Who is in the wrong?

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Friend and I can’t agree so we’ve agreed I’ll put on here objectively and see what the majority say. names changed obviously although it’s pretty obvious if you know us!

anna and Beth have been friends 20+ years and both have primary aged children. Beth is also friends with Cath. Cath’s daughter is due to get married next year. Cath has invited Anna and Beth’s children to come along the morning of the wedding to watch the bride get her makeup and hair done and put on her dress. Beth is invited to the wedding. Her children, Anna and Anna’s children aren't. Beth and Cath think this is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, Cath and her daughter aren’t anxious/stressed people and Beth thinks it’ll be fun for the children to watch. Anna thinks even non-anxious people will be stressed on their wedding day and having four young children running around won’t be a good idea. Who is being unreasonable?

YABU- Anna is wrong, it’ll be fun for the children and they’ve been invited by Cath so it’s fine
YANBU- Beth is wrong, no one wants random kids running around when they’re getting ready to get married, stay away

Agree. Sounds like my worst nightmare!!!

Why would the children be interested in this? It sounds quite boring. And if they were interested, wouldn't they then be upset to be sent home and not go to the wedding?

how boring for the kids😂.

why would anyone want to do this? Kids want to go and see the barbie movie or the little mermaid - not some rand one women get her hair done.

how odd

watch the bride get her makeup and hair done and put on her dress

Mrs Oleson would have enjoyed watching Nelly.

It's not a treat for anyone else, that's a new level of bridezilla😂

This. The whole thing is batshit.

It really sounds like an ‘only on mumsnet never in the real world’ scenario

Beth is wrong.
Why would 4 young kids want to watch someone getting ready to get married?
Really weird

Crazy idea.

It doesn't sound stressful. Not everyone finds the morning of theor wedding stressful, I didn't and some extra kids around wouldn't have bothered me. I would just be a bit baffled by why they were there. I can imagine DD being interested for about 5 minutes seeing the dress but that's it

It's up to the bride to decide who's invited over to gawp at her.

When I was a primary school aged child I would have been pissed off at this bullshit way of wasting a Saturday morning.

This is exactly what I was going to say.

It's not up to Anne, Beth or even Cath. The only person's opinion that matters is the bride.

Anyway, my personal opinion, is wedding prep is no place for other people's children.
I can understand if the children are related to the bride or are bridesmaids, as they can all get ready together.
But others people children, who are there purely to watch is a bit weird.

In my opinion it’s a crazy idea! Assuming the bride also has bridesmaids getting ready, potentially that’s 4 other bodies in the house! As well as mother of the bride and mother of the groom? Children really won’t be excited at seeing a random woman putting on make up and having her hair done. Perhaps they could go and wave her off from the house when she’s fully made up and in her dress? That seems to me to be the part where small children might like to see.

The only person's opinion that matters is the bride.

and the poor kids being "treated" to watch paint dry - sorry, the bride being made up for the day 😂

True 😂

Batshit

I agree with others why would kids want to watch someone get married and then not attend the wedding there is nothing fun about that at all . I’m guessing this bride has no idea what children think is fun .

sorry should say watch someone getting ready for a wedding .

I can't imagine any kid being remotely interested in watching a random lady getting her hair and make up done. Mind numbingly dull.

Why would anyone want to watch someone get their hair and makeup done, never mind the fact the kids presumably don’t even know the bride? 🤣 Cath is crazy, sounds like she’s assumed everyone cares about her daughters wedding preparations as much as she does.

How odd.
They're not even invited to the wedding.

Thanks everyone. I’m Anne in this situation and thought it was odd but I’ve never been married so wasn’t sure if I was overreacting. Very happy to not take my kids. Hadn’t even thought she might be using it as a way to get me to take her kids

Beth’s basically trying to get you to look after her kids op….

This ^^

Why on earth would she think kids would be interested in watching someone get ready. Reminds me of the bloody Hindu ceremonys my mum took us to sometimes, hours of waiting and watching someone have a bath and get ready, we were bored shitless but at least we got to party after, these kids are being packed off home before any fun starts!

Sounds crap for the kids. They'll either be bored witless at the whole pointless exercise, or get really hyped up about the whole wedding thing and be gutted they haven't been invited.

I mean, "Hey kids, this wedding is so important and exciting that just watching someone get ready for it is a treat. What? No, you're not going. Why would we invite you?"

You are 100% intended to take all of the kids @TaylorTickets.

I would quickly invent a trip to relatives or something, that means you can’t take Beth’s kids all day & possibly over night.