I’ve just recently started dating someone, who I knew was really passionate and into their hobby (a sport) but I didn’t realise how much until they got their timetable for games etc - it turns out they will be busy every single weekend for the next 2/3 months.
I was a little bit concerned by this as we don’t live very close to each other (about 2-3 hours) and both work during the week so it’s not like we can just pop and see each other whenever we like - I told them how I felt and that it’s hard to get to know someone and potentially build a relationship with someone when you barely see them. They understood where I was coming from and said they will compromise but that compromise was just a couple of hours here and there which for me I don’t know if it’s enough, especially this early on in something. They also said that if I’m going to find it an issue to let them know so we don’t get hurt later on down the line and for me that felt like even if we was in a relationship that this hobby would come first as a priority. I also said that I’d be happy to go to some of these games but I’m a single parent and the other parent isn’t involved and my child has additional needs and doesn’t always cope well with travel so there’s only so much I can practically do.
The thing is I really like them, and could potentially see myself with them long term and I’m definitely not one to give an ultimatum or anything like that - so I guess do I let this be a dealbreaker or do I stick with it and just make that sacrifice of not seeing them very much for the next 2/3 months and see how it goes?