To think he should take his own child to school?

[ApplesandOrangesandPears]

I have a neighbour who's child is my daughters class, every day this past week this child has showed up at my door unaccompanied to go to school with us - this would be fine but my child has ADHD and mornings are chaotic and difficult. I don't have this child's parents phone numbers, and don't know exactly where they live! However I just saw the parent in their car driving away as I was trying to bundle all 3 children across the car park.....this child is very young and so I don't feel comfortable sending them home alone and clearly the parent isn't waiting for them to get home before leaving themselves! I don't have any contact with these parents so if something were to happen I wouldn't be able to let them know, we are also going away soon and won't be able to take him to school! AIBU to think this is really cheeky of the parents and that you shouldn't just assume another parent will take yours to school with no prior conversation at all!

Obviously you firstly need to:

• Contact the school and let them know what is happening and then their safe-guarding team will deal with this.
• When this young child that you dont know or even know where his parents live, knock on your door, ask him to take you to where his parents live and deposit him back and speak to his parents.
• BUT 100% contact the school and let them know what is happening or even social services.

It isn't just cheeky - it is complete neglect.

Obviously you firstly need to read all OP’s posts.

😂 OK I see your point - there is a path going through it, it sounds worse than it is🤦‍♀️

Imagine seeing a thread has over 100 replies and thinking ‘no one must have typed out the glaringly obvious thing that should have been done days ago, I’ll add my valuable, unique opinion’ 😄

I am concerned, frankly I can't imagine sending a child to what is essentially a strangers home

This is what jumped out at me.

Obviously you are not a danger to children - but they don't know you or your partner well enough to know that. What if one day they plonk their kid at a house where there is a paedophile?

This is so dangerous!

Many of us work in schools. Each school has its own protocol. The OP has confirmed that the one her child and the random one go to DOES allow them to go to school on their own.

92% of sexual abuse is from a male relative.
So the "what if" whilst not impossible, is far more likely when the OP takes her own child to visit Grandad.

I'd be speaking to the school and letting them know this child is being left on your doorstep. The Father needs to take responsibility for his child.

Yet I have said that when my daughter was at primary, they were allowed to go home alone at the age of 7. The OP has confirmed that the school she is talking about allows children to go home alone.

There is no one size fits all, and no national "rule".

Would I have let my daughter at 7 do it? Nope. Did I think people who did should be "reported". Nope.

What if you’d left early or your child was sick and wasn’t going in. They’ve obviously thought this is a great idea and even if you were on board with their CFery then there’s lots that could go wrong.
Hopefully school will have a word today. If not I would make child show you their house on Monday and you go and tell them to stop. You aren’t a childminder, you aren’t friends, and you aren’t responsible for their child.

She did. Hours ago.

It's not like a forest, there are actual paved paths to walk on and it does lead to the school gates as well as a row of shops but the main road between the housing estate and the school is very busy, particularly at 8.30 in the morning and some people do drive stupidly fast, and so rather than walking along the main bit of road it is safer to walk through the wooded area. I'm not very good at explaining this sorry.

Even if the child is allowed to walk to school alone, why are they turning up on your doorstep? How did they know where you live? Are your children in the same class? What did they say when they turned up the first day? Have you asked them if they normally walk to school alone?

I would just have SO many questions!

If the child turned up and said "I normally walk by myself but I want to walk with insert name of your child here" Then I guess I'd just accept that and let her walk with you to school.

You've seen the car, look around your neighbours houses for it, or ask the child which on their house is.

Knock and tell them to take their own kid to school

Tell the school?!!

I would be finding out where the kid comes from and letting the father know that if he turns up at your door you WILL drop him at the police station. I’m certain it’s just “Entitled Man going to his VERY IMPORTANT WORK Syndrome.”

The post says the child is very young. Absolutely shocking behaviour by his parents

This.

A complete CF that I would not be entertaining for a second.

He must think you are some mug to have allowed this to happen more than twice.

The bits that kissing op is actual conversation.
You open the door Monday and some kids just stares at you so yo u say come on, let's all go to school? And you hand the kids over and the teachers says?? , our school would def clock that the new kid had arrived with me and make polite chit chat about it

This was my thought. Have the kids agreed this themselves? I don't know the distance but I walked to school myself at that age and often met with friends or knocked on their doors if I passed by on the way to walk together.

I know times are different now but people are cracking up on this thread when this could be all it is.

Why not ask the school to pass on a message that this can't continue? No matter how ready you are to help out, it's not fair on you or, in particular, your child to have another child shoehorned into the morning routine, and what are you supposed to do if your child is not going in to school for any reason?

That is madness. What if you were not bringing your kids to school or you all went away overnight and you were not there to open the door to the kid in the morning? The parents wouldnt even know as they have driven off. So fucking cheeky of them.

The child would go on their own. As they have permission to do.

Is today a special day? Is it National Only Read the Opening Post day?