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Do you think your child is the best

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 18:52

Following on from a post asking if parents think their child is the best looking.

Something I've been wondering, do all parents think their child is the best?

So in a group of kids the same age do you think your child is better than the others? If so in what way? And vice versa?

Just out of interest

OP posts:
XelaM · 07/07/2023 20:00

My teen daughter is everything I was not at her age, which never ceases to amaze me. She's VERY sporty, trendy, popular, always in the "cool" crowd at school, very pretty and takes extra care of her appearance - has beautiful hair, clear skin. She's also a very grounded, tough and resilient character. She's the girl I wanted to be when I was young 😍

mondaytosunday · 07/07/2023 20:01

I used to think they were the best kids in the world until they hit adolescence and then reality hit! But of course I never thought of them as the best in terms of looks/brains/personality etc, but they are pretty darn good in all those areas!

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 07/07/2023 20:03

No.

I mean, they’re my favourite children and I love them the most. I think they’re gorgeous and amazing (except even when they’re being objectionable little horrors!).

but I can still see when others are more objectively attractive or clever or whatever it may be.

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 20:06

Yellowlegobrick · 07/07/2023 19:54

But i clearly misunderstood the post here - yes, they are the best, obviously, to me. I secretly imagine other parents being jealous of mine.

😂. I'm convinced people are jealous of mine too.

OP posts:
BallantyneValentine · 07/07/2023 20:07

Subjectively yes. Objectively no.

Malarandras · 07/07/2023 20:08

They are the best to me, that’s what matters really 😀

daytriptovulcan · 07/07/2023 20:09

Certainly not...what the other swots are up to should serve as inspiration to my own...at least thats what I keep telling them.

Hardbackwriter · 07/07/2023 20:09

In mad, hormonal newborn days I absolutely did think this, particularly with PFB. I remember feeling a bit sorry for the other mums because they must be a bit jealous, and I remember being genuinely amazed that we weren't getting more attention when out and about - was it that people just hadn't looked inside the pram?! If they had surely they too would be struck with wonder at the child I had produced...

Now they're a little older I still absolutely wouldn't swap them for any other child in the world but I am more able to recognise that their superiority is not objective fact. This is also more or less how I feel about DH - I am very aware of his many and irritating imperfections, but I've never actually met anyone I'd rather be married to.

Desmondo2021 · 07/07/2023 20:12

I do genuinely believe my daughter is the most sorted child of her age on the planet. She's not the cleverest or i attractive (but she's up there) but on terms of all the best qualities (kind, grown up, fun, humour, helpful, sensible, reliable) she's an absolute gem!

Swishytwip · 07/07/2023 20:16

Yep! My 11 yr old is literally the best human being alive right now. It's just a fact.

Saschka · 07/07/2023 20:46

Hardbackwriter · 07/07/2023 20:09

In mad, hormonal newborn days I absolutely did think this, particularly with PFB. I remember feeling a bit sorry for the other mums because they must be a bit jealous, and I remember being genuinely amazed that we weren't getting more attention when out and about - was it that people just hadn't looked inside the pram?! If they had surely they too would be struck with wonder at the child I had produced...

Now they're a little older I still absolutely wouldn't swap them for any other child in the world but I am more able to recognise that their superiority is not objective fact. This is also more or less how I feel about DH - I am very aware of his many and irritating imperfections, but I've never actually met anyone I'd rather be married to.

Wasn’t there a parent on the PFB thread in classics who kept the pram hood permanently up for the first few months, in order to avoid making other mothers feel inadequate about their own second-rate babies 🤣

We could all relate, I’m sure.

Hardbackwriter · 07/07/2023 21:59

Saschka · 07/07/2023 20:46

Wasn’t there a parent on the PFB thread in classics who kept the pram hood permanently up for the first few months, in order to avoid making other mothers feel inadequate about their own second-rate babies 🤣

We could all relate, I’m sure.

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That wasn't me... (but it could have been).

stayflufft · 07/07/2023 22:00

Yes. My children are the best. They’re mine and they’re brilliant.

aSofaNearYou · 07/07/2023 22:01

I think my DD has her strengths and weaknesses. I always find her to be the most intelligent and witty child amongst her peers, but not always the most polite, or calm and attentive.

Chestnutlover · 07/07/2023 22:03

I would think my baby is the best whoever he was. I always will no matter

arlequin · 07/07/2023 22:08

Oh yes!!
Pregnant with DC2 and we always say we worry he/she couldn't be as special as DC1.
But they will!

bumblebee2235 · 07/07/2023 22:10

I think it's some weird primal maternal magic 😂😂

I look at my LO and she can do no wrong haha when she screams I think naww headstrong, be an independent strong woman 😂 never been like that in my life! I'm usually a class A pessimist! Even her snores don't irritate me when my own sleep breathing does!

mrssanchez · 07/07/2023 22:14

Nope. I'm the mum that other parents pity, my child is a bloody nightmare.
I love him but god, it's so hard. No one ever plans for their child to have special needs, it's fucking soul destroying most days.

SophieD1987 · 07/07/2023 22:14

I mean I definitely think my son is the most wonderful child who ever walked the earth.

I also think he is the most beautiful, intelligent and funny. But I am not oblivious to his failings - like PE is currently not his strong point and he can be naughty like all children can be.

I do also find it funny now though when I look back at some photos from when he was a baby with a wrinkly old man face because then I thought he was the most beautiful thing on the planet, and assumed everyone else thought so too. 🤣

Howmanysleepsnow · 07/07/2023 22:15

No.
They have strong points, offset by the infuriating bits! But I get on brilliantly with all 4 and think they all have potential to do amazingly in different ways. I wish I didn’t see the infuriating bits, but I can’t help it, and do wonder how so many parents seem blind to them.
i love them all though, exactly as they are.

nodogz · 07/07/2023 22:16

I don't think my lad is the best but I am very proud of him.

He's kind, curious, funny and confident. He's got more than a fair dollop of charisma. He sticks up for others and is very popular across his peers.

I can see some of his peers are jealous of him and can be unkind - it twists my heart when I see this. For both my boy who doesn't get it (it's not a behaviour he could comprehend) and his peer/s who are trying to make themselves feel better by bringing someone else down.

The best thing is that I'm letting (or supporting) him grow up to be his best self. We are not trying to mould him into our ideal. He's listened to, he's happy, he feels important. It feels miles away from my childhood.

ladygindiva · 07/07/2023 22:16

They're all three best in different ways. DC 1 is just the best as in most easygoing , pleasant to be around, hardworking and all round good person. Dc2 is simply the funniest person who I ever met. And dc3 is the cleverest, her brain and thoughts are incredible.

Questionsforyou · 07/07/2023 22:18

I don't think she is the smartest or most accomplished or whatever but I think she is the nicest, funniest, cutest and kindest little person and I do secretly believe everyone wishes she was their child 🤣🤣🤣 I know.
I also have a super cute baby and he is the best one.

brunettemic · 07/07/2023 22:43

My kids are awesome, others might not think so but who cares. Defining “the best” is tricky anyway, one of them plays football and he’s far from the best player on the team but he always gives it 100%. He’s therefore simultaneously not the best and also the best.

drunkpeacock · 07/07/2023 23:05

No I love him to bits but have quite a realistic view of where he is in relation to others in terms of looks, talent and intelligence. The thing is I've recently noticed that he's struggling with self-esteem and he could really do with a MH who isn't "realistic" and just thinks he's the most amazing child ever.