To not have cut DD14 toenails

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DD is nearly 14.

Ex thinks it's my responsibility to cut her toenails.

I think it's DD's responsibility to cut her own toenails.

AIBU?

(Btw I remind her regularly)

I’m with you!

It’s her responsibility 100%

if your ex thinks it’s your responsibility then why dont they think it is their (ex’s) responsibility?

I can't remember my Mum ever cutting my toe nails. Why would she?

Unless you are missing out some key detail like a disability then YANBU.

My 11 year old does his.

When I was a teen I worked with a 17 year old who had not looked after his toenails. Ingrown toenail badly botched by chiropodist lead to a hospital amputation of his big toe.

So I would say a parent is responsible until child can be relied on to do it properly.

My 11 ups cut their toe nails. Does
Your dd not?

Your ex is a weirdo, why doesn't he cut her toenails if he thinks it's a parent's job?

I find it extremely odd, unless there are SN, that a 14 year old would need this doing for them. At an age where many girls have their periods to take care of, surely this basic self care task would be obvious?

Tell him he can do one foot and you will do the other.
When dd needs anything done at all text and insist he do half....
He is a knob.
But guessing you already know that.

How would it be your job not his. If she can’t do it herself why has he not taken her for a pedicure. Why is he so bothered about her toenails. Has he run out of absolutely anything else he can try and be an asshole about?

Good god, does he think you should still be wiping her bum and washing her hair for her too? She's 14, she can cut her own toenails!

Although interesting that he only sees it as the responsibility of one parent 🤔

Does she know how to cut her toenails. Like cutting straight across and things

Perhaps get her a proper pair of nail clippers. And maybe the first couple of times make a thing of it of a diy home pedicure type thing

But yeah at 14 she should be cutting her own nails

What does DD think?

Does he think that because his mummy still wipes his bottom?

To quote from another thread, OP, are you Dobby the house elf?

Unless she specifically wants you to do it then no I think she should do it herself.

No, she cuts her own nails like a normal 14 year old.
@Wishitsnows "Has he run out of absolutely anything else he can try and be an asshole about?"
Sounds like my ex who told me today that me expecting my 12 year old to clear their toast crusts into the bin was neglectful parenting...

No, it's weird.
My kids are 16,13 and 11 and I can't actually remember cutting their toenails for years! I'm guessing maybe 7 or 8? Or probably younger. I guess it's something they just start doing themselves? God I feel like a bit if a neglectful idiot now because I really don't think I recall doing it since they were pretty young. I do know they pop into my room on occasion to nick the good clippers though and the most I get involved is to say to them to make sure they remember to put 'em back.

Pardon? She’s 14! Why would you be asking anyone to do that at 14?!?

I stand over my ds(14) and make him do it because otherwise he leaves them and destroys school socks.

Same with his finger nails. He lets them grow and has scratched people accidentally when sparring. Plus they are seldom clean 🙁

This.

Ask him this, OP.

100% hers. Why isn’t it his if he feels like that anyway? He could cut them if he believes a parent should do it

I can’t remember my mum ever cutting mine so I must have been doing them since I was fairly young! I was definitely doing them myself at 14. I’m pretty sure my step kids at 12 and 14 do their own nails too.

I've never cut my kids fingers or toenails, or my own. Nails self regulate.