair done, and then go home.

Wtf? Who even thought this up?

I doubt the bride will enjoy that at all. Bad idea

Why on earth would the bride want random that aren't even invited to the wedding gawping at her as she gets dressed, has make up etc done?! That's absolutely batshit.

Does she know her DM has done this? If my DM invited random people to watch me get dressed I'd think she was losing the plot.

And why would kids want to watch that? It will surely be absolutely boring for them, and they don't even get to have a dance and a bit of cake afterwards?!

Redic idea.

Cath sounds like a right weirdo! If cath is Beth’s friend why would she invite Anna’s children to watch the bride put her makeup on? (I don’t get why she’d invite Beth’s children either if none of them are going to the wedding).

anna is right and it sounds totally shit for her - does she ‘get’ to watch the bride get ready as well before taking the kids home as none of them are invited to the actual wedding??

If I was getting ready for my wedding the last thing I'd want is four random kids running around me! The bride probably wants her mum/sisters/bridesmaids with her and no one else! There will also be photos taken, she won't want your kids in the photos! It also sounds utterly boring for the kids.

So weird! Does she even know the children?

Cath is not the bride and therefore shouldn’t be inviting people’s kids round to watch her daughter like a zoo exhibit on the morning of her wedding. It’s fucking weird and Anna is absolutely right.

Also, even if the bride is inexplicably OK with this, it’s very inconsiderate to the hair and makeup artist who is going to have to do her job with random kids gawping at her and getting in the way.

I think you’ve done a good job at putting something together like this that in what appears to be a very unbiased way.
No random kids at bridal prep unless the bride is utterly insistent that they are there.

Bonkers and totally batshit idea.
Asking for trouble.

That bride will be murderous when she finds out what her darling mother has breezily suggested. To be the entertainment for four unrelated bored primary kids while you’re getting reading on your wedding morning… every bride’s dream! 🙄 YANBU

This. Awful idea.

So they want to drag kids along to see some women get ready for a wedding,how boring

and watch out for the tears when you then tell them they can’t go to the wedding

Ridiculous idea

I’d be absolutely screwing if I was Cath’s daughter putting it mildly what a stupid thing to do!

Does Cath even know Anne? Or Anne's kids?

Does the bride know any of them?!