How do you know that you were experiencing coercion?

[coodawoodashooda]

I've been trying to work out why I didn't see it. The more I think it through, the more confused I become. Can anyone help?

Because hindsight is 20:20. It’s easy to see what was clearly going on and you’re through to the other side and can clearly see the intentions.

Personally speaking, I went along with it because I had low self-esteem, didn’t have the confidence to object, scared of being disliked, very inexperienced, scared of rejection or being alone and grew up in an environment where my feelings or thoughts didn’t matter much.

There are still somethings I really berate myself about but I just didn’t know any better at the time and I am wiser now and wouldn’t make the same mistake again.

Go easy on yourself x

I didn’t see it. For 20 years. X

Thank you for replying. It's so hard to move on.