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Do you think your child is the best

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 18:52

Following on from a post asking if parents think their child is the best looking.

Something I've been wondering, do all parents think their child is the best?

So in a group of kids the same age do you think your child is better than the others? If so in what way? And vice versa?

Just out of interest

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Alyso · 07/07/2023 19:23

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whiteroseredrose · 07/07/2023 19:30

Fortunately I have the best son and the best daughter now that they are young adults. There were times when they were much younger that they were not so great!

truthhurts23 · 07/07/2023 19:32

my dd is the best to me and thats all i care about, she is unique love her

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:34

Spendonsend · 07/07/2023 18:58

Yes my children are the best children.
I am sure some are cleverer, better looking, sportier, kinder etc. But they just arent as good. In fact a lot are really annoying.

That's how I feel about mine!!

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:35

Tosire · 07/07/2023 18:59

Absolutely. Not to the point I actually think other children aren't worth as much as mine but they definitely aren't worth as much TO ME. Every child is the best child to their own parents. In life people sometimes want another person's body or money or house or relationship or looks or intelligence or friends or social life or job but they never want another person's child. They want their own and all others pale in comparison. That's biology for you.

Yes, this makes a lot of sense actually.

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Bellaboo01 · 07/07/2023 19:35

FastBlueHedgehog · 07/07/2023 18:57

I don't think they are, I know they are 🤣

THIS 100 % :) x

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:36

KnitMePurlMe · 07/07/2023 19:04

Objectively and subjectively mine are the best. I feel sad for other parents who have kids who aren’t as amazing as mine 😜

😂. I said this exact same thing to a family member.

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Pointypointything · 07/07/2023 19:37

Nope. I know someone has to be the parent of 'that' child and it's me. The child who doesn't conform, the child who would be the one on the centre of a scrap in soft play etc etc. Before anyone comes at me I marvel at the way he sees the world and a lot of the time his logic is beautiful - once he's explained it to me. He's mine and I love him beyond measure. But he's certainly not the best.

willstarttomorrow · 07/07/2023 19:37

@Damnbrsatz - as a CP social worker of many years, thank you for that post. I have one adopter who keeps in touch with me after several years with occasional updates an photos because she is so proud of her amazing children (and it was also an open adoption which still seems unusual).

There is absoultley no expectation that parents keep in touch post adoption, obviously what we want is normal family life so it is right we disappear. However, I will admit when I drive past any motorway exit thay leads to an adoptive hone of one of the children I worked with, I say hello, hope all okay and send lots of love 😁

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:39

Damnbrsatz · 07/07/2023 19:17

Mine isn't the best academically, or the most beautiful or the most confident but she is simply the best 16 year old I know. She has shown so much resilience after being removed from her parents at age 4 and coming to us at 5. She bounces back from any set back, she's funny, sometimes affectionate, sometimes a snappy, moody teen but she is MINE and I could burst with pride when I compare her to that 5 year old who spent the whole of Y1 hiding under a table at school (and everywhere else).

Ah, god bless her. What an amazing girl she sounds like. You are lucky to have each other.

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adventureswithashleyandco · 07/07/2023 19:39

Well. I do believe that it's important to give our children self-worth and complimenting them helps with this, however, putting other children down sets a bad example. We should focus on teaching our kids to be kind people! Personally I think my children are both special, but that does not mean other kids aren't! 😅

Somethingsnappy · 07/07/2023 19:40

Oh yes! To the point that I feel an embarrassing little jolt of resentment when other children in their class at school win awards/competitions etc. I'm fully aware how ridiculous I am though, and can at least laugh at myself (once the resentment passes of course).

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:41

adventureswithashleyandco · 07/07/2023 19:39

Well. I do believe that it's important to give our children self-worth and complimenting them helps with this, however, putting other children down sets a bad example. We should focus on teaching our kids to be kind people! Personally I think my children are both special, but that does not mean other kids aren't! 😅

I wouldn't ever put down another child in front of , or in earshot of, my kids. In private to my husband perhaps. 🙈. The most important things my kids can be is kind. We talk about it frequently and as far as I've seen, or been told, they are.

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Newuser75 · 07/07/2023 19:43

Somethingsnappy · 07/07/2023 19:40

Oh yes! To the point that I feel an embarrassing little jolt of resentment when other children in their class at school win awards/competitions etc. I'm fully aware how ridiculous I am though, and can at least laugh at myself (once the resentment passes of course).

YES! This is actually what brought this to my mind. As I always think mine should be getting the prize, as they are quite clearly better than the others 🙈. This is obviously a private (until now) thought!

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NeverThatSerious · 07/07/2023 19:43

Oh absolutely. I’m sickening proud of him. He’s only 2 (just under) but he’s bright and funny and so happy, always slept well, has always eaten well, he tries to be kind to animals, he’s super brave, teething is no bother, even when he had covid as a wee one he was still sweet.. he has basically just never given me any trouble at all.

Bellaboo01 · 07/07/2023 19:46

Tosire · 07/07/2023 18:59

Absolutely. Not to the point I actually think other children aren't worth as much as mine but they definitely aren't worth as much TO ME. Every child is the best child to their own parents. In life people sometimes want another person's body or money or house or relationship or looks or intelligence or friends or social life or job but they never want another person's child. They want their own and all others pale in comparison. That's biology for you.

Absolutely this :) x

Elfandwellbeing · 07/07/2023 19:46
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I feel sorry for all the mums I meet because I know, just know, I got the best children.

Schlomp · 07/07/2023 19:46

Nope. I dont ask my children to strive to be the best at anything, but to be themselves and love and respect themselves and others, and find their niche - there they'll find their tribe. I love them totally, faults and all. They're wonderfully imperfect

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 07/07/2023 19:50

I think my DS is the best fit for me.

Curseofthenation · 07/07/2023 19:51

My DS is only 2.5yrs old but I would say he is objectively attractive, over 90th centile for height and has always been ahead with motor skills. He learnt to speak at what seemed like a very average rate but his language and really progressed too. He's very social, kind-hearted and extroverted.

He can be very feisty and noticeable more energetic at times. I hope that he will calm down before he gets to school age but there's still lots of time.

I'm pregnant with my second and there is a small part of me that is worried that this child might not shine as bright. Obviously I will love the child no matter how they look and progress with motor and language skills etc. I guess I worry as a good friend has always felt like she lived in the shadow of her sister - who is objectively more intelligent and prettier. It doesn't mean my friend isn't an incredible woman in her own right, but it has cast a shadow over her. I'm not wringing my hands about it though as there's nothing I can do about it!

Yellowlegobrick · 07/07/2023 19:52

I like my kids, i think they are fairly clever, nice looking etc.

Clearly they are not the best at everything, looks are subjective. One of them does especially well at school but well within the realms of normal....

Curseofthenation · 07/07/2023 19:53

Excuse the typos - you can tell I woke up at 4.30am this morning due to pregnancy hormones 😆

kikisparks · 07/07/2023 19:54

Noicant · 07/07/2023 18:54

Not objectively, I’m fully aware their kids who are perhaps more attractive, more able at things, smarter etc. But she’s the best girl in the world to me

This. I do tell her all the time that she’s the best girl and my favourite person and she amazes me every day but I try not to compare her to others or stress about hitting milestones.

BelindaBears · 07/07/2023 19:54

Yes she’s hilarious. Other children are just annoying.

Yellowlegobrick · 07/07/2023 19:54

But i clearly misunderstood the post here - yes, they are the best, obviously, to me. I secretly imagine other parents being jealous of mine.