For wanting a boob job?

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For context I’m 44. Small ( think A cup) very saggy boobs. Body shape an apple and clothes just look awful on me because I have no balance to my body just wide hips and a flat chest. So many more things I could do with the money but never do anything for myself. So am I being selfish? Would take a bit of saving money wise but I hate my body and even 15 yr old girls have bigger boobs than me! Just sick of clothes looking crap on me no matter what I buy.

@Fluffyowl00 oh that’s an excellent point I hadn’t even thought of - I also had a c section that went perfectly and I recovered well, then the two cancer surgeries 4/5 months later that I also recovered relatively quickly from all things considered - but yes, I’m also absolutely DONE with not feeling “well”. I wouldn’t do anything now that would jeopardise my ability to feel “well”. But I also agree that it might be worth all that to the OP, who clearly knows her own mind.

I'm an apple with big boobs but I still hate my body.

Be careful you aren't fixating on this and thinking it wil solve all your issues.

Honestly if it will make you happy and more comfortable in yourself do it. Look for a reputable surgeon then go for it. You're the one that lives in your body and if that's what you need then do it. Hope it all goes well OP

I'd focus on getting fit and losing the fat, rather than have an operation

Getting fit and strong is great for making you love your body

It also gives you a sense of control

Also, nothing wrong with small boobs

I have boobs and they are rapidly descending in my 40s. If you have the money, do your research and find a good surgeon. You probably need a lift and implants
Mate has same boobs as yourself. Size 20plus but no boobs at all. She embraced wearing very pretty crop tops and wears lovely strappy tops that flare over her stomach. Or she wears stick on cups with really dainty strappy flare tops.

I would say go for it if it's what you really want, but do your research and get a really good surgeon.

However I will tell you about my experience with implants - I got them I was in my early 20's, had wanted them for years as I always had small breasts. The surgery went fine, and I had no actual problems with them (apart from the numbness that a previous poster described), but honestly I started to really dislike them after only a year or two.

After the initial euphoria of getting them wore off, I was weirdly more self conscious that I had these foreign things in my body that wasn't really me. It's not like other surgeries where you heal from the initial operation and then that's it you recover, there will always be these things inside you that you kind of have to worry about.
I didn't like how they felt, they weren't as soft and warm and squishy like my real breasts, they were sort of heavy and a bit hard in places, and I didn't like that I couldn't sleep well on my side as it was uncomfortable.
Anyway, eventually I had mine removed, and I actually like my breasts now, even though they are a bit flatter and a bit stretched and I have some scarring.

I'm not telling you this to try and stop you, but I suppose I would say don't expect them to fix all your self esteem issues, and you may not feel better with them even if they turn out how you expect.

I Would think about how you can improve about how you feel about yourself while you save up

If you do decide to go for it fair enough, just pick a reputable surgeon - do not go to Turkey

It's not so much the money, it's yours and you can do what you like with it. It's the pain, the risk, the inconvenience, the fact that implants can leak. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

I’m not a believer in learning to accept something you dislike when you have the option of changing it.

I had a boob job, zero issues and zero regrets 🤷🏻‍♀️it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it matters what you think.

I wouldn't equate the experience of people who've had tummy tucks to having a boob job. Breast augmentation is implanting a foreign object into your body. It's not at all the same.

Not going for an uplift just implants to expensive and even more scarring.

I had one and never regretted it. My boobs were just empty dangling pockets of skin like a 90 year old after I breastfed DS and I was just too embarassed to show them to anyone. I was only 22 and felt like I'd been maimed.
I had a mastopexy which is a breast lift, I didn't really need implants. They still look lovely even thought I'm 61 and I definitely did the right thing.

Big boons are horrible and look cheap. 3 of my friends have had reductions not implants.

*boobs

I would go and speak to a surgeon , I was in a similar situation after losing a lot of weight - the surgeon explained that there were limits on how my breasts would look after surgery as there wasn’t a lot of space from below nipple to my chest so my ‘normal’ breasts would sit on top of the implants - I went ahead with jt and my confidence was really increased

If you want it, go ahead.

