to ask what's rudest/most bizarre wedding behaviour you've known of?

[PinkStarAtNight]

Lighthearted thread, inspired by the mention of wedding politics on another thread...just interested to know if anyone out there has experienced/known of any weddings/wedding related behaviour more bizarre/rude than the one I know of. Wedding guest behaviour, bride/groom behaviour and weddings that were just bizarre in general all welcome...

So, I'll start:
Couple getting married were on a very low budget (so much so that their centrepiece wedding cake was actually just cardboard with icing and decorations over it) but they still wanted a 'nice/fancy' wedding with sit down meal and servers...so they hired a town hall for an 'afternoon tea' luncheon type thing just after the wedding, with only close friends and family invited. They then asked other, less close, friends to 'have the privilege' of serving them at this 'high tea' event, free of charge, as a favour, instead of an invite to the wedding (not even the evening party that came later).
It was actually phrased as 'would you like to have the privilege of serving us at our wedding?' and people who were asked were very much expected to see it as an honour. Apparently it's somewhat of the 'done thing' in their circle.

These friends/servers were given waiter/waitress uniforms to wear. Just another reminder- they were NOT being paid. One of the people asked to do it was a friend of mine. She actually thought she was quite close to the family, had known them years and been round for dinner and things like that, but realised they obviously didn't see her that way when instead of a proper invite to the wedding she was asked to do this.

She said that she accidentally split tea whilst pouring it out for someone at this 'luncheon' (I mean its not like she was a professional server!) and the bride's father snapped at her. Everyone at the table treated her exactly like a professional server, not making wye contact, not even thanking her, barking orders at her etc, even though she had known all of them for years and spent time at their house for gatherings...all the servers were 'thanked' a few weeks after the wedding with a box of basic Cadbury chocolates, the type that cost about £5 from Tesco. These boxes of chocolates were elaborately wrapped up and sent with thank you cards. Once opening the box, my friend realised they were all white...looked at the sell by date and they were years out!! 😂

Now, it wasn't really anything to me because I wasn't close to couple (knew them, had mutual friends but never expected to be invited in any capacity) so didn't affect me at all, but I think the whole thing was completely bizarre and such rude and entitled behaviour towards people who were supposed to be their friends. Apparently being asked to dress up in a waitor outfit and take orders/serve people is an immense honour. I didn't, and still don't, have words 😂

Anyone else got anything to top this?

You both sound like arseholes

This says more about us than them. We’re atheists and also very British. A lovely friend had a very happy clappy wedding and almost everyone else invited was Born Again. She’d sent us the hymns to revise (thoughtful) but other than that I expected a normal wedding with drinking and dancing. I just hadn’t counted on quite so much swaying, clapping, holding the hand of the person next to you, teetotalers, embracing the person in front of you, AMEN-ing etc and nobody else was planning on drinking more than enough to toast the bride and groom. They were and are deliciously in love and I guess it was an honour to be the only heathens at the feast but I was walking on eggshells all day and I think we even adopted alternate personalities to enable us to mingle with the other guests.

I was bridesmaid for an ultimate bridezilla who basically fell out with her entire family, groom’s family, most of the bridesmaids and all the groom’s friends in the run up due to outrageous demands and acting like a complete princess (eg, none of us were allowed to get married in the same year, as it was ‘her year’, we werent allowed to be pregnant at the wedding, she wanted a four day no expense spared hen do and was furious that we scaled it back so people could afford it). By the day of the wedding I was miserable and hadn’t slept the night before. Bride has face like slapped arse all day and they have spent tens of thousands on ridiculous things like chocolate fountains and ice sculptures but she couldn’t crack a smile. Got her head bridesmaid (thankfully not me) to tell someone off who made a cute and well meaning joke during her speech. Treated us like slaves all day. I could go on! They didn’t last 😒

Well, my cousins new husband trying it in with me at his wedding ( oh a little kiss for the groom) pales into comparison.

I didn’t think people like you still existed. Can’t see what fat shaming the bride has to do with your taste in curtains but each to their own.

@toxic44

Your story wins

Oh yeah. We had to learn a traditional German song to sing for a destination wedding. Nobody learned it and the bride was pissed off. Neither she nor the groom was German. Nobody at the wedding spoke German.

@Missingpop Nasty nasty nasty

This makes you and your DH look like dicks. No one else.

@ilovetomatoes

In the evening there was an open bar. The grooms family asked the staff the give them loads of unopened alcohol and took it home with them.

Seriously what is wrong with some people? Where are their morals? It’s crazy to think people actually behave like this……..& think nothing of it!

When OP asked for the rudest, most bizarre wedding behaviour people have seen, I think she meant from the wedding party or other guests, not from posters themselves.

I can't believe your friend actually agreed to go and be their unpaid server Op.

I was in a friendship group and one of the group was getting married. While I wasn't the closest of the group to the friend getting married, I was far from the least (or so I thought). In fact she spent half her time slagging two members of the group off.

Anyway I received the invite to her wedding. At first I didn't clock it as I was invited to the ceremony and the evening reception, so presumed it was the whole day. Only on later inspection I realised I wasn't invited to the wedding breakfast. No big deal I thought at first. I messaged the rest of the group to find out who else wasn't invited to the wedding breakfast thinking we could go for food somewhere together. Only to find out it was just me. Apart from my hurt feelings (and wondering what she must be saying about me given the way she spoke about two of the group who had been invited), the venue was an hour and a half from where I live. What I was supposed to do for the time they were sat having their meal, speeches etc I am unsure given I would be dressed for a wedding. I messaged her honestly saying how hurt I was by her decision. Her response was 'My Wedding my choice'. I said 'Fine, just as it is my choice not to come'.

