Would you go to cinema alone?

[Diedre44]

Sad as it might sound, I seriously have nobody to go with. Not in the sense no-one wants to see or fancies the films I want to see, the fact I have nobody to ask. I have no friends and DH and DP really do not want to come and see Barbie with me. I really don't think I'd have a problem going alone but they're making fun of me wanting to go alone.
I'm comfortable going for a coffee or lunch out alone and wouldn't "interact" while watching a movie anyway so don't see the problem going alone anyway.
Would you go alone?

I go plenty of places on my own, it was liberating to realise I don't have to find someone else to go with.

I was at the theatre by myself last night, had planned to go with a friend but she was ill. It was so good to get out and do something just for me after a stressful week with DC.

I work shifts, so I sometimes go alone when I am off during the day. I don’t see anything strange with it.

I've done it many times without give it any thought.

Yes! Only once though during the day. I think I was desperate to see it and it was ending. About 3 of us in cinema!!

Yes do it op.
Have been Ma y times and to the theatre, it's getting more common now as I see others doing it.
Enjoy

Yes absolutely.

I do it! And the theatre. Why ever not? Plenty of people do.

Yes, loads of times! I'm usually not the only one on my own in the cinema/theatre, either.

Yes I would and I have done before.

Absolutely I would. I haven't done so in years (partner and I tend to like the same films) but I wouldn't hesitate to.

Back in my youth when I was first working in London, I used to go to the theatre on my own, too

of course go alone! and if you go when its off peak and quiet they let you sit in the premium seats for free :)

i go the cinema alone all the time! there’s some films my husband isn’t interested in or we don’t feel are “babysitter worthy” so we go separately. it’s such a treat and i love the alone time!!! heaven! please give it a go. i can almost guarantee you won’t be the only person in there by yourself

they're making fun of me wanting to go alone

Of course, I do whatever I want to do, by default by myself. I'm usually happy for someone to come with me, but I wouldn't not do something just because I'm the only person I know who wants to do it.

The whole point of being and adult with adult responsibilities is exactly that you get to decide for yourself exactly what you do.

I agree with PP that their reaction 'making fun', or at least trying to,reflects really very badly indeed on them. Why are they suggesting you should not do exactly what you want to do? What are they afraid of?

If will be fear at the bottom of it, have a think about what they might be afraid of, but, meanwhile, don't let it influence you in any way. Or at least make it make you more determined to do it.

Why indeed might they want to stop you from doing what you want?

It's brilliantly liberating to do exactly what you want, when you want. No one to consult or discuss what you do. My favourite thing ever.

Embrace it

While you are at it, could your family be the reason you don't seem to have any friends outside your family circle?

Good friends might be rare, but they can also be a truly life enhancing thing. No rush, no pressure, but if you keep an eye out, you might find people with whom you can be a friend. Especially as I get older, I value my friends more and more.

Much prefer to go to the cinema on my own.

I do prefer during the day when it's quieter rather than say a Friday or Saturday eve where is feels like more of a date event.

Something so indulgent about having a cinema almost to yourself and a huge tub of your favorite ice cream, and no one interrupting you for the whole movie.

Enjoy!

Definitely. I did so 4 days ago in fact.
There was only 4 other people in the. I had the row to myself and I had a 'glass' of wine and got comfy. It's great!

So heartening to see all these comments and I so wish I had done this more pre baby when I had the chance! I've always felt uncomfortable doing stuff alone - I think because as a child I had no friends and was routinely left out so I have a hang up about looking like a Billy no mates! But this is such a silly way to think and I kick myself for it now. Especially since as a teacher I could have made so much more of my summer holidays... definitely a regret. I'm so looking forward to hopefully sneaking the odd solo coffee/film once my wee one is in nursery later this year! So don't be like me OP - go for it!

Yes, I have done. No problem. As for going during ‘busier times’ as suggested by a pp, I’d say the opposite, unless you want to be irritated by people fidgeting, talking, rustling their bags of snacks.

it's more the fact that it's not something they would do themselves.

Yeah, lightedhearted is all fine. Sure

It's just not right to suggest that everyone should be the same and if you are different you are somehow 'wrong'.

Come to think about it, It's fine for them to gently tease so long as they don't actually stop you from 'doing you'.

Very important for you not to allow them that power. Besides, doing things by yourself is fabulous.

@Diedre44 go for it!! Once you’ve been on your own once, it will become your favourite thing to do for some “me” time.

I’ve struggled with anxiety/depression and alcohol addiction for a while - related to adverse childhood events /low self esteem. Something that came up in a support group was the concept of “dating yourself” as a way of practising self care - I am finding it massively therapeutic and am so much happier in myself since I started doing it. My next step is to go on my own to a retreat of some sort.

So personally I see no negatives in going to the cinema alone and if anyone finds it a source of amusement, tell them to fuck off! (Do you really have a DP and a DH???? 😁)

I would and have. I bloody love it, snacks, a disgustingly nice tango ice blast thing, and peace.

I love doing things by myself, in fact, I'm having coffee and breakfast on my own right now after the gym.

Sod them, book it now and enjoy it.

Oh, I LOVE the concept of "dating yourself." What a great idea.
What kind of things have you done so far?

OMG yes, it's lovely to go alone, the only thing I miss is debriefing after a really good movie!

No

I LOVE going to the cinema alone. Perfect chance to be quiet, focus totally on the film, eat whatever I like. Much more relaxing than going with my kids 🤣

Yes. Been to a few gigs on my own too. My view on these types of activities (where you're going to experience a specific act / peice of work) you don't need anyone there, your going for the thing, not to socialise!
And noone else gives a shit if someone's alone.