Angry I’ve been shamed on local FB group?

[FrenchFancie]

I’ve just moved to a new area - we’ve been here about two weeks and I’ve just joined the Facebook group for the estate. I had a quick scroll through and found a post from the day we moved in, showing my car (with registration!) and complaining I’d parked badly because there was a small gap between my wheels and the curb - apparently ‘everyone here parks on the kerb and who is this tw@t that doesn’t know it?’ The post admitted that I wasn’t causing an obstruction, but did highlight my bad parking.

the only reply was from someone saying ‘think it’s the new neighbours at X house’.

I’d parked slightly badly because, on my way to the house I’d been hit by another car (from the side, she pulled out of a junction into the main road and straight into me - so not my fault). I’d had to wait to exchange details etc etc and was late for the moving van so just pulled my car up sharpish.

i loved it about 4/5 hours later after the van was gone. It’s a quiet estate with a no through road, so it’s only local traffic.

I’m really cross this man chose to try and shame me in this way. AIBU to be angry and feel like we’ve got off on a really bad start to the new house? Why didn’t he just come and knock and ask me to move it, or just be patient and wait til our moving van had gone?

also - how should I reply? I’ve drafted a really curt response but don’t think this will mend fences, so sitting on it for now!

Don't reply and take yourself off the FB page. I have no idea if my area has a Facebook page because, if it does exist, I see no reason to look at it let alone join it.

As someone who’s been drawn into the ridiculousness of FB groups for housing estates, honestly don’t bother saying anything. It’s never worth it.

Don’t worry. The rest of your neighbours will be eye rolling at the bloke who is always making petty complaints. He’s done you a favour as you can now avoid him rather than getting sucked in by his pettiness.

That is ridiculous but honestly just move past it. Nothing good will come of a curt reply and it'll just give them ammunition/something to gossip about.

Erm, no, parking up over the kerb (if that's what you mean) is ignorant.

Yeah I wouldn’t bother replying and remove yourself from the group.

I’d be glad that no one else replied being nasty or talking about it. Clearly people have better things to do with their day than bother about someone’s parking 🤣

Nothing will come of poking the bear so as annoying as it is I'd leave it.

There's at least one nosy nitpicking neighbour in every street or estate unfortunately yours uses Facebook but at least now you know who to avoid.

Everyone else will probably think he's a twat and if it was a few weeks ago he's probably moved onto another issue. Just focus on making friends with others and integrating into your new neighborhood.

This

And also illegal, I believe!

Don’t go on Facebook.

Don’t reply. These bellends get their energy from arguments
if it’s a group with admin, message privately and ask them to remove the picture or edit it to hide your reg

Yes he meant to park up on the kerb - he made some comment along the lines of ‘leaving space for buggies of course 🙄’ so I get the impression it’s been a bone of contention before. I also thought this was illegal.

i know I shouldn’t let it bother me, I just really hate feeling like I’ve been singled out - and this guy lives really close by, so we have to put up with him!!

1. He has too much time on his hands/ a tiny cock.
2. You do not need to be in any Facebook group at all. Your life will continue without all the dog poo, suspicious van, blah blah shite that people put on there.

I wouldn’t reply but I’d stay on the page for possible future information/laughs.

However if you haven’t officially met yet next time you see him or pass I would say hello and mention it just to see his reaction. Something like ‘oh yes you’re the man who likes to post online about people aren’t you’

Just ignore it. We have a local group where someone took photos of a car and reported it to the police because they thought it was a drug dealer loitering (there was 0 reason to think this was the case) Turned out it was just someone's uncle visiting for the day!

For all you know he's the town lunatic and everyone is rolling their eyes at him and ignoring them. Do not engage in neighbourhood groups- the large anonymous ones are purely for entertainment and information only. Laugh at the ridiculousness of some people's complaints and find out information. Channel the queen- never explain. Obvs complain to yourselves like crazy- but in public don't complain.

This is the best solution. Once the photo is removed leave the group and facebook too if possible.

I live next to one of these idiots.

Just ignore, ignore, ignore!

We have a local fb "parked like a twat" page that was recently started and its hilarious. Full of photos taken by busybodies and I'm waiting for my car to be on there.. 🤣🤣🤣

One woman seems to spend her day going around our little town taking photos to post. It's been pointed out to her that most of her photos are showing cars and vans doing nothing wrong like the emergency gas board van that was slightly up on the pavement (to allow any emergency vehicles to get through) while the men worked on the gas leak..

Don't let it bother you, I would just put a laughing emoji on the post.

According to google, you can start civil proceedings, legal action because the plonker who posted your vehicles' reg without having the sense to pixellate the image first, has violated your data protection and your data can be stollen because its now public..

So the choice is yours, if you get free legal advice you may have a case.

It looks like everyone else is well aware that he’s a dick - nobody replied…. Don’t you reply either. Nobody joins in with him. He just made himself looks stupid…

Why would you respond? What’s the benefit to you of doing that?

If you decide on legal action, get screenshots asap.

Ignore him. Where I am you’ll get shamed FOR parking on the kerb as buggies/ wheelchairs can’t get past, you can’t win

Don't let it sour your new neighbourhood. He's probably just one idiot. There was no queue of people agreeing with him.
There's always one. We have a woman who complains every time the football team play on the football field which they look after and maintain!