Is my friend BU to ask me to pick her up from the airport at 2am ?

[Eggsandpickles]

She clearly wants to save money by not getting a taxi. There are no buses to our village at that time. A taxi would probably cost her around £85.
Thoughts ?

Not fair to ask someone a question which involves answering yes or no?

Jesus, that could not be more melodramatic.

Nope, you shouldn’t ask. The person you’re asking may not find it easy to know.

Just know your limits, ok?

True, it is difficult to find the n and o the buttons on a modern phone.

She can ask and you can say no. It's a choice if you want to, can do, or would do. Just because you wouldn't doesn't put her in CF status for asking

You could not be more brash if you tried.

I could, actually.

If you don't like people disagreeing with you, the close browser window is on the top right.

I would never dream of asking someone for a lift at that time of the morning!

Calling out typos, how pedantic 🥱

Here, let me make your day, I’ll make another typo just for you Frabbitz.

My friend picked me up at 3am to drive me to the airport, but she offered and I didn't ask and doible checked she was sure as it as such an awful time. She also came and picked me up when I came back, but that was a more reasonable midday. She offers every time I fly, I either give her £40 cash or buy a box of cigarettes for her. It's about £65-70 each way in a cab.

No she isn't being unreasonable to ask.

You won't be unreasonable to say no or yes. It is totally up to you.

You’re the one calling people melodramatic and invoking Jesus to protect you 😂

Maybe calm down and go have a nice lie down.

I also think people should be aware that many find it hard to say no, and will try to accommodate any request even when it doesn’t work for them. So we all should apply our own critical thinking first and think through if something is likely to be possible

Exactly

I wasn't calling out a typo.

I was saying that to respond to someone asking for a lift requires pressing 2, possibly 3 buttons on a phone and you then move on with your day.

Except in your world, I assume you'd then spend 2 hours raging about how dare someone even think about asking you for anything, assuming people ever do because, y'know.

Nah, I'm ok. You're the one who gets angry at people asking you to help them out.

Careful admitting such scandalous revelations you're about to have half the thread call you a cheeky fucker and lament about how you're manipulating your friend and putting her in a situation where she now cannot refuse all because she once did you a kindess...

she should factor in the taxi costs in her budget for her holiday. it is not your problem. If it is something you do for each other then ok, unless she has done the same for you it is not your problem. She should pay the taxi fare or should have parked her car at the airport. Not your problem and she is unreasonable to ask.

Nope, no rage required. But as others have pointed out, some people do feel the weight of other people’s expectations and it’s fairer not to put them in the position of having to say no.

Can you quote where I said I get angry?

Love it when threads get derailed by randoms arguing with each other.

Nope, someone offering a lift is different.

That's really a "you" problem though, isn't it? You can't expect every single person to understand everyone's weird hangups.

Fundamentally, it's not unreasonable to ask - ask mind, not demand - a favour from a friend. It's really, really not.

Or when randos try to police a thread

I infered it. Happy to help.

I agree with you.

There is a "type" that feels very comfortable asking for a blatantly big ask.

I certainly wouldn't.

Nor would my circle.

Would I happily help out a stuck friend for a hospital run etc., absolutely.

But get up in the middle of the night to save £85 .....not a chance.

My time has greater value than that.

Fortunately no one would dream of asking such a thing of me.