To ask for your tips to overcome this nightmare of epic proportions?

[Franknotfrancis]

I’ll start by stating I don’t drink often , because I’m terrible at it. I’m just one of these idiots that seems to always overdo it and feel horrible the next day which is why I tend to leave the stuff alone. Yesterday, I was celebrating achieving something quite clever ( oh the irony!) and forgot that I’d not eaten anything all day and merrily ploughed into a part worn bottle of vodka and a couple of DHs beers. I also don’t smoke very much at all and seemed to have channelled Dot Cotton last night. So basically I’ve woken up with a churning stomach, the shakes, a sore throat and a thunderous head. Somewhat heroically the little one has been dealt with this morning and I managed to get him ready quite happily before DH kindly has taken him to school . I honestly feel like I might die, the room is spinning and I’m sweaty. I have the school run at 3:15 and I’m supposed to be at a family gathering this evening. Is there any hope of feeling normal by then? I do this to myself maybe 3/4 times a year and it’s always a horrific 36 hrs to get back to normal. I need to do better now. Also, no funny anecdotes to share, I’m incredibly boring and well behaved when ratarsed, I just seem to drink for the sake of it. I’m 40. I know I should know better but I was excited and in a celebratory mood and didn’t realise how much I was putting away. Can anyone help me feel better?

Banana, full fat coke, plenty of water/fluids and paracetamol.

Also? A bath. It does help. And get outside and go for a walk, even if you feel dog rough.

Won't be a popular suggestion but my (longer term) solution to this was to resolve to stop drinking entirely and I feel so much happier and healthier for it.

@HandsupSue
oh we go out, we go to all kinds of places, we’ve probably been on an average of 3 holidays a year ( nothing fancy just summer in Kent type stuff) and galleries, museums, theme parks etc. we just have to pick places DC will enjoy because he’s always with us. We don’t have access to childcare outside of the working day . Dh relatives are pretty much all dead now bar one eccentric elderly chap who’d not last 5 minutes with DS and my family who are all too busy or don’t like kids , We see them maybe twice a year? I have a job that involves no contact with other humans and my interests are all solitary things . Im not sure how I’m supposed to make friends? I don’t honestly miss them that much. The friends I had before were a pain in the arse tbh , always wanting to borrow money/ stuff , turning up at all hours, dumping their kids round my house etc. just a nuisance. I’ve just had a bath and feel lots better so I’m going to try and eat something. Genuinely interested in tips for making friends at this age though, it doesn’t really feel possible or necessary now, I’d be really cross if someone was randomly appearing at my house for coffee or demanding I wondered round shops with them, or having to get dressed up to go somewhere… I can’t be arsed! I’ve also got this thing where I never ask for help or confide in people but I’m always ready to be kind to others ( pushover) so I end up giving in relationships and getting nothing back. I think that’s a big part of it I’ve honestly had some awful experiences , lost so much time and money and brain cells to people.😂

The friends I had before were a pain in the arse tbh , always wanting to borrow money/ stuff , turning up at all hours, dumping their kids round my house etc. just a nuisance. I

oh. Whenever I read similar to this, it does slightly put a different slant on the OP.

I will bow out

Cheese and crackers! And coke of course. Flat coke best

I can't believe someone has actually gone to the trouble or looking at your posts from last night, screenshotting them and posted them here. That's some serious dedication but to what I'm not sure 😂😂😂

Anyway, don't worry op. We've all been there. I merrily sank a bottle of wine at the weekend then decided to move onto gin. I found myself hilarious at the time, the next morning not so much. My hangover recovery strategy is as follows:

Down a pint of water.
Go back to sleep.
When you wake up drink more water and see if you can manage something plain like toast or ready salted crisps.
Drink full fat coke.
By this time I'm usually ready for a McDonald's breakfast or double cheeseburger if breakfast has finished.
Coffee.
Fresh air and brisk walk to blow away the cobwebs.
Early night.

Hahahaha you poor thing. Far out we've all been there.
I call them old lady hangovers.
Fucking brutal. You never know when it's gonna happen either.
Lots of salt and sugar.
You'll be better soon even though it probably doesn't feel like it.

@Franknotfrancis I want to thank you for this thread.

Last night I was so tempted to have a drink in the garden but I just knew that if I did chances were I would feel as you do this morning. It seems that horrendous hangovers happen most of the time for me now, unless I literally have one small drink.

The terrible anxiety (beer fear) is the worst aspect, along with the inability to sleep. Anyway I managed to resist but I was feeling a little hard done to last night even although it was my decision not to drink.

