Am I being precious?

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DS4 goes to his dad's 1-2 times a week when ExDP can be bothered (often palmed off to his parents).

I know he is a heavy cannabis user and smoked cigarettes the last I was aware. I have smelled cannabis in his house from the front door recently.

DS returned this morning with a bag containing some clothes that had been at his dad's and they stink of smoke. I could smell them as soon as I picked up the bag.

Definitely cigarette smoke but I don't think it was a cannabis smell, although I can't be sure.

Should I just ignore this or say something?

I think he’s allowed to smoke in his own home. You really can’t control this,

Thank you. I thought as much.

Would your ex listen of you asked him not to smoke in the house when he's got your ds? If the answer is yes then speak to him.

The cannabis is the problem here..