To be furious that a woman licked my husband...

[Bogiesaremyonlyfriend]

At DC's club today and husband drive past on his way home from work so popped in. I went to get some drinks and as I was standing at the counter a woman approached h and licked his head and said hello to him. From the conversation they had I can gather they used to work together but haven't seen each other for a while. I'm absolutely raging with h. He saw me looking over with horror but said nothing to her just had a flirty conversation and totally ignored me when I came over with the drinks. I am livid with him. He says it isn't his fault she licked him....

There are more!!?!!!

Nope not washed. He is sleeping on the sofa, or god knows where. He isn't here anyway. Possibly see her again, she was using the gym the club is at. Not that I'd know what to say!!

It's disgusting that he hasn't washed. Yuck and ick in equal measure.

Very odd.

And over familiar.

I'd be furious too.

@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend haha I was joking, fortunately I have never seen another DH head-licking quandary. That is gross that he hasn't washed! I'd go and polish his head to get the conversation started.

I had a close friend who used to lick peoples faces and heads when we were teenagers- including my own fathers head at a sleepover!🤢 Unfortunately I think this is a kink thing with some people and I believe you OP. I think your DH and this woman must have had some sort of sexual banter at work or even an affair. I’m so sorry 💐 I hope you find out the truth

I was wondering that but my ah is bald and I really don't want to lick is sweaty bald head !😂

He is now not speaking to me for being annoyed. I'm calling this a blessing

I would be concerned with his reaction and probably try and snoop through his phone conversations with her, if there are any.

If he had pushed her away and said WTF? - fine. The fact he acted like it was normal is the worrying thing.

How tall is your husband? How tall is this crazy lady? How did she reach his head with her tongue?

He was sat down. She was taller than him though so probably could have managed if she had stood on her tiptoes...

Lucky you having a weekend off from Rover.

To be fair, I would have laughed.

She's been very over familiar with him & they must be pretty comfortable with each other for this to "just happen". It'll his reaction to you is very telling, no support or reasonable explanation for you, just getting annoyed

@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend, having familiarity with your previous threads, I’m not surprised about this spectacle or his totally inappropriate response and treatment of you.

Re the Licker, I’d assume that they’ve had some sort of illicit history. They were very comfortable with her touching him in such an intimate way in public, carrying on a flirty conversation, and ignoring you when you approached.

You’ve written numerous threads and comments about this utterly abusive, controlling, sexually coercive, cheating, mean-spirited, unempathetic man whom you’ve wanted to leave for at least a year. In April you asked for support to pull the trigger. @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend, let your anger over this latest humiliation be the impetus to finally end this destructive marriage.

The damage being done to your girls is tragic.

Now this is an odd one.

Both myself and my BF have a few off friends and I could totally see a couple licking someone's head or cheek.
Because he's quite & non confrontational, had our female friends try to tease BF continuely. He ignores it which ads fuel to fire sometimes. An older friends saying 'ooh your a chunky one' and making rude comments to him can be funny when we've had drinks. He's absolutely not attracted to this her.

BF says a supervisor who he was good friends with at his last job in early 2000s, would tweak his nipples when he'd come out of the coldstore & they were sticking out. He says it was funny, but didn't think it sexual. She was just bubbly.

You don't know this woman, so your not being unreasonable if your shocked by her behaviour. Doubt anything is going on behind your back as she would be stupid to be so blatant?

Re bald heads: group of us covered a bald workmates head with lipstick kisses on his 40th birthday at a bar. He was pleased but slight flustered. His partner who was there found it hilarious!

Yeah I wanted to keep that bit separate from this issue as I was (and still am) raging.

I have a plan to leave and it's all on its way with being sorted. I'll be out in a few weeks, just sorting my mortgage on my house so it's not a tenancy one. Been complicated but nearly there....

Good for you OP

I'm glad to hear you have a plan in place @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend

I remember some of your other threads and I'm glad you'll be away from him soon. Let the licker have him if she wants. I hope you have lots of happiness in your future.