How do you not care what others think about you?

[WobblyWobbles]

Life would be so much less stressful if I could stop worrying about what others think of me. I feel so inadequate all the time. I mean I admit I am not the most competent person but I wish I wasn't so ashamed of it.

I think in a way this shame motivates me to at least try and do the basics but in instances where I can't or where it's just too stressful, or where it's something that really shouldn't affect anyone else (clothes, appearance, demeanor) I wish I could just not care.

Has anyone cracked this?

My mum always used to say "nothing anybody says or thinks about me affects my intrinsic worth".

In other words, you are you. You are what you are. People's thoughts or words don't change that. If you're happy with what you are yourself, why on earth would you worry what people's opinions are? Especially as they cannot possibly know you as well as you know yourself.

Reading your last post, I think you should focus on learning time management techniques for when you are at work, and learning how to develop a thicker skin for social situations - its much easier to learn in situations where it matter less to you, for example with strangers who you know you will never see again.