Unwell child can't go to school

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Hello,

Our son was up vomiting all night last night and can't go to school.

We have someone who drops our kids off at school but can't stay with them during the day.

My husband works from home and I have just stared a 100% office based job.

We have agreed our son will stay home with my husband today and if my mum will come and relay him when she can.

Up till here all well. Here comes the AIBU.

My husband had a Jujitsu trial this morning and it refusing to cancel it. In his mind either the girl who drops our kids off at school should take our unwell son to school and back or I should go in to work late so he can go.

I have said he has to cancel as our son isn't well.

Who is BU?

Trying to imagine saying to husband, no dear you have to call in sick to your new onsite job and stay home to care for our sick child, because I'm busy trying out a potential new hobby 😂Can anyone imagine doing this?

He is 100% being unreasonable. A trial for a new hobby can easily be rearranged, its absolutely ridiculous. When you're a parent you have to make sacrifices. You have started a new job and although entitled to dependency leave, obviously you don't want to take it unless necessary and it's not necessary because he can look after him with some help from your Mum when he has meetings.

A ju-jitsu trial 😂🤣

If my DH made the same suggestion I’d still be laughing about it while I was on my way to work and the first thing I’d say to my colleagues once I got into the office would be “you’re never going to guess what my husband said”

So his first thought about his unwell son is that it shouldn't affect him at all?

To the point of thinking that his unwell son should go to & from school rather than resting?

I understand that he is used to not figuring in this as you have always been there.

But is he really so uncaring?

Does your Husband understand he is a parent ? Obviously he thinks the children are Wimmins business not his.

Exactly this!

Yes same 🤣 Honestly what is up with some men?!

Do you have to work? How old is your child? If DH can watch him while working can he not stay home alone? Could you organise a flexible day so give up your afternoon off? It's about give and take, I've made DH stay home when I had other appointments, you get 10 days carers leave

He sounds like Julia's husband out of motherland. What a selfish arse, who prioritises a trial for a new hobby over looking after their sick child? Twat.

THIS.

My kids dad once refused to cancel a night out when I had (very bad) tonsillitis, saying that son would be in bed anyway so didn't matter.
He was 5.

Needless to say he is no longer my partner and no longer sees his son.

That's what I think of men that refuse to parent their own kids

I’m just guessing here but I imagine that the OP would have done the majority of doctors appointments, dentist visits, days off sick, parents evenings, school runs, parent taxi trips. I’m sure dad can try a little give and take for this one.

If a child is ill with a sickness bug then I believe it’s the parent who needs to look after them. Why should another person come in to contact with them who could then get sick themselves? The person who takes to school should 100% not drag a poorly child with them on a school run! Can’t believe he’s suggested this!

Sorry but if your husband agreed to look after his unwell son while he is working from home, then he should prioritise his son over a hobby that can be rescheduled even if he has to wait a week for the next slot 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ why should you be late for work (when for all we know the trial could have gone on for an hour) or your son go to school unwell to pass on his sickness bug to the rest of the school?

(again for clarity this was a trial session at a sports to club to see whether he wanted to take this on as a hobby - he has never had a class🙄).

*Unbelievable! I was thinking more along a trial for the Olympics.

I think it's obvious work trumps hobbies.