To say we shouldn’t have anyone visit before early flight?

[Lis1992]

We have a holiday coming up with some extended family members and my parents. I covered the holiday for my parents as a gift for a significant birthday this year. I’m living with them at the moment. My sister wants to visit tonight before we go. We are up at 3am for our flight. I think she should
have come yesterday instead, as wanted to go to bed (not to sleep to relax and hope to sleep later ) in the early evening. they were horrible to me when I said it’s not the best day for her to come and I’m so upset I’m not a great sleeper anyway, so I’ve been anxious about it as I hate being tired on a trip. AIBU?!

Yes I think so. Many people will want to sort out last minute things, finish off any packing, and get an early night. I personally wouldn’t want to entertain guests early evening or otherwise.

When I was much younger I went on nights out before a 5am flight - but these days guests would stress me out.

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I wasn’t sure what I thought reading the OP but this comment made me vote YABU. Fine for you to go to bed early but you can’t prevent your parents from deciding for themselves!

“I won’t be able to sleep with people downstairs awake”

Curious about this. So if you sister wasn’t popping in -presumably to wish them a good trip - would you have told you parents they needed to go to bed at the same time as you?!

The issue here is your anxiety, work on that so you find things like this easier. Because most people who don't suffer from anxiety wouldn't think twice about this situation

Absolutely nothing stopping you going up to bed , it's your parents house they can have whoever visit whenever they want if you want to be able to boss people about and dictate who can come visit and when I'd suggest you get your own place

You can go to bed as you’re not expecting to sleep and let her visit with her parents 🤷‍♀️

This thread puts me off ever letting my children move back in. 😄

With all due respect you need to calm down and stop being a drama queen.

Not your house. Not your choice of who visits.

Typically many people getting up at 3am for a flight would have less sleep then normal however they get on with it, take it as a part of their holiday etc

Sure you can sleep on the flight. If your so anxious over something as minor as less then average sleep maybe a gp could help you.

So OP, did you get to your destination and catch up on sleep yet?

Really depends how long she is staying. If it's a short visit to wish you all a happy holiday then I can't see the problem. If it's longer than that and she is going to be there for a few hours and be expecting cups of tea etc. then I think it's unreasonable as I wouldn't want it.

The evening before we fly is usually a take away to avoid washing up, final packing and checks, getting bags ready to go, usually in the hall. I wouldn't want someone clogging up my space.

But as others have said, she is coming to your parents in their home. So not a lot you can do about it if they don't mind and feel they will be ready to go on time.

You can go to your room while she spends time with your parents

YANBU. Not your decision to make.

Meant YABU I nearly always type the other one!

Yabu. If you are sisters then she has every right to visit your parents when she chooses as long as they are happy to have her there. Would it have been more convenient for her her have come 2 days prior, yes from the point of view that ypu all have an early flight. Sounds like she lacks common sense but you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Invest in some earplugs and go up to bed when you are ready. Alternatively look to move out at the earliest opportunity.

Just go to bed.
Your DS is OOO she should have come another time, wtf.

Hope you all have a good holiday x

Just go to bed when you'd like to. Let your parents do what they like. Pop on some headphones if they're noisy CFs (only said as I wouldn't plonk myself on someone in those circumstances).

You do all know the OP has been on holiday since Thursday right?

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I can't ever imagine thinking I have the right to dictate when someone visits my parents house never mind my own siblings. They have just as right as me to be there whenever they like. Just go to bed whenever you like and pop ear plugs in.

Your sibling wants to see your parents before a trip. Yeah you could’ve suggested two days before if it came up earlier, but now you’re the AH.