But I suggest you research Breast Implant Illness (BII) first.

My god daughter had implants in her late 30s. She just turned 50 and had them removed due to BII. Her symptoms were debilitating and were ruining her life. Within 48 hours after removal her symptoms started to disappear within 2 weeks she was her old sweet and healthy self.

I would love a boob job! I’m really small chested but wide hipped. I just think I’d look so much more in proportion being a cup size or two bigger.

If you want new boobs, go for it. It’s just enhancing what you already have! I don’t see the point in being miserable just for the sake of trying to love your “natural” self.

It sounds like you’re well-balanced in your thoughts on it and life is short. Get the boobs.

(You might want to check out surgeons who do fat transfers if you get worried about BII.)

Kanye west’s mum got refused for surgery by a plastic surgeon a few weeks before she died due to her health she had coronary artery disease as well as multiple post operative factors it wasn’t my just the surgery it was her heart as well and she willing put herself at risk knowing that her heart wasn’t up to it.

Hard one to answer.
Both me and my best friend very almost died from rare complications (both 31 at the time ie last year, me complications of a pneumonia that landed me in ICU, her the regular eye laser surgery (with a reputable clinic and all, she just had an allergic reaction, and for weeks following didn’t know if she would recover anything further than very blurry and painful eyesight (dark, no screens)). Thankfully solved.
So we both decided the cards were off for anything elective (we both did want to save for something ‘small’), because it was honestly traumatising.
As life would have it, she had a brain tumor scare this year, maybe needing a pacemaker for me. So, now we’re definitely in the no way can’t take the sight of a hospital anymore (although neither of us is quite at that stage, but we’re better✌️).

Otherwise I only know a cousin who had a nose job (well, I know of other people, but for her I know more details of the experience as she’s my age also and shared) about 5y ago and she’s still ecstatic.

Needing time to save is probably a good thing, my cousin saved for years.

because mine were big and saggy i had them lifted at 62, still a full on operation. and 100% worth the expense.
in my case the lack of excess breast tissue highlighted the abdominal fat i was carrying and motivated me to shape up. the fact that my breasts were firmly in place allowed me to exercise properly.
so much money i wasted on bra's of all sorts and some excessively priced.
breast surgery has a very high satisfaction and success rate, due to a lack of major blood vessels in the area is generally a very safe operation.

My daughter had them, she started to have a lot of health problems and it took a while for her to realise it was the implants causing it. Had to pay more to have them removed than put in. She's recovered quite a lot but had a lot of auto immune issues. Please read into this and make sure you know what the symptoms are and that you have enough money to get them out if needed. Me and her dad had to contribute or else she'd be still sick with them in.

If it bothers you that much I think you should get it done. Use a reputable surgeon who specialises in this area and don't try to save money on the surgery as good surgeons are in demand and don't have to do cut price deals. I was always a 10A and it has never bothered me. In fact I quite liked it in lots of ways and it probably suited my frame However, after the menopause they grew. I am now a 10D so if I had got implants they would have been simply enormous. A D cup in a 10 is admittedly a lot smaller than a D cup in say a 12 or 14 but it was still a surprise! If I get to an F I'm having them reduced!

I think boob jobs are possibly the saddest thing. Breasts are supposed to be for feeding babies. Maybe you used them to do that, maybe you didn't. But does it really matter what they look like? Why do they need to be bigger? Why don't you want your nose to be bigger, or perhaps your ears, or your feet? Wouldn't a great big head look nice?

I can't answer the question OP but I just hate that our society makes us feel like this. You can bet indigenous women living off grid don't feel like this about the wide variety of body shapes they have, and what nature and gravity does to their boobs. At least not on the same scale.

Mine are small but as long as I keep my tummy in check I'm happy with them. And I focus on the things about me that I perceive as 'good'. I wish I wasn't so critical but I am.

My daughter has issues with her body because she has scoliosis. She hates the way it doesn't quite look symmetrical. That's a real problem for her (and May one day mean she needs risky surgery). So for that reason alone I'd never spend money on a boob job! She needs to know that I'm (outwardly at least) happy with the body cards I've been dealt.