To hot have let them in

[AsLongAsIHaveMyTea]

We have just moved into our new house and redecorated. I had invited some of our friends around for a drink and they turned up with their excitable young dog. We don’t have a dog and I don’t want one running around my new house. The garden isn’t secure so leaving him in the garden wouldn’t be an option. I love animals but I really didn’t want him crashing into things in the house and stealing shoes and chewing the rugs (all things I know he does and did in our previous house before and things that our friends get frustrated with at their own house).
Was I unreasonable to say very politely that they would have to go and drop the dog back home before coming in? They got a bit upset and never came in for a drink.

Not unreasonable at all, but you might have to live with the consequence that they may not come again. I actually find myself wondering whether the reason they brought him is because they can’t leave him at home because of the damage he’d do!

I'd say they should have checked with you beforehand, but they might have assumed that because it was ok to bring the dog to your old house it would be ok now.
Give them a phone today to clear the air. You don't want a long lasting rift over something that can be easily fixed.

I have a ( perfect!) dog and wouldn’t dream of taking him to anyone’s house without checking with my friend first.

YANBU…and I say that as a dog owner. I don’t understand this recent phenomenon of people taking their dogs everywhere and expecting them to be welcomed

They're hugely unreasonable not to have checked with your first.

Not unreasonable at all. I won't have dogs in my house, I don't like them and I don't want them chewing stuff and treading crap everywhere which is what happened the only time I did allow it. Also it would terrify my cats. In-laws once turned up at ours with BIL dog with no warning, opened the door to them and it ran in covered in mud and grass cuttings all over the carpet. They ended up going for a walk in the rain instead. IMO you should always ask before taking a dog to someone's house.

Yanbu I adore my very placid dog but I wouldn’t dare take her to any friends house for a meal drinks etc just stupid tbh to expect anyone to entertain having a dog in there property you don’t know what allergies people have not everyone worships dogs or even likes them! Don’t know there set up etc so it a pretty stupid assumption to make that your dog will be fine wherever it goes!

I personally would have let them in regardless of the consequences. Its more polite imo even if yes they should have asked.
Man made stuff as in decor shouldn't trump generosity of spirit.
Even if maybe you understandibly weren't feeling generous best to behave like you are.

They were a little bit rude not to have checked first, as it's your new house, but I don't suppose they even thought about it given they usually bring him when they visit you.

could you not have just said 'you'll need to keep Fido next to you on his lead'??

if you're going to change things, you need to be clear with people.

It’s outrageous that they brought him without asking! Who does that?

I think its a bit of a cheek not asking first. I have lots of animals but leave them at home or in kennels/cattery if I'm visiting people.
A relative of mine brought her husky over for a week once. I still can't get the hair out of my carpet a year later.

YANBU. I'm allergic to dogs and DS is terrified of them. It wouldn't so much as cross my mind that someone would randomly bring their dog to my house and I would do the same as you if they did.

I'm presuming there was a reason why you couldn't sit in the garden whilst they kept the dog on the lead? That would have been my compromise. But they shouldn't have rocked up with no warning.

YANBU. I wouldn’t let a dog in my house because I’m terrified of them! I could maybe cope with my sister’s dog as I am used to him but other than that definitely no. I have cats so a great excuse, but even without the cats I’d say no.

Bollox to that!!

YANBU and they should have asked before bringing the dog.

I wouldn't let a dog in my house.

Absolutely no chance I would invite a dog into my house with no warning, definitely not just 'to be polite'!

I think as you allowed the dog in your previous house you should have made it clear when you invited them.

YANBU I hate this expectation that people can just bring their dogs with them

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To quote John Macenro, you can NOT be serious!!

YANBU. The cheek of some people!

McEnroe even 🤪

Your house your rules.
YANBU.
If someone brings their dog over we sit in the garden or go for a walk. End of. Rhey should have cleared it with you first.

As I understand it, you've always allowed them to bring the dog before but you now don't want the dog to come because you've decorated. YANBU to not want the dog in your house BUT you should have made that clear when you invited your friends. Why would they think the dog was not invited when it had been allowed previously?

I’d never dream of taking a dog to someone’s house unless they had specifically said it was fine (and I wouldn’t ask!)
What is wrong with people?? The entitlement is just shocking.