Flats with dresses

[Ceci03]

I've read a lot of threads on shoes and dresses. Are flats with a dress frumpy... am struggling. I could wear sandals but my feet and toes are not my best feature though I am working on them. Trainers or canvas pumps are so hot . Office v warm. Help!

Not at all. I don't know anyone who wears heels any more. Most people wear trainers with their dresses if casual.

I can’t remember the last time I wore heels.

They are pretty old fashioned now I think. DD is 26, works in fashion in London, wouldn’t be seen dead in them.

Nothing wrong with flats.

Like ballet flats are they frumpy for fat 53 year old . Saw these but not sure now.

I generally wear flats because I'm pretty tall. And my husband was only a couple of inches taller than me so wearing a heel made me taller than him and I didn't like it. I don't think it looks frumpy at all there are plenty of cute flats out there.

Go to a shoe shop and try some on with the type of dresses you are wearing them with?

it will depend what sort of office job you have I think as to how smart you need to be. I always think my legs look shit in flats so I will always wear heels with dresses. I buy heeled brogues from dune and they do wear well and are comfortable.

I only wear flats. Don’t care what other people think, but actually quite often get compliments because I choose such cute ones.

I had this problem this morning. Put on a long flowery dress and must have tried five pairs of sandles,ballet slip ons,my white trainers ( but having size 9 feet made them look like boats) and even my old crocs I wear in the garden. I was only going to Aldi!
Finally spotted a pair of navy suede Chelsea boots( I think this is what they are?! From M&S two years ago) . And wow,it really made the outfit! I felt great. Though rather sweaty when I got home in the heat!

Birkenstocks!

Birkenstocks do work, yes

I wear converse, clarks ballet pumps and heels

And I wear a lot of dresses!

I wear fake converse from Sainsbury. £10 they last all summer and are very comfortable. I'm late 50s, size 7 feet and feel pretty alright in them.

Wear whatever you like! I'm very happy to be able to say that I've never worn any heel taller than about an inch, and that was a very long time ago. On the odd occasion that I wear a dress I certainly wear flats with it.

My go-to flats are a pair of black Tieks. I've had them about 5 years and they're still just as comfortable as they were when I bought them. But I wear sandals in the summer.

Why should you cripple your feet because someone (advertisers?) has given you the idea it’s “frumpy” to wear flats with dresses? I’m 60 and have never worn heels with anything, too damn painful. My summer shoes are Merrell Barrado (no sandals for me, they give me blisters, plus these days I have orthotics).

The shoes you linked look perfectly nice, btw.

Yeh I know I know @Catsmere !! Just don't want to look like a frump! I can't wear heels any more but everyone saying wear trainers wit dresses but they are very hot on my feet and make me hot all over lol. Have ordered a pair of pavers ha ha. They fairly generic tho I don't think they look too "old lady ish"

Had to look up Pavers, I don’t think they’re sold here - first page has some nice looking shoes and boots. Which style did you choose?

I ordered these

But was considering these. What do you all think are these v old lady or are they ok. I'm getting to that age where I can't tell. I'm tempted by comfort but don't want to be a frump either !!

I think flats work well with midi and maxi lengths. Flats with a knee length dress can veer into frumpy territory.

I don’t think any of those styles are remotely “old lady” - I live in a retirement village and I can tell you I don’t see them here!

The ones on the left with the flower are a little twee/frumpy in all honesty.

I really like the ones on the right, but have a feeling they'd be sweaty as you can't wear a shoe liner with them.

Flatforms!

What specifically does a 'frump' look like? Apart from female obviously, since it's not a word I've ever heard used to describe a man.

Excellent point, and why is it bad? Why is dressing comfortably bad? It all goes back to the “you must attempt to look like a sex object at all times” thing, doesn’t it - not to mention that aging is THE crime for women.

The ones on the left with the flower are a little twee/frumpy in all honesty.

Whereas I would say those on the right are a bit frumpier.

Just wear what you like, what you feel good in, what makes you happy.