To say we shouldn’t have anyone visit before early flight?

[Lis1992]

We have a holiday coming up with some extended family members and my parents. I covered the holiday for my parents as a gift for a significant birthday this year. I’m living with them at the moment. My sister wants to visit tonight before we go. We are up at 3am for our flight. I think she should
have come yesterday instead, as wanted to go to bed (not to sleep to relax and hope to sleep later ) in the early evening. they were horrible to me when I said it’s not the best day for her to come and I’m so upset I’m not a great sleeper anyway, so I’ve been anxious about it as I hate being tired on a trip. AIBU?!

it’s fine to ask but not reasonable to push it if everyone else is keen (I get the sense they are)

I would rather get the undisturbed early night too but it’s a luxury you can’t demand.

It's not your house. What do your parents say?

Are you paying their mortgage or paying them rent?

Just because you paid for their tickets doesn't mean you own their lives.

It sounds very controlling to prevent access to your sister wanting to visiting her parents in her childhood home.

Who's house is it?

I can't see why it matters, you can still go to bed. It isn't your place to tell your dp what they can do in their own house.

Can you just go to bed? Or is the problem that they are likely to be noisy and keep you up or insist you join in. If the latter, then they ABU.

I would want at least 5 hours sleep if possible otherwise you spend the first few days feeling grim and recovering from the travel

YABU go to bed if you want.

How long is she likely to stay? Unless she has form for demanding board games and raiding the cocktail cabinet until 2am then YABU. (I'll admit more than once in my life I've turned up for an early flight having had no sleep but that was some time ago)

If she hasn't gone by 9 ish then just say you'll need some sleep to not be a crotchety traveller and go to bed. Go earlier if you want and listen to music or a podcast if they are noisy. Everyone's an adult here.

What parade would she be raining on?

Maybe she just wants to say goodbye and wish her parents a nice holiday?

Interesting that you felt the need to state that you paid for the holiday, can Iask what relevance you think this has?

It's not your house so not your decision. It doesn't matter that you paid for the holiday for your parents. They can be grateful for that and still want to see their other daughter before going away with you.

Just go to bed when you want to.

How long is she planning on staying til?
Surely you wouldn't be in bed any earlier than 9?
Sleep on the plane?
You sound a bit dramatic

Fuck me. Talk about dramatic.

It's your parents home, so they can have anyone visit they like - why do you get the final say?

Also just because she is visiting doesn't mean you can't take yourself off to bed at a reasonable hour.

And finally, it's a 3am wake up - just be a bit more tired than usual tomorrow and have a lie in on Thursday

Christ alive.

Total overreaction

You say your parents were horrible to you
This might be symptomatic of the issues you are causing

Wtf!? If they are okay with it what the hell is it to you?

This.

-It’s not your house
-You can go to bed whenever you want
-You’re going to be tired regardless with a 3am

Total non issue!

Imagine having someone stay and your house and them telling you who can visit and when

Failing to see the issue. She comes over, visits your parents and you chill in bed. Being tired for 1 day isn't the end of the world.
Side note, who paid for the holiday isn't relevant.

@DismantledKing It's not her house to say she can't visit, it's her parents house & decision.

she can go to bed when she wants.

Let them do what they want with your sister, you just go to bed whenever you are ready to.

Just because your sister comes over, you dont have to stay up, just as she doesnt have to stay away because you want to go to bed.

I won’t be able to sleep with people downstairs awake. Also people get in the shower late etc then and it keeps me awake as it’s beside my bedroom.

When you have your own house you can decide who visits. Put some earphones in and ignore them.

Unfortunately you're just going to have to suck it up. It's not your house.

Use some earplugs if it really bothers you, but it won't kill you to have one night of disturbed sleep.

maybe to avoid comments that the OP is a freeloader, already living with mum and dad, and accusing her of using their money for her holiday or something like that...