Not to go watch DS in this play?

TeaKitten · 05/07/2023 21:27

Depends wether or not he wants you there, does he want you there or does he not care?

historygeek · 05/07/2023 21:30

Do you have work/ other commitments that make it difficult to get there?

I often have to explain to DS that I can't make such and such because of work... but I don't think I'd just not turn up because I couldn't be arsed and didn't deem his role important enough to warrant my attendance.

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Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:32

He said he doesn't care. That it is a waste of time.

I could make at least one performance if I really wanted to.

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spurs4ever · 05/07/2023 21:32

I'd go if one of mine were in it for 2 minutes or 20. It's your child, go and support him x

TeaKitten · 05/07/2023 21:33

Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:32

He said he doesn't care. That it is a waste of time.

I could make at least one performance if I really wanted to.

How old is he? Does he actually not care or is he saying it because you think that?

Personally I’d go anyway but everyone’s different.

Plutonium7000 · 05/07/2023 21:36

If I could go, I absolutely would, even if he says he doesn't care.

Pkhsvd · 05/07/2023 21:39

Personally I would go still

Anon9898 · 05/07/2023 21:40

I would go and see my son and then leave when his part is over

StayAnonn · 05/07/2023 21:40

He said he doesn't care. That it is a waste of time

Kids say a lot of stuff.

But he'll remember if you were there. And he'll remember that you weren't.

I totally get the frustration / mind numbing bordem of sitting through 90 minutes just to catch a 5 minute glimpse of your child. But it's important.

If you think that's bad, hope you don't have a child who's very proud of their behind the scenes work on their school production in comp. Sitting through a 2 hour play that your child isn't even in just so you can admire the costumes they helped make and a 6 foot wide bit of scenery they painted - that's another level.

qwedtask · 05/07/2023 21:41

Poor kid

grafittiartist · 05/07/2023 21:41

I wouldn't miss it.

JMSA · 05/07/2023 21:43

I thought that's what we just do as parents.

Tilllly · 05/07/2023 21:44

I went to every harvest bloody festival my sons did. Except one.
Guess which my DS remembers...

Go. Grit your teeth and go

Stick your earphones in and listen to a book
Put wine in your water bottle

You can do it 💪🏻 😁

Sunnydaysarentagiveneveninjuly · 05/07/2023 21:44

Ds year 3 was in the choir for year 6 leavers play. Absolutely was 60 mins of my life I will never get back but ds was beaming we were in the audience.. Even though he also said it was rubbish.

Tohaveandtohold · 05/07/2023 21:45

I remember when DD was doing gymnastics, we’ll be at competitions for 7 hours just to watch her for 4 minutes (2 appearances)most times (50% of the time, she does not even get a medal) but one of us as parents still always attends.
you think it’s only 2 minutes but he’ll be happy to see you in the crowd during his 2 minutes.

Summernightss · 05/07/2023 21:46

It’s Y6, his last primary play so I would definitely go.
I went twice last year for my child and she was there also for a minute out of 60 mins. I enjoyed it.
This year in Y 7 they have not any play, apparently the school never have any or if it has it’s all internal, no parents invited.

WolfFoxHare · 05/07/2023 21:47

He’ll look for you and he’ll
remember if you’re not there. I’m f you can’t get there because you have to work, fair enough. If you just can’t be arsed…

BeautifulSloth · 05/07/2023 21:48

I don't think he or anyone expects you to go 3 times. But I would definitely go once even if he says he doesn't care. When he sees you it will make him feel good...even if he can't anticipate that.

Mrsjayy · 05/07/2023 21:48

Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:26

DS school play next week. His class do a single dance in the year 6 production next week. It is 90 minutes long and he is in it for 2 minutes.
Am I a bad mum not to go watch?
They do it 3 times! Seems alot to never look out and recognise anyone but 90 minutes!!!

Just go and see it he will know you can't.be arsed going,it's 90 minutes what else will you be doing?

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Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:49

Thank you all. This is what I thought parents did too but DH said he isn't going so I thought maybe I am being silly. I told DS I want him to look out and see someone who was proud of him but he just shrugged. Maybe on the day he will appreciate it!

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Mrsjayy · 05/07/2023 21:49

I mean you don't have to go 3 times.

Mrsjayy · 05/07/2023 21:51

Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:49

Thank you all. This is what I thought parents did too but DH said he isn't going so I thought maybe I am being silly. I told DS I want him to look out and see someone who was proud of him but he just shrugged. Maybe on the day he will appreciate it!

Of course he will appreciate it I mean his dad isn't going so somebody has to.

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Summerishere123 · 05/07/2023 21:51

@Summernightss its the year 6 play but he isn't year 6. They give every class in juniors a tiny part.

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1stepforward2stepsback · 05/07/2023 21:52

Can you go if you want to? Is it that you can’t get away from work, or just that you don’t want to sit through the performance?

I’ve just spent a painful amount of money on tickets to watch my daughter’s dance performance. She will be on stage for less than 2 minutes out of a two hour performance, but it would break her heart if I didn’t go. I do sometimes have to miss school events (sports day this year), but I attend as much as I can. I wouldn’t avoid something if I was available just on t HR E basis that it will be mostly boring / other people’s children.

GCSister · 05/07/2023 21:52

Of course you have to go!
Kids are very perceptive and he's probably just saying he's not bothered because he's picked up on the fact his parents aren't bothered.

My DS has his school play next week and it's a similar set up, neither of us would miss it for the world.