Husband on a buck weekend aibu

[Newmama93]

Aibu to expect a message when my husband is on a bux weekend away?

I asked him to keep me updated on when they got back to the room safe after they went out on a pub crawl, he messaged me at midday once they arrived at destination then they went out and I sent him two texts as I was going to bed (11pm) asking if the stripper had left the house (she was organised by other boys for the groom and I knew when she was going but said I had a problem if she stayed with them after paid time amount) and asking where they were and he read my messages and I didn’t hear back from him until this morning, he didn’t go to bed until 5am so I feel a little hurt he didn’t once think to let me know or respond. I was quite worried about him as they’d been drinking from 9am that morning! But am I seeming too overbearing to want this? Should I just catch up on details once he returns in two days?

@WandaWonder Well yes, that's what a lot of us are saying. But it shouldn't be socially acceptable either. Progress can only go so far when strippers, hookers are all okay still.

But if you were at a hen party with a stripper would you be cheating or thinking how much more attractive they were then your partner? It’s quite sexist to assume men are going to do something you wouldn’t want them too. I can’t imagine my husband even being turned on by a stranger doing an overly sexualised performance. He’d be mortified.

If your husband wanted text messages to reassure him the stripper had gone hom would you feel comfortable with that. I’d feel very uncomfortable with his insecurity frankly.

What difference does it make whether OP is in the UK or not?

The lives others lead, really grim

Indeed. How anyone can bear to be with these sleazebags is beyond me tbh.

Just Incase people were unsure by the way - most strippergrams booked at stags, the ladies job is to humiliate the stag rather than turn any of them on. It’s not a private intimate experience. They are very different to hookers.

Please ignore the women on here saying you’re needy/insecure! Wtf, your husband is married, fair enough your fine with him having a stripper.. I personally wouldn’t be, the least he could do is have the respect to text you to reassure you she had gone on her way.

from what I’ve read your suffering from HG and that on its own is very difficult never mind having a toddler on top, I was hospitalised and put on a drip with HG.

your husband should have more respect for you, I also like some others get grossed out that a bunch of men would hire a woman to come and strip for them.. each to there own! Don’t feel unreasonable for wanting to know she’d gone, he agreed to this.. he should stick to it!!

the whole thing is grim. he should have messaged you though.