People that don’t take presents to kids parties.

Fishnchipcrisps · 2023-07-02T18:51:41+00:00

Went to a friends party today and overheard one of our mutual friends apologising for not bringing a present and saying kids have too much anyway. She has done this at a few other parties. She isn’t short of money, so it isn’t because of that. She recently had her party where we all brought lovely gifts and she’s always happy to drink the booze. I like her as a friend but find this part of her quite annoying, Aibu?

IhearyouClemFandango · 02/07/2023 19:52

I'd stop taking presents to hers then

MaggieBsBoat · 02/07/2023 19:53

CFer alert!

JMSA · 02/07/2023 19:54

YANBU! My God, the cheek

Summerishere123 · 02/07/2023 19:56

CF. A gift is meant to be a thank you for entertaining their child for 2 hours. It costs a fortune to host parties these days. All she has to do is pick up a toy for £5 to say thank you.

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 19:56

That’s what I thought, I’d be mortified, I really would, it doesn’t seem
to phase her. She’s a very disorganised person, but surely, even picking something up on the way from somewhere is doable

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NuffSaidSam · 02/07/2023 19:57

I think fair enough as long as she doesn't expect presents back. She's open and honest with what she's done and why. And is she wrong...? A big kids party with a present from everyone can mean the child gets 20-30 presents without anything from family etc. It is too much! Who's got the space? Who wants all that in their house? What child needs that much to have a nice birthday?

I wouldn't ever dare do it, but I think she's right actually!

Theomummy2 · 02/07/2023 19:57

A £10 a card doesn’t take time to organise. She is a cheeky fucker and you should stop getting gifts for hers!

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 19:58

I also saw that my friend whose party it was today bought her dc a lovely gift for her party with a lot of thought put into it. Wouldn’t you be embarrassed? What’s the reason behind it? But then you come and drink their drinks and eat their food

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 19:59

@NuffSaidSam I think that’s just her excuse for not bothering to get a gift

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Tanaqui · 02/07/2023 20:00

Some people say they haven't brought a present when they have done money in a card instead? Could she have done that?

SnackSizeRaisin · 02/07/2023 20:01

NuffSaidSam · 02/07/2023 19:57

I think fair enough as long as she doesn't expect presents back. She's open and honest with what she's done and why. And is she wrong...? A big kids party with a present from everyone can mean the child gets 20-30 presents without anything from family etc. It is too much! Who's got the space? Who wants all that in their house? What child needs that much to have a nice birthday?

I wouldn't ever dare do it, but I think she's right actually!

Well that's fine if she requests no presents for her own parties. It's not up to her to decide that someone else's children have too many toys or no space etc. That's not her problem!

Screamingabdabz · 02/07/2023 20:03

I’d love to get in the mindset of grabby tight CFs like this. I know quite a few and they seem to have no shame whatsoever in taking but never giving. I just hate that mentality. It’s so selfish.

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 20:05

@Tanaqui No, they brought nothing. I actually saw gem telling their dc to say it to my other friends dc. He said ‘I’m sorry (friend) we didn’t bring you a present’ and party girl answered ‘It’s ok I’ve got lots’ and motioned to the table full of presents, it didn’t even phase the mum, I would be seriously mortified! I just wouldn’t go to a party without a present

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 20:06

@Screamingabdabz I honestly don’t understand it. It’s not much money, I understand if you honestly can’t afford it, and that’s ok. But she definitely can

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littleripper · 02/07/2023 20:08

That is hilariously brazen tbf. I'd definitely spread the word that she is anti gift 😂

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 20:08

*Them, not gem

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drpet49 · 02/07/2023 20:08

Screamingabdabz · 02/07/2023 20:03

I’d love to get in the mindset of grabby tight CFs like this. I know quite a few and they seem to have no shame whatsoever in taking but never giving. I just hate that mentality. It’s so selfish.

This. It’s the fact she happily accepts gifts for her children but doesn’t reciprocates and then tries to justify her tightness by saying kids have too many presents nowadays.

What a stingy woman.

Gowlett · 02/07/2023 20:09

She has no shame. I have a friend like this. She will hoover up everything she can at any party / event, and receive / expect gifts for herself / DC (and will comment about it too). But she will never bring anything herself. She complains about money all the time, but has plenty of it. Her wife finds it embarrassing, but she’s always been this way since I’ve known her.

HowGood · 02/07/2023 20:10

That's crazy! She has no manners, but then lots of people don't. So many brazen people trampling about in life not realising how incredibly rude and entitled they are towards others. They take, take, take.

Stop giving her or her kid presents.

FionnulaTheCooler · 02/07/2023 20:12

I didn't bring a gift once, the mother of the birthday child had said there was no need for gifts and I took her at her word and didn't bring one, then realised my mistake when everyone else had one. Although to be fair it was the child's first birthday so they had no clue and rather than a formal party it was a get together at soft play where we all paid for our own snacks and drinks from the cafe so I didn't feel too bad.

Gymmum82 · 02/07/2023 20:13

I’ve never come across anyone who’s not brought a gift to a kids party. If one turned up to one of mine with no gift they wouldn’t be getting an invite again

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Fishnchipcrisps · 02/07/2023 20:13

Sorry, she brought a card yes, but not with money or a voucher in, but no gift, I don’t get it

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HowGood · 02/07/2023 20:14

Gowlett · 02/07/2023 20:09

She has no shame. I have a friend like this. She will hoover up everything she can at any party / event, and receive / expect gifts for herself / DC (and will comment about it too). But she will never bring anything herself. She complains about money all the time, but has plenty of it. Her wife finds it embarrassing, but she’s always been this way since I’ve known her.

I have a friend like this too. It's giving me the ice, I've got to say. She comes here to be fed and have her kids eat lunch and dinner but never contributes to anything. She gave my dd a second hand book, which they had a spare of for her birthday present and I won't tell you what nasty used 'gift' she brought me when she visited, it looked like she had pulled it from the dump. Yet, she asks if she can have our old things we don't use anymore. Ahem, no, I am selling them. It's bizarre.

Oysterbabe · 02/07/2023 20:14

Yanbu. I always have a stock of those little £8 lego sets for parties.

NuffSaidSam · 02/07/2023 20:16

SnackSizeRaisin · 02/07/2023 20:01

Well that's fine if she requests no presents for her own parties. It's not up to her to decide that someone else's children have too many toys or no space etc. That's not her problem!

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It's up to her to decide if she's going to bring a present. She's not decided not to. Up to any guests of hers to decide whether they follow her lead and don't get her kids presents.

If she's put out that people don't bring presents to hers then she's a CF definitely.