Comments about hand me downs

[Peterpiperpickedapeckof]

This is a funny one as I think it’s more political than practical.

I have an older girl and two younger boys. My sil and bil have a girl who is 6 years younger than my girl and a boy just 2 years younger than my youngest boy.

I have taken a pragmatic approach to hand me downs and just gave the girls away to friends / family with children close in age to mine and that has meant that I have given the youngest boy’s clothes to my sil for her boy but she’s made a few sharp comments and so has her daughter and also my bil about how her daughter doesn’t get anything etc.

I can’t hold on to clothes for 6 years + and I can’t imagine they want me to give them things that are massively too big. My daughter is tall and always wore clothes several ages bigger and their girl wears clothes several sizes smaller. So the age gap is huge!

They have buckets of cash so really don’t need my hand me downs. I’m tempted just to stop giving any!

Writing this I can see it is so petty! Going to let the whole thing dry up I think. What would you do?

None of their business what you do with your stuff! Jealousy stinks :)

On a side note I stick all of the kids old clothes on Vinted for £1-£3 depending on the brand, like to think I’m doing my bit for the environment recycling clothes at a low cost and the money goes into the kids savings account

I would ask them when you have some so they can’t say you didn’t offer.

Petty and rude: For the sake of peace, give your D clothes and tell them to send to charity shop if they don't want them: Lots of peoppllee are saying to stop giving to them altoggether (hich is what she deserves) ut if you do that, she might get nasty !

How ridiculous.
I don’t think they’re suggesting you store your DD’s clothes or give them to them to store…
I think they’re being even cheekier and hunting that since you give their DS lots of your sons clothes, that you make it fairer by buying their DD something!!
I think In your position I would give the clothes away in a local Facebook group or to a charity shop. Or next time respond ‘since you’re getting clothes for free maybe it would be fairer if you bought my kids something!!!!

I have 3 daughters, all 6 years apart, other than the odd outfit I never kept any for hand me downs as I never had the space to store it all and fashions change.

You have given them clothes for one of their children and kindly given to friends aswell. It is your choice where things go and I think this is a fair way of dividing, especially with the large age and size gap. They are just trying to find something to make an issue about.

That’s crazy they should ne delighted to be getting what they are getting sure styles change all the time too just give them the boys clothes and give the girls clothes to whoever you want peole are crazy and when you get a low percentage on here that your been unreasonable I think it’s auntomated 😂😂

Tell them it's wonderful they are so eco-friendly and want to make sure they aren't using fast fashion and give them a list of great charity shops that sell children's clothing. :)

I'd stop giving as well without making up stories. Bloody cheek.