To think that MIL has exerted a malign influence here (LIGHTHEARTED)

[MagicClawHasNoChildren]

DD(4) has recently started asking for her toast 'without the butter melted in' in the mornings. As far as I'm concerned, this is the height of weirdness, so naturally, I was wondering to my husband whether this creature was born or made.

He then casually mentioned that that's how his mum eats toast - she toasts it, lets it go cold, and then smears butter on it like it's a massive ryvita. AIBU to be appalled at this shocking influence on my innocent baby? It starts like this, but where does it end?

(Disclaimer for the hard of humour: DD can have her toast any way she wants, and I love my MIL very, very much. She's a wonderful person, toast preferences aside, and I'm glad she spends as much time as she does with my kids. )

I am 44.

My mother still holds a grudge against my aunt (my mother's brother's wife) for teaching me this at an early age.

Apparently, we're both wrong, but she's wronger.

Cold is posh toast. Served in a rack with a curl of butter and preserve in a pot. Your MiL is clearly a woman of superior class to you, and is exercising a positive influence. You should be grateful!😂

Yep, hotel toast. It's a different thing.

Hot toasted with melted butter - good.
Cold toast with not-melted butter - good.

There is room in this world for all sorts of bread and butter combos.

Go NC quick.

It's the opposite in my family, my granny was a butter-melter-inner and after trying it I could no longer stomach my mum's preferred left-to-cool-then-inch-thick-"preserves-the-teethmarks" butter. Sorry mum.

There is room in this world for all sorts of bread and butter combos.

Hmmmmmm

Beg to differ

What do we want? HOMOGENEITY

When do we want it? AT THE SAME TIME

<applause>

I do need information on the Weetabix/butter thing though. How do you eat it??? and isn't it basically woodchips rather dry?

Both ways are good. Sometimes I like it melted, sometimes not! My dad always lets it cool off, and I guess that's how most would eat it from a toast rack.

@Outdamnspot23

From what I remember, it was like a big, fat, bland, crumbly biscuit with butter (I Can't Believe It's Not Butter, to be precise) smeared generously on the top. The butter topping seemed to add the right amount of lubrication to stop it from being like eating wood shavings.

Toasted wholemeal Irish soda bread buttered straight out of the toaster whilst it's hot enough to burn your fingers. Butter generously right to the every edges. Delicious with a large, black strong Italian coffee. 😋 🌹

Ugh!! Hot custard should have the consistency of thick double cream and poured to the side of your apple pie/rhubarb/gooseberry crumble. It's also good eaten cold straight from the fridge so it's like a soft set ice cream - yummy! 😋🌹

He must really be my child. This is exactly how I have it and it is the best way in my opinion!

Sacrilege
LTB and tell him to take his child with him

Weetabix with thick butter and marmalade is WONDERFUL.....

I like mine cold as well, needs to be tented but also can't be left for too long or it gets too chewy!

Do I take the smaller child? What if she turns out similarly freakish and wrong?

My gosh. Go NC immediately. You do not need this kind of influence on your DD !

I worked in a posh hotel as teenager and they served Melba toast with breakfast. I used to watch the lady make it and was always fascinated by the effort put into crispy cold toast. She would let me eat the broken bits but would threaten anyone with the knife if they tried to get a whole piece of her toast art.

She also made curls of butter an sat them on saucers of ice.

Exquisite.

https://fussfreeflavours.com/easy-melba-toast/

Best way to eat toast

"Butter on weetabix is lush 😋"

Add some jam on top and it's even more lush!!

I don't like butter at all.

My toast is only very slightly toasted, so very light warm bread really, and I eat it like that, no jam or anything else on it either.

I don't know if that's better or worse 🤔 Props for toast purity, I guess, but then points removed for, you know <gestures vaguely> the rest of it.

I have fond memories of my Nan taking me swimming in the leisure Centre as a kid and buying me tea and toast in the cafe after. They used the loveliest, saltiest butter on cool toast and to this day I can taste it.

I stand with MIL!

was impressed when 6 yr old grandson said I made good toast, I think I put more margarine on than his mum (he is dairy intolerant so couldn't use my preferred butter😅