For not catering..

[1down]

A couple of weeks ago we planned a bbq with some friends, bbq was last night.
Yesterday morning, I saw one of the couples and the friend tells me she is no longer eating dairy produce. This is ontop of being vegetarian and not eating gluten.
The gluten is due to intolerance, not coeliac.
Vegetarian as she doesn't like meat.
Now no dairy as she thinks it's making her hayfever worse.
Previously I have accommodated the diet requirements.

This time I asked her to bring something suitable for her to eat that
I was doing sides of salad and jacket potatoes to go with bbq food and could she bring something for herself to go with it.
Could I have found a 'main' element? Yes. But tbh it's more work, I'd already done the shop and didn't want to have to go out again.
She said it was rude of me to ask her to bring something separate. I said she was welcome to the salad and potatoes.
Bbq starts, the husband turns up solo. She had decided to not come.
I got a stroppy text of her which I ignored. Another friend put a pic on fb which she commented 'wish I could have come'

So...wibu?

YANBU and I find people with genuine dietary requirements are more than happy to bring something, fussy people want the attention and to be catered for!

YANBU, and I have a few dietary restrictions myself.

She’s a CF a drama llama, let her sit and cry at home. Don’t invite her again,

When has this paragon cooked for you?

So she told you on the morning of the BBQ that she was no longer eating dairy? She's the one being incredibly rude for not giving more notice and still expecting to be catered for.

I'm vegetarian and always offer to take something suitable so that the host doesn't have more work to do. I'm just happy to get an invite.

If she only told you the day before then I think it fairly reasonable to ask her to bring something

So she told you about the dairy thing last minute after you'd already gone shopping... fair enough. Had you already organised something for her that would have catered to the requirements you already knew about? I would have thought your average vegan, gluten free sausage or bbq patty would also be dairy free.

YANBU. I prefer people with numerous dietary requirements to bring their own if it can get complicated aothey can eat something if I get it wrong.
Coupled with last mknute request. Naaah

Husband coming alone probably says what he thought about it....

I would have thought your average vegan, gluten free sausage or bbq patty would also be dairy free
Is there vegan glutenfree sausage? When I looked for some vegan ones they all had gluten, but my shop may not be carrying the others?

Finding it odd that she is being so childish on SM about it. What exactly did she say to you face to face? I'd honestly never dare call someone rude for not buying me specific food! What did her text say? So weird husband turned up, did he acknowledge it? Which of them is the friend? assuming your OH knew the husband first, or you knew the woman first of course.

Also... If she was that keen to come, assuming it wasn't just food but a few drinks, could she not have eaten beforehand?! This is weirder the more I consider it.

She sounds like a complete PITA.

She’s being ridiculous. Any dietary requirements should be given to the host when you accept the invite, not at the last minute.

YANBU I have one allergy not a billion food fussinesses and I'd take my own food to something like this or wing it on the day and just see what there was to eat (which sometimes means I eat just the salad and I'm ok with that).

She sounds ridiculous.
Surely, if you're going to an event where your food options might be limited (through choice, allergies, whatever,) you work your way around it.
I don't see why she couldn't of had a big breakfast at home before arriving, then have jacket potato and salad for her lunch at bbq!
Presumably she wasn't planning on turning up completely empty handed was she?- she certainly could have bought something with her.
Failing that, it's only one meal, a couple of hours, just have a few drinks, nibble some crisps or whatever and then leave!
People are just so bloody spoilt and entitled these days! A completely ridiculous and unnecessary carry on!!

Tbh I would have been happy with the jacket potato and salad. She is a CF!

Also if she's going to chat shit up about it and down Facebook and send you nasty texts you're well rid of her, so hopefully she uninvites herself from your future celebrations as well.

*chat shit about it up and down Facebook. IDK how my sentence got fragmented like that.

Ridiculous! I am a vegetarian and always ask if I can bring veggie food as I don’t like the idea of creating extra work.

Diva!

Anyone else find it hilarious that her DH still came?

Obviously he felt she was being unreasonable too…

She’s being a self obsessed arse. She can spring that on you last minute and expect you to jump.

Prob bloody sick of her

I had haloumi and then some

YANBU. I am coeliac and I always expect/happy to take my own. To be honest, I prefer it so I can control cross contamination etc. I think most people with particular requirements are the same .

Pressed too soon...
I had also made some rice balls with mozzarella in the middle.
But I also hadn't checked if the Crisps I had were dairy free and I had no desert that was going to work.

I'd made pavlova and brownies

I have a friend with coeliac, I'm very very careful so cooling for a medical need wouldn't have been an issue

My friend is like this - l am not convinced they are genuine intolerances. I said to her l would struggle to make a dairy , gluten and meat free meal and she said l really upset her. I said it nicely as well!
Yanbu.