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Original poster

To keep DD off school for the last week because i am just so done with it now?

89 replies

PhantomUnicorn · 11/07/2023 16:50

Yes i'm joking.. but man, i wish it were possible. If she were at primary i'd probably consider it, but she's Yr9 and doing gcse stuff

This last bit of the school year is dragging so badly, and i am SO done with it.. i want the summer break already.

10 days left.

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Blueskysunflower · 11/07/2023 16:52

She’s in y9. Unless there’s some SEN you haven’t mentioned, how involved do you really need to be in her school life? In what ways are you finding it so difficult?

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 11/07/2023 16:54

I felt like that last week. I was struggling to the finish line.
My son finished on Friday but he's only 7.

You're almost there! Think of the rest and break you can have soon.

Dacadactyl · 11/07/2023 16:55

I agree with @Blueskysunflower. By year 9 is she not getting herself to and from school etc. Not sure how difficult it could be really?

I have the opposite problem...now that my kids are older, i wish the school's stayed open during the summer 😂

Snoopsnoggysnog · 11/07/2023 16:56

Eh I don’t get it? You’re not the teacher or the pupil so what exactly do you need a break from?

Original poster
PhantomUnicorn · 11/07/2023 17:04

i have to drive her to/from school every day.

I have ADHD, and its a mental task that constantly nags, it causes task paralysis and i'm struggling to do anything after lunch at the moment because my brain is just 'you can't do that because you have to get dd from school'

Once school is out and i don't have to do pick up, that task goes and i can properly relax and get some stuff done. Its a strange thing to explain, but its like i have mental fatigue and i need to switch off, which i can't do until school run is done with for a bit.

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Mariposista · 11/07/2023 17:04

So teach her that in the future when she is in the workforce she can do sweet sod all and stay at home 4 days before her annual leave starts? Ok great idea.

DancingBarefootTonight · 11/07/2023 17:04

It does seem to be dragging now.

My daughter is in year 9 and she’s very much ready for the summer holidays. It seems to be mostly reward trips, other outings, assemblies, sports days etc, a lot of which she’s not bothered about.

Roll on the 25th July. I drop her off and pick her up every day so will be nice to not have that for 6 weeks and we’re looking forward to going away and relaxing.

DancingBarefootTonight · 11/07/2023 17:06

So teach her that in the future when she is in the workforce she can do sweet sod all and stay at home 4 days before her annual leave starts? Ok great idea.

Did you miss the bit where she said she was joking? 😅

Original poster
PhantomUnicorn · 11/07/2023 17:08

DancingBarefootTonight · 11/07/2023 17:06

So teach her that in the future when she is in the workforce she can do sweet sod all and stay at home 4 days before her annual leave starts? Ok great idea.

Did you miss the bit where she said she was joking? 😅

I think some people don't understand sarcasm/tongue in cheek jokes. smh

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Dacadactyl · 11/07/2023 17:15

Can she not get herself to and from school? Save you the hassle of it?

Thehop · 11/07/2023 17:17

YANbu
ine broke up last week and I'm so pleased x

queenrollo · 11/07/2023 17:19

@PhantomUnicorn i get task paralysis too and find it really hard to get other stuff done when I am clock watching to do the afternoon school run.
And I see people already questioning why she can't get herself to school. Some of us live rurally and have no choice but to take our kids to school! Where I live even if we had public transport that ran at the right time I would still have to get my child to the bus stop!

I always find this last bit before they break up really hard and I think the ADHD makes it worse because the end of term is just like a bigger version of the daily school run....it's a target, that keeps you in waiting mode.
Hang on in there!

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2023 17:22

I feel your pain - this year has been difficult for my yr9 - bullying, break ups, friend groups changing - SM playing a huge part in all the tears and refusal to go in (always manage but often late - due to the effort of getting them up and in - plus me working!) - finally we had an incident of SH last week and I kept her off for a day.

She's got 2.5 days left! OMG roll on summer!

LadyHag · 11/07/2023 17:23

Veering off topic but I would love to know where or what sort of lifestyles mumsnetters have where they would nerd to drive their child to the school bus collection point!

I'm imaging the farms in America that are huge, but are there any mumsnetters who live so u rally that they have to do this? I'm fascinated and a bit envious of such isolated (possibly) living!

Staggersaurus · 11/07/2023 17:23

I’m the same OP, I hate these last 2 weeks of school. For anxious kids being out of routine isn’t fun - for them and me!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/07/2023 17:25

England (and Wales if they want to) need to move to Scottish holidays.

Not half term in the summer but a two week half term in Oct/ Nov. Sorted.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/07/2023 17:27

Veering off topic but I would love to know where or what sort of lifestyles mumsnetters have where they would nerd to drive their child to the school bus collection point!

My Mum ended up having to do this. We lived in the sticks and the nearest non grammars (they didn’t put us in for the exams) were in the next county.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/07/2023 17:28

So she drove us to the bus stop when they cancelled the bus to our village.

Until I learnt to drive but then that meant if she chose to lend it to me instead she either had no car for the day or drove my dad to the station for work.

Original poster
PhantomUnicorn · 11/07/2023 17:41

the only bus that'd get her there on time leaves at 7.15am and requires a change of bus at a big hub station 10 miles away, and costs £20 a week in fares... and is frequently late meaning the kids miss the connection.

me taking her is a 10 minute drive and peace of mind that she has arrived safe and on time.

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unicornhair · 11/07/2023 17:47

She might start her new timetable in the last week, lots of schools do. They do try and keep the last weeks a bit more enjoyable as it is a struggle to keep going in, she might miss out on some good stuff.

queenrollo · 11/07/2023 17:52

@LadyHag I live in a hamlet, not especially isolated but it is a 2 mile walk to the nearest bus stop and not along roads that are safe to walk. People drive like idiots along them, and they are unlit so absolutely not safe to walk in the winter. This is for a public bus.
As we have Grammar schools, the nearest one in my catchment does have a school bus but the nearest stop for that is 5 miles away, and just on the side of a busy road. Because it goes round the villages, it's twice as long as just driving your children to school. It's mainly working parents using that because they have no choice.

Maireas · 11/07/2023 17:55

Teach her how to drive and just leave the keys on the side.

RampantIvy · 11/07/2023 17:56

She might start her new timetable in the last week, lots of schools do.

DD's school used to do that. They used to finish the year when the GCSEs finished and have a bit of a celebration for the school for all years at the end of June, then start the new school year at the beginning of July. So DD actually started her GCSE syllabus in the July of year 9.

Veering off topic but I would love to know where or what sort of lifestyles mumsnetters have where they would nerd to drive their child to the school bus collection point!

You must live in a town or city @LadyHag. DD's old school is in a rural market town where pupils are bussed in from loads of different villages and hamlets. Some pupils don't live near a bus stop, which might be on a winding country lane with no pavements, so they need to be dropped of at the bus stop by a parent.

RampantIvy · 11/07/2023 17:57

Teach her how to drive and just leave the keys on the side.

She is year 9 @Maireas, so only 13 or 14.

Maireas · 11/07/2023 18:03

RampantIvy · 11/07/2023 17:57

Teach her how to drive and just leave the keys on the side.

She is year 9 @Maireas, so only 13 or 14.

Evening, @RampantIvy . I know ☺️ The OP was being quite light hearted and I was just being silly! Tempting, though if our teens could just drive themselves to school!