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Leave them alone !!

41 replies

TheTruthWillSetYouFreeMaybe · 03/07/2023 20:32

Is it just my DP? Lollops on the sofa in T-shirt and pants and constantly has his hand down his pants. It’s like they are some sort of comforter? Are they frightened the bogeyman will steal their Crown Jewels ? Why do blokes constantly feel the need to lovingly fondle their bits? I’m sitting in the chair reading and I know without looking that he has his hands down there. It’s starting to drive me nuts (!). I know if I mention it I will get some sort of remake like ‘well, do you want to come over and feel them’? NO. I don’t spend all evening holding onto my boobs! Is it an age thing? Am I being unreasonable

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CalistoNoSolo · 03/07/2023 20:38

Not at all normal in the men I've dated, and not something I would tolerate either. Lying around every day in a t-shirt and knickers is pretty grim on its own, without the added revoltingness of genital fondling. How have you not got the ick?

DidItMatter · 03/07/2023 20:42

I don’t know any men who I have dates who have done that

dancinginthesky · 03/07/2023 20:43

Is he particularly young?

I know only men under 30 and most under 25 who'd find this normal

Jongleterre · 03/07/2023 20:44

I can't say as I've ever encounter a man who has done that.

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 03/07/2023 20:45

My husband certainly wouldn't sit there with his hands down his pats. Urgh. My dad never done this either. My bil doesn't do this, or my fil.

So no, not normal at all.

Poppysmom22 · 03/07/2023 20:45

Nope no genital clenching here and house rule is trousers for furniture seating

speluncean · 03/07/2023 20:46

I've never had a partner who has done that.

PrueRamsay · 03/07/2023 20:46

Jongleterre · 03/07/2023 20:44

I can't say as I've ever encounter a man who has done that.

Me neither!

Campervangirl · 03/07/2023 20:47

I read the first bit as your DP was eating a lollipop on the sofa 😂
Yep, I don't get it, my ex used to walk around starkers, then do the "helicopter" thing then bonk me on the head with it as he passed by.
Ugly looking thing (the ex and his todger)😁

dudsville · 03/07/2023 20:47

I've never known a man to do this either. Bleurgh!

x2boys · 03/07/2023 20:47

Yeah its not normal🙄

bibbityboppityboo · 03/07/2023 20:48

Wait, you don't have a constant grip of a labia of an evening?! How do you know it's all still intact?

Florissante · 03/07/2023 20:49

I've seen men do that on public transportation but not at home.

AndIKnewYouMeantIt · 03/07/2023 20:49

I live with someone who does this.

He is my 4-year-old.

MissingMoominMamma · 03/07/2023 20:52

Campervangirl · 03/07/2023 20:47

I read the first bit as your DP was eating a lollipop on the sofa 😂
Yep, I don't get it, my ex used to walk around starkers, then do the "helicopter" thing then bonk me on the head with it as he passed by.
Ugly looking thing (the ex and his todger)😁

😂

DerekFaker · 03/07/2023 20:56

Campervangirl · 03/07/2023 20:47

I read the first bit as your DP was eating a lollipop on the sofa 😂
Yep, I don't get it, my ex used to walk around starkers, then do the "helicopter" thing then bonk me on the head with it as he passed by.
Ugly looking thing (the ex and his todger)😁

No wonder he's an ex 😂

BadNomad · 03/07/2023 20:56

As long as he doesn't do it in anyone else's home I don't see the harm.

Says me who folds her feet up on the couch to pick at her toenails and dry skin all night.

Calloffruity · 03/07/2023 20:58

Have never encountered a man who does this!

Pinkea · 03/07/2023 20:59

DH does this, it’s gross. I constantly comment and apparently he’s not ‘touching them’ but yet has his hands down his boxers. OK! It’s absolutely grim and makes me so mad.

jeaux90 · 03/07/2023 21:00

I was at Ascot last week and a bloke walked past in a lovely suit then "tweaked" his bits as he was walking through the bar ...just so gross!

No I've never had a partner sit their playing with his bits.

Nevermind31 · 03/07/2023 21:01

Nope, never seen anyone do this. Hope he washed his hands before he touches anything else…

OsirisservesAnubis · 03/07/2023 21:02

My 7yo son favours this position when tired or ill.

MostlyBlueberryFlavoured · 03/07/2023 21:03

Marry a slob, what do you expect?

SweetAndSourChick3n · 03/07/2023 21:03

I've never spent time with a man who does this. I have to tell my preschooler to leave his bits alone sometimes but I wouldn't expect a grown man to need telling.

SweetAndSourChick3n · 03/07/2023 21:04

Campervangirl · 03/07/2023 20:47

I read the first bit as your DP was eating a lollipop on the sofa 😂
Yep, I don't get it, my ex used to walk around starkers, then do the "helicopter" thing then bonk me on the head with it as he passed by.
Ugly looking thing (the ex and his todger)😁

Used to... as in he did this multiple times? Eww.