OH won’t call repairmen

[Nyna]

So this might be an odd one. a bit of context.

I bought a flat last December by myself. I have been in a relationship for three years, but I bought on my own. He relocated for me and he has his own flat in another city.

The flat needs a bit of work and the purchase itself was a hectic process. I did it all on my own, though he will argue he came with me to choose appliances and such.

There are a couple things that need to be done in the windows (and in many other places). Around April I said: I will arrange the curtain fittings and you arrange the other window repair.

I got the curtain fittings. He hasn’t done his part. I remind him two or three times a week, he always says he has been too busy all day. Or that he called and they didn’t pick up. I share the contact again that he has to call or that he could even Whatsapp. No “luck”, and it’s f*cking tiresome, it’s been months.

I did my part and he hasn’t done his. But it’s a cosmetic thing so he doesn’t REALLY care. But I need to see that he helps with something, if that makes sense?

Today I told him that until he calls I won’t be calling anywhere, not even take away. He then said he just doesn’t like calling people, so that’s an admission that he wasn’t even trying. If that fear is true that’s actually also a real fear of mine, but I do what I have to do. He knows I hate it (I have social anxiety) and he still makes me call restaurants and other places 90% of the time. Someone has to, I guess.

AIBU in standing my ground and never calling anyone “for us” ever again?
And AIBU to be upset?

No one said that

Where has anyone said that?

There's a huge difference between taking responsibility for yourself (bills, food, cleaning) and taking responsibility for the repairs of someone else's property.

When DH and I moved in together, he already owned our house - until we married and my name was put on the deeds, any repairs were organised and paid for by him. That doesn't mean I didn't clean up after myself, cook meals or pay for my share of electric or gas, though.

Sounds like you’re in the business of procuring fixer uppers. You want to do up the flat you got which sounds understandable. Less understandable is why you’re with someone where you’ve had to mother them basically to do tasks for themselves.

I couldn't have a relationship with this man child. He doesn't even pay rent!
If he can't even do this one little, itty bitty thing, I think the best thing would be to show him the door.