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OFSTED spoke to DD alone

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Ineedsleepnotsugar · 06/07/2023 22:31

Why the need to speak to her on her own in a separate room? How is this justified? I dont see the need for it and it matthews me feel uncomfortable.
Dd is 6.
She said the inspector asked her to read a book to her and then asked her time table as. And also asked her if she liked her school.

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SaltyCrisps · 10/07/2023 23:18

mousemosaic · 06/07/2023 22:34

Their DBS checked and highly vetted as they work for the government. YABU, hugely. They’ll have been wanting to speak to her separately and will have spoken to a few children of different ages to see what the children think of the school. Your daughter’s teacher, and more importantly your daughter, will have consented to this.

I don't disagree with most of that, but it's nonsensical to suggest that a six year old child is capable of giving meaningful consent in a situation like that, requested to do something by adults. That's not to suggest that it wasn't a reasonable request, but let's not suggest that this small child consented.

7eleven · 10/07/2023 23:22

Cocolebombom · 10/07/2023 23:13

"our brightest and best" this sums up what's wrong with teachers and schools. What a way to look at your students. Quite disgusting really, and a common outlook amongst schools.

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I think what the PP probably meant are the children who are the most likely to reliably show their ability. You are asked to give the names of a range of ability children. So you wouldn’t pick somebody who’s incredibly shy for example.

If someone came to look at your work, wouldn’t you choose aspects that showed you at your best?

By the way, again, the OP says on the first page that her child was fine about it.

Cocolebombom · 10/07/2023 23:24

ClairDeLaLune · 06/07/2023 23:31

Well we tell our kids not to talk to strangers so….. YANBU OP.

This. Totally agree.

toomuchlaundry · 10/07/2023 23:26

Shouldn’t be teaching stranger danger

SD1978 · 10/07/2023 23:42

"Well we tell our kids not to talk to strangers so….. YANBU OP"
@ClairDeLaLune - can't quote properly does this mean that any substitute teacher needs to be ignored too?

ThanksItHasPockets · 11/07/2023 05:54

Cocolebombom · 10/07/2023 23:07

But if it made the child uncomfortable then it's not good practice. They need to find a way to evaluate the school without kids being uncomfortable.

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There is absolutely nothing in OP’s posts to suggest that her child had any negative reaction or experience whatsoever. The discomfort is entirely OP’s.

Nordicrain · 11/07/2023 05:55

Cocolebombom · 10/07/2023 23:00

Why? Because your child is not government property.

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Clearly. But I am not sure why talking to a child for an investigation changes that.

I just don't really understand the concerns associated with this at all.

londonrach · 11/07/2023 06:02

I have a six year she can consent if needed...very much so...and also not consent and she understands why. Re 1:1 I'm sorry but every single school you find children are 1:1 with teachers, ta etc. Yabu and abit strange.

Tr1beca · 11/07/2023 06:06

Cocolebombom

” not good practice”” says who? You?

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