To think that MIL has exerted a malign influence here (LIGHTHEARTED)

[MagicClawHasNoChildren]

DD(4) has recently started asking for her toast 'without the butter melted in' in the mornings. As far as I'm concerned, this is the height of weirdness, so naturally, I was wondering to my husband whether this creature was born or made.

He then casually mentioned that that's how his mum eats toast - she toasts it, lets it go cold, and then smears butter on it like it's a massive ryvita. AIBU to be appalled at this shocking influence on my innocent baby? It starts like this, but where does it end?

(Disclaimer for the hard of humour: DD can have her toast any way she wants, and I love my MIL very, very much. She's a wonderful person, toast preferences aside, and I'm glad she spends as much time as she does with my kids. )

If its proper butter, that's the best way to eat toast.

And yes, my family say I'm weird and refuse to try it too 😆

My mum was like this too. Not only that but the toast could not be cooled in the toaster as that makes the toast go hard and crunchy. It had to be taken out immediately on popping up and put in a rack to cool. Her breakfast was quite the ordeal 😆

This is how I eat my toast. Proper salted butter on cooled toast, so the butter is a topping rather than a weird toast lube.

That is an obscene abomination. Limit her exposure immediately!

Cold toast for me too.

Nigella Lawson double butters her toast. She lets the first lot melt in and then butters again when it's cold as per your MIL. Problem solved!

It dates back to when people started being able to afford more than just what they needed on a daily basis but also couldn't afford to waste food. Bread that was just starting to go off would be toasted and left to cool to extend it's shelf life by a couple of days.

'Weird toast lube'

I'm laughing, but you're still wrong.

This is like my mum putting butter on a Weetabix and eating it like a big chipboard biscuit all over again.

You’ll be telling us that she doesn’t like marmite next (runs away screaming!)

I can't believe this. All these people eating butter on cooled toast. The insanity.

We call this hotel toast. It’s my favourite, too. But we don’t have a toast rack so I make a little toast tent out of 2 slices and wait for it to cool down. Apparently it uses less butter!

To be fair your DD is extremely lucky to have this influence, as unmelted butter is the only way to eat toast.
Soggy toast with butter soaked into it is the pits .

Butter on a Weetabix is lush 😋

Yes! The toast tent! I do that too - let's it cool without going sweaty. Then proper butter - or in extremis, lurpack and a sprinkle of Maldon.

I went to boarding school and at breakfast all the toast was piled together so that it all cooled together, and by the time we got it it was quite leathery. I quite like it like that, with proper unmelted butter on it.

Your mother in law has introduced your daughter to the right and proper way to eat toast. It was no doubt to late to fix you OP but still hope for her.

Hot toast melted butter only way

This is the beginning of a slippery slope, its a tad over bearing in my eyes, she knows best etc

Well your MIL is obviously a complete narcissist

YANBU at all OP

Your MIL is turning your Dd to the dark side

Bleugh - unfortunately OP you're going to have to LTB just to get away from the MIL and her toast terribleness.

My DH likes his toast cooled in a toast rack and smeared with the thinnest coating of butter imaginable.
Me? I like it warm and buttered so thick it leaves teeth marks in the butter, this way results in pools of melted butter and little islands of unmelted butter.
I also eat Weetabix with butter on.
(a tip for weetabix lovers, Tescos own brand is just as good as the more expensive brand. Tastes exactly the same but half the price.)

I once told my eldest (with out a hint of hyperbole) that if he continued to muck around that my toast had cooled before I got a chance to butter it the rest of the day would be going incredibly badly for him. Butter should melt into toast.

cold coffee is bad enough but unmelted butter is my line in the sand.

It’s a fine way to eat toast and the only way to toast if there is also marmalade involved.

This is like the weirdness of my youngest. He refuses to belive there is butter on toast unless he can see the butter. So if it's toasted and butter melted in then it has to be re buttered as he says there isn't any butter on it. Weird child