Neighbours shouting and swearing at children every morning

[Holaa]

Every morning I can hear them shouting and screaming at the children about getting ready for school and then swearing at them and doors slamming. I think they are age 9-11. I WFH and often have phone calls at the same time and it’s very loud through the walls. Any suggestions

Well there's the obvious, which is to have a polite word with them and tell them it's affecting your work, but I assume you've done this?

How did they react?

That sounds like a horrible way for the children to start their day. However I don't imagine you saying something will make any difference tbh.

I'm sorry, no suggestions here. I'm just really pleased that we have a detached (small by the way!!) house, so noone can hear our shenanigans!!! I also have a 9 and 11 yr old 😁😁

Everyone shouts and screams at their kids to get them to leave the house surely?

My advice would be to contact the NSPCC for advice on reporting the child abuse next door.

I have the same and have been wondering about making a call to Child Sercices. They really don’t seem to cope and they’re forever shouting and hissing at the poor kids.

They don't swear at them though

I don’t remember ever being “screamed” at by my parents. No.

No they don't.
Swearing at children like that is child abuse. I have worked in children's services. The fact that they would probably be too stretched to do much about it doesn't mean it's not abuse.
As a minimum they might offer a parenting course.

@Holaa do you hear any arguments between the parents?

My neighbours are horrendous! Every day arguments and shouting at the kids. 3 under 5. They also have a dog they shout at and leave to bark every day and wake me up on the days I can lie in as our walla are paper thin. I feel so sad for the kids. She knows we can hear yet carries on. Not much I can do though as I don't fancy making them hate me! I don't understand screaming at babies it does nothing but increase the crying and shouting!

Please ring either social services or the school and asks to speak to the safeguarding lead.

the more you can add pieces of the puzzle the better chance the kids have of getting some support.

poor kids 😥

I have school-aged teenage daughters and the mornings are honestly aneurysm inducing. However I still wouldn't carry on like that. not usually anyway

Are…are you my neighbours 😬?

I have to be honest our mornings always end up with shouting and swearing, sometimes door slamming (from the 9 year old). We are loving parents the rest of the time though it’s just that the 9 year old is a monster until 8.50am.

It's pretty disturbing that you think this.

I definitely remember mornings like this when the kids were small. Leaving the house at 730 with 2 under 5s was... taxing... to say the least. I used to apologise to the neighbours for the noise. Don't think I ever swore, but I did used to get to work feeling like I'd done a day's work already. By 9 and 11, we were pretty much in a strict routine. Often scuppered by ds and his chaotic approach to life.

My snap thought with these things is always ‘mind your own business’. Then I think of Alfie Steele and other children who were constantly screamed at and more was going on, and I think we just cannot do nothing anymore.

Mine are 7 and 11 and after 25 ish times of relatively calm 'please get your shoes on/teeth cleaned/bag on back' etc, more often than not it needs some 'bloody get on with it' shouting to actually get them to move.

I think you need to make a sensible judgement call here on wether it's a fairly normal stressful morning scenario or more than that.

I would ring their school to let them know. Ask for the head teacher or designated safe guarding lead (usually the head).

This made me laugh out loud. Aneurysm inducing teens here too!

Get noise cancelling headphones.

Consider asking NSPCC for a steer on whether what you are hearing is beyond normal family dynamics. Mornings involve a fair bit of raised voices in this house…but I rarely swear out loud at my kids….I’m reasonably frequently muttering FFS and FML

Ring the school and report it to their safeguarding lead. If there are no other concerns about the children then it will come to nothing but the report will be logged. If there are already concerns about the children (or concerns arise in future) then your report will add to that wider picture and help highlight an overall pattern of behaviour.

For the noise itself, contact environmental health at the council and make a noise complaint. You can do it anonymously, our local one sends out a letter saying that they have had complaints from other residents - the emphasis on the plural makes it hard to point s finger at exactly who complained - and that further complaints will result in investigative action and potential consequences.

I think it’s common for parents to have the odd morning of shouting at their children to get them to hurry up, perhaps not swearing though.
I have let rip a few times at my teenagers with the odd swear word but nothing they don’t hear on a daily basis at school and college.
Do you hear this at other times of the day op or is it just in the morning?

Behave yourself

My neighbour regularly tells their child that they're a cunt or a r-word, you can bet I reported it via my safeguarding lead who contacted the safeguarding lead at the child's own school.

Holy fuck. That is truly terrible

I'm trying to think what the R word is though.