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Do you think your child is the best

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 18:52

Following on from a post asking if parents think their child is the best looking.

Something I've been wondering, do all parents think their child is the best?

So in a group of kids the same age do you think your child is better than the others? If so in what way? And vice versa?

Just out of interest

OP posts:
Noicant · 07/07/2023 18:54

Not objectively, I’m fully aware their kids who are perhaps more attractive, more able at things, smarter etc. But she’s the best girl in the world to me

HeadNorth · 07/07/2023 18:56

They are the best to me, obviously objectively I know they aren’t the best looking, cleverest people in the world, but they are still the best.

UsingChangeofName · 07/07/2023 18:56

Of course not.

I love them dearly, and they all have their qualities and all have their flaws like every human being.

That's in all things, not specific to (but including) looks.

FastBlueHedgehog · 07/07/2023 18:57

I don't think they are, I know they are 🤣

Somanycats · 07/07/2023 18:57

Yes. He's not biologically related to me tho if that makes any difference. I also think I am right tho as supported by the evidence. He has dated more, had many friends, has desired measurements etc. Don't.know what I would have thought if he hadn't been objectively good looking. I can only presume I would have noticed!

GloomySkies · 07/07/2023 18:58

DD is the absolute best at dropping things at her arse and not picking them up.

Spendonsend · 07/07/2023 18:58

Yes my children are the best children.
I am sure some are cleverer, better looking, sportier, kinder etc. But they just arent as good. In fact a lot are really annoying.

Eustaciavile · 07/07/2023 18:59

My 4 (now adult) children are collectively the best. Factually.
surprised you had to ask tbh, it’s well known 😁

Tosire · 07/07/2023 18:59

Absolutely. Not to the point I actually think other children aren't worth as much as mine but they definitely aren't worth as much TO ME. Every child is the best child to their own parents. In life people sometimes want another person's body or money or house or relationship or looks or intelligence or friends or social life or job but they never want another person's child. They want their own and all others pale in comparison. That's biology for you.

IncompleteSenten · 07/07/2023 19:02

Objectively, no they aren't 'the best' . But I think they're fantastic young men with a lot of good qualities.

NuffSaidSam · 07/07/2023 19:02

Tosire · 07/07/2023 18:59

Absolutely. Not to the point I actually think other children aren't worth as much as mine but they definitely aren't worth as much TO ME. Every child is the best child to their own parents. In life people sometimes want another person's body or money or house or relationship or looks or intelligence or friends or social life or job but they never want another person's child. They want their own and all others pale in comparison. That's biology for you.

That's a lovely way of looking at it.

Although, when you have a newborn/baby that wakes every 45 minutes and your friend has one who sleeps 12 hours overnight you do occasionally want someone else's baby.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 07/07/2023 19:03

I do, they really are stunning. Like honestly gorgeous and such beautiful people, kind, compassionate, giving, funny. They are just like me 🤣🤣 Im joking! They are much better than me and are already (touch wood) making a wonderful contribution to the planet. Other people’s kids are lovely too; but not on the same level.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 07/07/2023 19:03

No, my oldest is distinctly below average. I still love him to pieces but I'm extremely realistic about his abilities and prospects. It's been very obvious since he was a small baby.

IdealisticCynic · 07/07/2023 19:03

Everyone thinks their child/children are the best. They can’t see objectively. Because if they did, they’d realise mine is the best!

KnitMePurlMe · 07/07/2023 19:04

Objectively and subjectively mine are the best. I feel sad for other parents who have kids who aren’t as amazing as mine 😜

LuvSmallDogs · 07/07/2023 19:05

My son may not be the "best" at everything, but he has a good attitude.

Today for example, he did poorly at Sport's Day while smiling the whole time and had a blast. The nasty little shit who has been violent towards my son and teased him over his red hair ran to his mummy in tears after doing badly at the egg and spoon and refused to further participate.

