Someone complained about my child at sports day!

[SackRaceComplainer]

DC is 8, Y4. Has SN including dyspraxia.

For sports day every child has to take part. DC has some adjustments for sports day so they can fully take part.

Even with their adjustments they still come last in every race.

Someone has complained about the sack race and how my DC had an unfair advantage. DC started roughly half way along the track in their sack, had help to get in from staff (which the others didn’t) and then was picked up when they fell over while doing it whereas the others had to get themselves to their feet, DC had insisted they wanted to do this race – they were told they did not have to do it.

DC still came last and finished about 2 minutes after the other children they were racing. DC also fell through the finish ribbon thing onto the grass and had to be helped out.

And someones complained to the Governors about DC starting in a different place and that giving them an unfair advantage even though my child came last. Apparently starting half way along the track was an advantage.

Apparently it was taken straight to the governors, and I was informed as I was asked by the HT if she could share with the governors why DC started where they did because it’ll help the governors to decide if it’s an Reasonable Adjustment for DCs condition or whether in future all children start in the same place - I was just picking DC up for an appointment and was told this. HT says she doesn't agree it was an advantage.

My DC struggles enough as it is, just being upright is hard for them and now someone is complaining. DC was thrilled to even finish the sack race, they don’t care where they placed! The person who complained as a child in my DCs class – as it's been mentioned by name on the class whatsapp, and they’ve been together since Reception so said parent will have a fairly good idea of why DC started where they did.

Whats likely to happen now anyone know?

I don't think the classmayes have a problem, a few times during the races they ran passed and patted DC on the back (not roughly, it look more of a "keep going you're doing well" kind of thing).

Absolutely unbelievable!!!!!
Well I hope the head and the chair of governors deal with it professionally, and when they call the shithead parent in, who made the complaint, for a meeting to discuss their fucking awful and unnecessary complaint, they tell them what an utter unkind and embarrassment they are and their attitude is not what the school promotes and then they fucking poke said parent in the eye!!!!

Nothing will happen. The school will definitely be on your side. They only needed your permission so that they are able to share the reasons for the adjustment. They're going to put this nasty person in their place on your child's behalf. Sounds like the HT Is planning to go to town to dress down this parent. Most schools would refuse to engage in a matter which had nothing to do with the other parent.
Shame you won't get a ringside seat to enjoy it!

Hopefully the governors will laugh and tell the parent to go and read about The Equality Act. So ridiculous of the parent to complain and to be honest I can't believe the school even mentioned it to you.

I wonder if they will have adjustments made for them as they are obviously giant fucking cunts who suck at being decent.
In my daughters class aged about 6 there was a girl who had down syndrome. At the egg and spoon race she ran with everyone else but didn't have an egg came in first. All of the other girls went up and gave her a big cuddle and I heard one of them say "mummy she didn't have an egg because that would be too hard for her but she ran so fast, she was brilliant". We all had a little sob on the side as the class was so pleased for her. How a 6 year old can get that adjustments are needed for different people but not a grown arsed woman is beyond me.

I'm guessing the complaining parent didn't know your son was SEN and couldn't understand why he was getting the extra help etc hence why they've asked if they can share that with them. Otherwise maybe they're thinking favouritism.
I get they'd be v dim to complain full stop and surely they can work out why he needs help!

This is a disgrace! I am so sorry. And also want to applaud the resilience if your dc who keeps trying. 💪🏼❤️

The parent who complained should be ashamed at bringing this to governors.

Nothing will happen anyways , what an absolute tool !

Well done to your boy for taking part and having a fun day x

Yes.

What twatty parent makes a complaint. Idiots.

This!

I really hope that the complaining parent has had their arse handed to them by everyone else on the WA group. If not I'd have to leave the chat altogether in protest. (disclaimer - I've left both my DCs groups and god the relief to leave the politicking and stealth boasting behind. Somehow the important messages still reach me by mysterious class osmosis).

I absolutely would put a response on the class WhatsApp saying you understand there has been a complaint made and apologise that another parent had considered that your child had an unfair advantage and if others agreed that you would refuse any further adjustment made in races for your DC. Believe me the other parents will be falling over themselves to claim that they have no problem with it while the awful parent who complained will be very silent. Also they will have been moaning on the day to their cronies so everyone will soon know who it was that complained and they can be the focus of gossip for a while.

Whoever it was is an absolute dick and I’m ashamed for them.

your DC sounds awesome x

I would absolutely refuse permission to share any information about your child with this shitty complaining parent or even with the governors. Why should you have to justify the adjustment by going into detail about the private medical status of your child?? No.

Oh my word. Honestly, you actually have to feel sorry for this chid because with a parent that is THIS precious, this child is going to have a really tough life.

DS' year had a child with significant physical challenges. He got lots of accommodations at sports day. And every single one of the children cheered him on and were completely relaxed about him starting first etc.

Wanker parent.

This is so pathetic. I hope your child was happy and proud of themselves for finishing!

Im with the flying ant lady, I hope they get locked out of their house on a Sunday and wait ages for an expensive locksmith.

I actually feel a degree of pity for the parent who complained, it must be hard going through life being that spiteful, mean spirited and petty. They should be aflame with embarrassment today, I would want to curl up and die if I'd done something that low. Your DD sounds amazing OP, you must be very proud

How anyone had the balls to complain about a children’s sports day is beyond me.

I’m surprised you even found out about this “complaint”. The governors and head at my school would have discussed it among themselves, head would have explained situation to governors and that would have been it.

FGS what's the matter with people? What is the response of other parents in the WhatsApp group?

TBH I'm surprised the head has even mentioned it to you. They don't need you to tell the governors why it was done.

Agree.

Even if it was unfair (it blatantly wasn't), what kind of weirdo goes straight to the actual governors with a complaint about sports day of all things?

Seriously, who thinks the point of the governors is to adjudicate the administration of sack races?

The complaint ought to go straight in the bin.

I hope to God that the parent who complained reads this thread and realises what a piece of shit they are.

My DD took part in sports day with even more help than this, it was all rather silly but done good naturedly, with other parents cheering her on and the other kids would stand on the finish line cheering while she was helped through, last by a mile every time.

Are you friends with any other parents? I'd be tempted to tell everyone that some megatwat made this complaint in the hope that it gets back to them that everyone is bitching about them.

What is wrong with some people?

Wow. Just wow. What an awful thing to do. So sorry OP this sounds like a really great adjustment and well done to your DC on finishing the race. What a fantastic effort.

Please encourage the HT to fully brief the governors about your DC's condition and the fact that they came in last. Yes, it was an advantage, but not one that in any way affected other children even though it made a massive difference to your DC. I'm sure governors are discouraged from telling parents they are knobs, but I bet these will be sorely tempted.

What a fuckwitof a parent

Them not you

So your sc who has sn - had a helping hand - was started further then the others - and still came last

But wanted to do the race and had fun

But the other parent complained

Words fail me

Sorry you have to deal with parents like these

Did her little darling not come first