Reading about how awful you feel has reminded me of how I felt a few weeks ago. You have my full sympathy because I know exactly what you are going through today.

I really don't think it matters or is particularly deep OP, and I don't mean that nastily - just stay out the sun, get yourself an electrolyte drink (or several), a decent salty fatty meal and rest up.

If you do nothing else, do electrolytes. Paracetamol if you've got a headache. Get a bit of fresh air this evening when it cools down and you're feeling a bit more lively.

Nurofen Plus . I shit you not it will get you through til you can sleep tonight. It must be the "plus" version (codeine). Or Solpedine.

And Coke, or Sprite, etc (no diet versions!)

You'll be ok tonight but you'll still be ropey tomorrow probably.

I have very similar hangovers and they last three days! Murderous things. Rarely if ever have a night out now as I just can't take it (I'm 48). I also don't turn into a wild lunatic while drinking. I am just destroyed after it all.

Hang in there!!

it doesn’t really feel possible or necessary now, I’d be really cross if someone was randomly appearing at my house for coffee or demanding I wondered round shops with them, or having to get dressed up to go somewhere…

I don’t think I have any advice on how to make friends, but I relate to what you have written here. I have friends (not loads but a few). None of them ever turn up unannounced at my house, I also don’t go shopping with any of them because I don’t see going shopping as a leisure activity. One or two of my friends like going shopping but they know better than to invite me along because they know it isn’t my bag. I also don’t go to the sort of places where one has to get dressed up (apart from the occasional wedding).

When I see a friend, we might sometimes go and have lunch but to a cafe or a greasy spoon rather than anything posh or smart . I’ve one particular friend with whom ‘lunch dates’ often involve buying a meal deal and sitting in my car to eat them while we look at a nice view 😂 Other things I do with friends include going for a dog walk, sitting on the beach, or sometimes going to a micro pub
(I wear leggings and a T shirt, no need to dress up). If you can find the right sort of people, they will just enjoy your company wherever you happen to be, and will understand you and the way you like to socialise. I’ve never been in the sorts of friendship groups who have ‘girls nights out’ or go to fancy restaurants/cocktail bars etc. The friends I have managed to make like me just as I am, and vice versa.

The codeine is perfect for taking the edge off hangxiety - only to be used for a day though.

Crikey what a palaver over a hangover!

This is impressive!
I have zero head for alcohol, and even a single glass of wine can give me a bad head next day.

Hope you feel better soon, OP.

Top Tip:

Get off your phone. Staring at a screen is not going to help your head, and you're wasting time posting here when you could be sleeping it off 🤷‍♀️

This is very sensible.
Alcohol is a toxin {as is nicotine} .

As if someone has looked at what you posted last night and screenshot it 😮

Absolute creep.

The alcohol will have cleared your system by 5pm at which point you will begin to recover.
(that's what I always used to tell myself and it worked.)
This is why I gave up booze. Hangovers are torture.

Precisely. A nightmare of epic proportions my arse.

😂
My solution to feeling nauseous and sweaty for any reason is always to grab a bucket ''Just in case'' and retire to bed.

Had Norovirus come on very fast once, and without the bucket to hand, would have had a nasty clean up to do.

Poor dog thought I was growling at her.

Starting a MN thread {Or even texting family and friends} is last thing on my mind, as feel too rough.

Thanks all! I’ve followed some good advice here and it looks like I’ll live bath, pills, food etc have helped a bit although I still feel rotten. I think some of the best advice is actually to knock it on the head because I’m clearly too old for this, I’ve missed out on sleep and Ive never been able to nap in the day so I’ll just have to feel shit until tonight now. It’s the guilt that I might let others down that’s the killer I have to do what I promised. I think I’ll celebrate with a takeaway next time. I hadn’t actually eaten for a couple of days because I was working out of the house and I have ibs and a phobia of public loos so I just don’t eat except at home been that way for years. This is why I’m so pathetic with it my poor body was starving before I even started. I’ll be at a dinner later, hanging for 3 hrs and probably the only person not eating. Serves me right.

Go for a run. Sweat it out.

Shower. Have a nap, and some coconut water (disgusting)

Do the school run.

Go to the family event. Have 1 glass of wine.

This!

For future reference! Before you go to sleep. 2 paracetamol and a pint of squash/water.

The only time I had a hangover was when I got so drunk I passed out and didn't do this, we had to drive 350 miles the next day (my fiancé did the driving thankfully 😂)

Full fat coke, 2 paracetamol, bacon and cheese sarnie - the cheese must be a plastic cheese slice though. Works every time.