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Feeling nostalgic: Anyone remember FuckYouChris and her fields

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 23/06/2023 18:44

[[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1963190-To-kick-these-people-out?msgid=44535428 Original
thread]] it’s been a while, but I thought I should update! The original thread is in Classics and ran to three with a happy ending.

I just wanted to tell you that the fields are now part of a conservation project to reintroduce Lapwing, and they are bloody marvellous! They were also our haven in 2020 when we could just hide away from the world - there are advantages to living in the middle of nowhere.

MN had probably changed so much that posting that it worked out buying a near- derelict house in the middle of nowhere is an act of privilege, and I’m now in agreement. I am so fucking privileged to be where I am with the family I have, and the world I have created, and there was luck and awfulness along the way.

Probably not relevant to most people, but I think we’re coming up to the 10 year anniversary if we haven’t passed it, and I am so grateful to all of you vipers for being who you were back then.

Cheers Wine

Oh yes, am I being unreasonable for hoping some of you remember? (Did I mention I’ve had wine?)

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theyarereallytakingthepissnow · 23/06/2023 22:15

Yes ! Awesome threads, loved them AND yours is still one of the best user names - along with Alex Reid's Lonely Brain Cell, both really made me 😂

Mintyt · 25/06/2023 06:32

I remember, but I can't remember how it ended how did they go. Did they take to tools.

IncenseAndPeppermint · 25/06/2023 06:41

I remember! Different user name then, can’t remember which one. A bit freaky that was 10 years ago!

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 25/06/2023 07:51

Mintyt · 25/06/2023 06:32

I remember, but I can't remember how it ended how did they go. Did they take to tools.

It ended one farcical morning. If you remember there were two people we were dealing with - the woman (let’s call her Joan) who had originally run around to support the horse owned by the people who lived here before we moved in, and the woman (let’s call her Susan) who had taken on day to day care of the horse (which wouldn’t have needed day to day care if she hadn’t bought her own completely unsuitable breed of horse and added it to the field for “company” for the horse - and free field-use for her).

I hope I remember all this correctly! Joan had arranged with us that Susan would come and catch the horses first thing, and she would arrive later with a horse box to move them to their new home (which, funny story, they got evicted from the following year as Susan was such a nightmare, at which point the original horse was rehomed without its companion and lived out the rest of his life happily on a local farm with some Shetland ponies).

Only Susan didn’t turn up, so we messaged Joan, and she ended up going to her house and found them all still in bed.

Finally Susan turned up, went into the field and fed the horses - without catching them.

So when Joan turned up they wouldn’t come near her and it turned into a Benny Hill sketch of the two of them going round and around - which both horses looked to be actually enjoying.

Finally they were caught and all Susan’s declarations that they would never go into a horse box and would die if moved, turned out to be nonsense as they calmly plodded straight in.

That afternoon we took our dog for its first run on the field and reclaimed our space.

Susan also had an old falling- apart caravan that she kept stuff in over there. A few weeks later it was still there so we gave her a deadline to remove it by. She turned up once with and unsuitable vehicle and tried to drag it out of the field - it really wasn’t road-legal and needed to be stuck on a trailer to take it. Churned up the ground and failed to take it. We got a curt text letting us know she’d emptied the caravan and it was our problem now.

We got it scrapped at our own expense. She also threatened to take the field shelter they had built, but no one ever came for that. It blew down a couple of years ago and I used the wood to make some garden furniture.

I have since befriended someone who just by coincidence sold the caravan to Susan! She said she took fifty quid for it as they were friends, but had to physically go to Susan’s house several weeks after she’d taken the caravan to get her money as she kept “Forgetting to bring it”

Susan is well known and not well-liked. She’s a taker who believes the world owes her everything.

The thing that still frustrates me is that if we had moved in and there was a horse in the field, with no people attached to it or cheeky fuckers involved, I would have taken on its care without thinking twice. Because of their behaviour (blocking us in daily, using the sheds in our garden, letting strangers picnic in our field, using it as their own private park to run their dogs etc etc etc) there was no way to keep the horse without them feeling some ownership for it. Susan was a nightmare who made a difficult time so much harder.

I remember when we first moved here thinking that Susan might be a great new friend so I should make an effort to let things slide 😂

But the good news is that this place is now really special and 100% our home.
We have worked so hard on it all, and everyday I wake up I am so glad we are here.

It’s not a happy ending, because it’s not an ending, but getting rid of the horses was the beginning of making this place ours.

And in the immortal words of our nearest farmer neighbour, “I don’t even know why they thought the horse needed help. It had more than enough grass for one horse alone, and he was a grumpy old thing. Watching them piss him off with their fussing was funny though. They used to park across my field, but I put a stop to that - that’ll be when they decided blocking you in was the only solution. Bunch of interfering nutters if you ask me.”