Mainly because people wanted huge, tall, multi-tier, cakes that, if all cake, would feed hundreds

Oh ye of little faith.

What a fucking vile comment
You should be ashamed of yourself @Missingpop
Not even slightly amusing

I’ve got loads. I’ve been to a lot of weddings.

At one very upmarket one, during the wedding breakfast, about 14 nanoseconds after the best man had sat down from delivering his unbelievably awkward speech, an old uni friend of the groom made a big drunken show of proposing to his girlfriend at the table. On one knee and everything. The room was struck dumb at the timing. They were a bit ‘notorious’ anyway, and proceeded to be so drunk they caused a huge scene later on and knocked a cheese cake over.

At another, it was doomed from the get-go when the groom went out clubbing with his uni mates towards the end of the reception (not even at the actual end), leaving his bride behind at the hotel, angry and very, very upset.

One best man speech was so awkward I could colour-up just think on about it now. He couldn’t read a room, and went on and on about who the groom had shagged at uni and how hot they were. The FOTBride manhandled him out of the marquee in the end.

Another best man made eight or nine jokes about necrophilia during his speech. They weren’t just not funny, they were absolutely hideous. I don’t know why he’s felt that would be a rich vein of comedy.

At my wedding, my pushy inlaws (who did not part with a penny, we did it all ourselves) insisted upon inviting a load of their friends that I had never met. One, a church volunteer in his 60s no less, got so pissed during the meal that he made loud and extremely inappropriate jokes. My Aussie mum, who is very good at taking people in hand and diffusing situations had her work cut out, and when she talked about me by name he said, “who the fuck is Hibi?” My mum nearly hit him. Anyway, every single one of them, my FIL included, for so drunk on our free bar that they were all just staggering about. The church guy shit himself and passed out in the amazing gardens, and someone thought he was dead. They alarmed a few people running in and shouting this into the reception like an episode of Midsomer Murders. His poor, poor and extremely mortified wife tried to get him home but no taxi would take him and so she wound up sitting over his shitty not-quite-corpse, in the gardens, until he awoke at the break of the next day, at which point they were seen with her frogmarching him away on foot.

@VinoVeritas1 Thank you! Biggest shambles ever.

Oh! I forgot one. Really, really swanky London one. Groom was found doing Coke with a bridesmaid. Not ideal, you might think. Well, he was found snorting it off her tits as he fingered her. By the bride’s sister. Absolutely hideous. Hideous. The fall out was mind blowing. That makes me feel uncomfortable just thinking back to it. (That was a huge six-figure wedding, there’s bound to be a fellow guest on here 😬)

The net curtains one is really mean. Sniggering behind hands at a bride for her weight and dress when she and her partner invited you to share their day. Really twatty.

Went to a wedding where the groom's uncle was a hobby photographer and was clearly hurt that he'd not been asked to be the official photographer... so he took his massive professional camera and tried to position people in groups outside the church. Actual photographer had a face like thunder.

I had this done to me too! She even got me to go to her house after they'd left for honeymoon and tidy it for them coming home. Inexplicably I stayed friends with her for another few years, thankfully the friendship has now faded...

^ This has got to be the worst!

@user1473878824 I have been to about 50 weddings and not one of them have I been seated separately from my other half. not the done thing. I have been to one wedding where they had no seating plan whatsoever. q 250 people trying to sit down. our table had two seats left but then just as starters were served two of the loudest drunks sat down. horrendous.
last wedding was at they sat us with my 70 year old mother in law and the priest (who was hammered) not with the cousins who we could have a laugh with. Father of bride speech was 20 mins long so boring and band didn't start 11:30 pm just as most were leaving

My wedding.

Had our wedding cards opened and £3k (that we can account for after being told who gave what when we said to family we thought money was missing). Turned out to be a person we considered a friend and had the reception at his venue because he was desperate for trade after lockdowns

My make up artist stopped being a make up artist during lockdown. Except my in law who booked her as a wedding gift "forgot" to tell me until a month before the wedding. No chance of booking anyone, middle of restrictions still at that point, so had to do my own and I'm shite at make up.

The cake was left next to a radiator which was inexplicably on as it was hot and June. It resembled the leaning tower of Pisa by the time we went to cut it. The staff member who put it there said it was an accident, then was overheard slagging us off because she thought she was invited to the wedding (we barely knew her). She was also saying it was cruel for her to have to work as her boyfriend had dumped her and her new one hadn't asked to marry her yet.

One of or DHs mates came who I'd only met a few times, he brought a random girl friend and they were both pissed by the time we got to the reception. She was put in a cab after they had a huge drunken row. He then threw a drink in another friends face as he misheard what was said, so her partner (female) punched him in the face (can't say I blamed her actually)

I've told DH we need a reception do over

My kids all had evening guests - mostly colleagues.

Food is definitely supplied - always an evening buffet at any I've been to or been involved with

Ah, ok so it’s more that you’re miffed that you weren’t invited. Sounds like your cousin doesn’t feel particularly close to you, and it’s a bit off to make that seem like some kind of callous slight against your mum who is clearly feeling over-sensitive.