I told my son, "If that boy starts taking the pee again, say to him 'at least I don't go crying to mum over an egg and spoon race'"! 🤣

Popsicle42 · 07/07/2023 19:06

My daughter is objectively very intelligent and one of the smartest in her year group across most subjects so I would say amongst her peer group she is one of the best at academia.
She’s very definitely not the best at sports or music. Not even close.

My son hasn’t really found his thing yet - I wouldn’t class him as the best at anything specific.

But each of them is the funniest, most loving, kindest, infuriating, annoying, quirky, nerdy kids. They are absolutely the best kids I could ever have wanted and I count myself lucky every single day that they’re mine.

willstarttomorrow · 07/07/2023 19:07

Well I only have one and they are my favourite DC! I love them to bits and I am supportive of their achievements and understand their set backs and difficulties more than any one else. I will defend them when appropriate to do so but I think it has been important to recognise when they have been in the wrong and either not engage in unconditional support or when needed point this out.

I was widowed when they were young and we are a close knit little team. I have their back but I refuse to be one of 'those parent's who quickly become defensive when they make mistakes or are overly involved in every thing as they grow into adulthood. I do usually let late DH away with an elevation to sainthood though- obvs he would have been less grumpy/strict/amazing during teenage battles 😁

whatkatydid2013 · 07/07/2023 19:12

I love them the most. I don’t think they are the best at everything. My eldest is very kind and compassionate and she’s definitely one of the best in her friendship circle at arty stuff but there are many things she is a lot less good at. My youngest is bright, articulate & funny and she’s certainly among the best dancers & far and away best at maths in her year group.

Saschka · 07/07/2023 19:13

Definitely think mine is the best. I think I have kind of kid beer goggles, but I look at him and he is absolutely beautiful to me. Curly blond hair, big grey eyes, angelic face. And definitely clever - not the cleverest in the class, but bright and asks intelligent questions, and is interested in everything around him. Works hard and is conscientious.

It’s probably at least partly confirmation bias - I notice the bright questions and cherubic face, and ignore the bum jokes and pulling silly faces. But yep, definitely the best child in the world to me.

Damnbrsatz · 07/07/2023 19:17

Mine isn't the best academically, or the most beautiful or the most confident but she is simply the best 16 year old I know. She has shown so much resilience after being removed from her parents at age 4 and coming to us at 5. She bounces back from any set back, she's funny, sometimes affectionate, sometimes a snappy, moody teen but she is MINE and I could burst with pride when I compare her to that 5 year old who spent the whole of Y1 hiding under a table at school (and everywhere else).

Basilandparsleyandmint · 07/07/2023 19:22

Well I think my DS and Dd re absolutely the best in the world. I love how kind, funny and just part of me. To me they are amazing and love them beyond how I could ever imagine before they were born.

freespirit333 · 07/07/2023 19:22

Tosire · 07/07/2023 18:59

Absolutely. Not to the point I actually think other children aren't worth as much as mine but they definitely aren't worth as much TO ME. Every child is the best child to their own parents. In life people sometimes want another person's body or money or house or relationship or looks or intelligence or friends or social life or job but they never want another person's child. They want their own and all others pale in comparison. That's biology for you.

Love this as it’s so true! I often wish my children behaved like other children as they can be the worst behaved. But I would never actually want those other children. Just for mine to me less naughty!

My eldest DC, on the other hand, is the most stunningly beautiful human being on this planet, but that’s another thread!

Popfan · 07/07/2023 19:22

My DS 15 is definitely the best! He struggles a bit academically, his room is a tip and he can be a pain in the arse at times but he's still brilliant. He's my favourite person to spend time with and is funny, kind, good company and I'm so proud of him!

Totalwasteofpaper · 07/07/2023 19:23

Mine is 18m so not much to benchmark.
I'd say she is comfortably in top 10% of of her peers shes a tidy and good eater shes hilarious and also a great dancer. She is also helpful / kind to animals and only cries when its serious or when i wont let her play with something that will kill her