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Mintyt · 25/06/2023 10:35

Aww thank you so much,

JenniferBarkley · 26/06/2023 10:36

Opened this thread on Friday night, and found it still here when I opened my laptop this morning. Have a had a wonderful morning of nostalgia scanning back over your posts!

I remember lurking at the time. MN at its best, light hearted, funny, actually helpful.

I also remember thinking of you during lockdown!

Thanks for bumping OP, delighted to hear things are brighter for you ten years on Flowers

SpringOn · 26/06/2023 10:53

I cannot believe this was TEN YEARS ago!

Brilliant update.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 27/06/2023 11:07

You’re all still so blooming lovely!

Especially the 7% of you who think I’m unreasonable. You are my favourites 😁

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fourquenelles · 27/06/2023 11:20

Oh I remember too. Fuck You Fest - I think I was manning a vegetarian dog treat stall? * *I am so happy to read your updates. Keep on keeping on!

KitchenSinkLlama · 27/06/2023 11:46

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 27/06/2023 11:07

You’re all still so blooming lovely!

Especially the 7% of you who think I’m unreasonable. You are my favourites 😁

I wish I was one of the 7% now 😉

I remember your threads. So glad you are well and enjoying your lovely home.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 27/06/2023 11:58

I remember those so well and cannot compute that it was ten years ago! Am so glad life has turned out well for you - you deserve it.

GoingToBeLessRubbishAtLife · 27/06/2023 12:48

I remember, and am gobsmacked it was that long ago 🤯

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 27/06/2023 13:32

Life just keeps keeping on! I just remember a general feeling of everything being so unsettled back then, and now I feel completely the opposite. This place is a home now and despite setbacks and issues, it’s our safe-space.

I’ve even occasionally contemplated getting a horse 😁 but reminded myself that I’m much too busy to give it the time it needs - and we all know where having an ignored horse would lead.

I think I’ll stick to admiring the wildlife for now. We have stoats and foxes and owls who hunt the rabbits that live in the field, and they’re a constant joy to watch (if you’re not a rabbit).

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PandaChopChop · 27/06/2023 13:57

I remember 😁😁😁😁😁 that was a brilliant thread, still hoping for Fuck you fest! Glad things are going so well for you x

longtompot · 28/06/2023 13:00

Late to the party, or rather, festival, but have just read all three threads and caught up with this update one. So pleased you got your field back and it sounds idyllic. I wish you, Mr Chris and all the little Chrises, & puppy too, many happy years there, horse free and with stacks of goats 🐐🐐🐐

quirkychick · 28/06/2023 13:16

I remember your threads! Thanks so much for the update - not so much for reminding us it's been 10yrs 😳< I really want the old man emoticons back>.

Abzs · 28/06/2023 13:28

I still have a horse scarf. I was totally going to come to the FuckYouFestival. I mean, I wasn't actually, I was mired in pnd at the time and your threads were something to cling to (thank you).

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 28/06/2023 19:38

Abzs, you and me both Flowers

This place was a lifeline for a long time.

Hurray for new FYFers!Grin

Fuck You Fest lives on in all our hearts and minds. And I’d blooming forgotten the horsey scarves! I’ll have to dig mine out from the back of the cupboard.

FYF was always such a lovely shared moment. I will always be so grateful.

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steppemum · 15/04/2024 11:19

I know this thread is nearly a year old, but I've only just found it and I wanted to say hello to FYChris.

I was there for FYfest, and followed it all to the end.

So good to hear that life is going well for you Chris and that the house/field has turned into a haven.

10 years? Bloody hell. I seem to have a little something in my eye....

SquirrelSoShiny · 17/04/2024 00:01

God nearly 11 years now. We're getting older, mumsnetters!

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 00:04

I remember, too.

Whycantibetangy · 17/04/2024 00:18

I’m so happy things worked out so well in the end, your little haven sounds idyllic.

I had forgotten about this thread and where I got my ‘fuck you..and your horse’ it’s something I’ve been saying for years say when I drop something, break something, someone pisses me off etc.
You are a legend!! 😁

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 17/04/2024 20:55

Always lovely to have a little flurry of FYFers back!

@steppemum I’m glad you found me eventually!

What’s a year (or a decade) amongst friends? Stackable goats all round!

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 17/04/2024 20:56

Whycantibetangy · 17/04/2024 00:18

I’m so happy things worked out so well in the end, your little haven sounds idyllic.

I had forgotten about this thread and where I got my ‘fuck you..and your horse’ it’s something I’ve been saying for years say when I drop something, break something, someone pisses me off etc.
You are a legend!! 😁

I definitely don’t feel worthy of legend status, but I LOVE that I am a curse Grin

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